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To think my SIL over stepped the mark by assuming we'll be inviting her parents to our wedding?

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lalalemon Mon 03-Aug-15 19:38:06

We're getting married next September so ages away, but still feel she had no right to even ask let alone assume it will actually be happening!

She is DP's brothers girlfriend, we'd popped in to see MiL who they live with when she asked us if we'd be inviting her parents and six brothers to the wedding 'because you've not got much family have you?'

I've never met said parents/brothers, nor do I know their names! DP has met them for all of about 5 minutes! They are mighty fine chavs and live bloody miles away anyway!

Really put us on the spot, I just kind of went 'oh ermm, we've not decided who we're inviting yet' wish I'd said 'you're lucky your being invited you moron!

Obviously we won't be inviting the rest of her family!

TidyDancer Mon 03-Aug-15 19:39:42

You sound lovely.

lalalemon Mon 03-Aug-15 19:40:22

So you think I should be inviting strangers to my wedding?!

DorothyBastard Mon 03-Aug-15 19:41:50

Chavs and morons? Charming.

KindergartenKop Mon 03-Aug-15 19:41:56

I was with you until you mentioned the c word.

NoSOHisadealbreaker Mon 03-Aug-15 19:43:02

So you think I should be inviting strangers to my wedding

Not sure how you got that from Tidy's comment.

YANBU not to invite them. YABVVVVVVU is your sneering attitude towards them.

PercyGherkin Mon 03-Aug-15 19:43:03

YANBU to think that, and she was being very much so.

On the other hand, you might need to work on your attitude to someone who, like it or lump it, you're likely to being seeing plenty of for the years to come.

TidyDancer Mon 03-Aug-15 19:43:56

I think you should take a look at your attitude and language and be grateful she wants to come.

duckydinosaur Mon 03-Aug-15 19:44:39

Fair enough. I wouldn't want random chavs at my wedding either.

lalalemon Mon 03-Aug-15 19:44:58

You've not met the little darling though! I'm nice to her face, because I have to be!

KissMyFatArse Mon 03-Aug-15 19:45:26


Salmotrutta Mon 03-Aug-15 19:47:32

Is a Mighty Fine Chav better than a Standard Chav?

I need to know.

ApocalypseThen Mon 03-Aug-15 19:47:35

Good luck getting anyone to come if you're this unpleasant as a rule.

honeysucklejasmine Mon 03-Aug-15 19:48:31

Sorry OP, I do think she's blooming cheeky to ask.

However, you are just going to get flamed.

For future reference...

Acceptable: cunt, fuck, bastard, wanker, cock etc

Not acceptable: chav, moron

lalalemon Mon 03-Aug-15 19:49:44

But they are chavs and she is a moron, it's not like I'm making it up!

ilovemydoggy Mon 03-Aug-15 19:51:38

We invited my sil parents to the evening but not any other family. My bil had been married to my sil for 4 years before and my dn their dd was my flower girl and my sil parents wanted to see her in her dress.

Salmotrutta Mon 03-Aug-15 19:52:22

It's horrible calling people chavs and morons OP.

You sound judgemental and unpleasant.


lastqueenofscotland Mon 03-Aug-15 19:53:02

Ditto salmotrutta 100%

happymummyone Mon 03-Aug-15 19:53:29

I think there is a difference in considering these people to be chavs and not wanting them to come to wedding because of it and calling them all chavs to their faces. I'm assuming OP didn't do that, so I don't see the problem. She gave them a nice elusive answer, she didn't say 'actually, I'd rather you lot stayed away, quite apart from the fact that I don't know them very well, you're all a bit rough for my liking!'. oP, she was cheeky. You invite who you want to your wedding.

GraysAnalogy Mon 03-Aug-15 19:54:22

Oh as if it's any better to call someone a cunt. God forbid you call someone a chav

AboutTimeIChangedMyNameAgain Mon 03-Aug-15 19:54:43

OP, chav and moron are on the not allowed words list.

Yanbu to be annoyed though. I'm sure it won't be the last thing either so start saying 'no'.

MissDemelzaCarne Mon 03-Aug-15 19:54:51

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FarelyKnuts Mon 03-Aug-15 19:55:05

Invite whoever you like but please stop using disabilist language to describe someone you dislike!

everyonesfriend Mon 03-Aug-15 19:55:12

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ThroughThickAndThin01 Mon 03-Aug-15 19:55:37

YANBU, of course you can't invite them, nobody would invite people they don't know. Be firm next time she mentions it, don't let it drag on.

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