We have a 9 month old baby and two teens. My evenings consist of doing dinner, feeding the baby, clearing up after the baby, playing with her then putting her to bed. After that, I'm happy to just have a cup of tea, watch a bit of telly, occasionally have a glass of wine then bed.
My wife works ft but shifts so sometimes she's not home until 9.30pm. Other days she's home all day. She says I am boring, that we never do anything exciting, and this makes her just want to drink and smoke outside for half the evening. She wants to split up because I've asked her to cut back a bit. She doesn't drink large quantities of alcohol, my issue is more with the fact that every night she's just in and out of the back door smoking and I'm bored by myself and I'd like her to limit it to say, 3 nights a week.
Aibu to think that this is what life with a baby is like, but it will get better as the baby gets older? The older two are not mine, so it's my first time having a baby. She's done it twice before. She said she only had this one because I wanted it. Now she's realised she doesn't want the lifestyle of being tied to a baby after all. But when I press her on what she wants to do in the evenings that doesn't consist of standing on the back step smoking, she can't come up with anything. She goes out with her friends occasionally, I don't stop her doing that, and we sometimes have early evening meals out together.
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VioletPenguin · 05/08/2015 14:46
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