I went nc 8 weeks ago with my father after realising how controlling and manipulative he has been over the past 10 years. Lots of incidents but the final straw came when we had to take dd out of private school due to funds and he went ballistic and asked what we had done with all the money he had given us. We live a frugal existence, don't go out, drive fancy cars or take expensive holidays, but I gave up work so that I could be a SAHM and the money we have left we are planning on using to pay the mortgage off as we are in our late forties. The decision to be a SAHM was also taken as I have several medical issues and we thought that would be best for us as a family.
He sent me a text on Sunday asking if he and his wife could take DD away for a week and I did not respond. Last night DD was at my sisters house and he phoned to speak to her dc and then asked to speak to DD. Naturally she allowed him to (dd knows nothing about the fall out and sees him so rarely that it makes no difference to her) but during the call he asked her if she wanted to go. My sister spoke to him after and said how he should not have done that, but he had been drinking and was belligerent saying 'well she's my granddaughter' when she explained that this would cause an issue for her in that she had allowed the conversation she was told 'just sort it'.
I am now in the position of having a very upset daughter and although I have explained that it is not appropriate for her to go away with them I still feel like a shit for being the one to say no.
AIBU to think that it is not acceptable behaviour and that if he is unable to have a healthy relationship with me then why should I trust him with my DD?
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Gone NC and Dad invites my 8 year old on holiday
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suchafuss · 05/08/2015 22:50
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