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Shit - ExDH has stopped the maintenance - where do I post this? AIBU or Relationships?

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xavierfondue Wed 05-Aug-15 11:53:10

That's it, really - where's the best place to start this conversation about wtf I do next?

Hithere123 Wed 05-Aug-15 11:54:46

Does he pay you through cms or just an agreement between yourselves?

Reginafalangie Wed 05-Aug-15 11:55:49

Lone parents maybe?

MaxPepsi Wed 05-Aug-15 11:56:48

Do you know why he has stopped?

Has he told you this, or has it just not appeared in your account?

Could there be a problem with his work? Have the CSA fucked up?

How old are your kids?

xavierfondue Wed 05-Aug-15 11:58:07

Solicitors agreement via divorce contract. Payable each month by DD - he's missed the June, July and now August payment. Sorry, I'll end up dripfeeding if I'm not careful. Am not a lone parent anymore....


MarkRuffaloCrumble Wed 05-Aug-15 11:59:04

If you want sensible reasoned discussion from people who understand and have been through similar, then Lone Parents/Divorce etc

AIBU is tempting for traffic, but will ultimately lead to bitchy comments from people who have never had to rely on an ex and don't understand the intricacies of CMS etc

MarkRuffaloCrumble Wed 05-Aug-15 11:59:42

You may not technically be a lone parent, but they will help you!

xavierfondue Wed 05-Aug-15 12:02:24

Yes Mark I take your point exactly, which is why I asked where I should put this thread whilst trying not to go into too much detail,

Okey dokey, will try Lone Parents/Divorce - thank you x

MaxPepsi Wed 05-Aug-15 12:03:19

Posting here will get you traffic.

Have you spoken to him? Do you know if his circumstances have changed?

He may have changed bank account, be none the wiser that the money is not going out depending on his own finances. (we have a bill account which we don't take much notice of and only balance up every few months)

Is he a twat?

StackladysMorphicResonator Wed 05-Aug-15 12:18:02

Did you contact him when he missed the June payment? What does he say?

xavierfondue Wed 05-Aug-15 12:22:18

Right - whilst typing the other thread I though of something and it was an AIBU so I'll start a new thread xx No more comments here, please, otherwise other people will complain that I'm dripfeeding xx

xavierfondue Wed 05-Aug-15 12:30:58

Sorry, bottled out - will phone solicitor. Sorry!

whois Wed 05-Aug-15 13:09:06

well, that was a total waste of my time clicking into this thread. Thanks Op.

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