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to switch off when DD2 starts talking about her latest obsession

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ghostyslovesheep · 31/07/2015 09:08

Drives me mad - she doesn't just like things she becomes utterly obsessive - and talks endlessly about it - Pokamon, Moshi Monsters, Football, Minecraft...

Currently it's Hamsters - she has save up money to buy one (I haven't said she can) she's been online for days researching them and even got herself a little cage (on the pretence of it being for the guinea pig when she had it in her room)

I love the little loony madly but she's been talking hamster facts for 2 days straight and I am going mad!

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LegoLady95 · 31/07/2015 09:10

I have this with DS2. The worse was Angry Birds. I just tell him that not everybody is as interested in (insert current obsession) as he is.

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ghostyslovesheep · 31/07/2015 09:11

yes I've just had that conversation! She even messages me when she's at her dads! Last night it went on for an hour!

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IndridCold · 31/07/2015 09:13

DS can carry on hour long monologues on his latest favourite game/you tubers, especially irritating on long car journeys.

I just zone out, but as he's 16 it's quite nice that he is bothering to talk to me Smile.

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ProfessorPickles · 31/07/2015 09:15

I do this still as an adult mostly just to my parents about various films/TV series/hobbies/career possibilities. I know I need to stop but I can't Blush

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SideOrderofChips · 31/07/2015 09:41

As an adult who does this, i can only apologise for those like me.

Its not that we want to bore you its just that we are so single minded that its all we can think about, look at and research. At this time of year its Christmas for me and my baby due in September. Then it goes to bithdays. Or Cross stitch, or horses....i just can't help myself.

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RachelRagged · 31/07/2015 09:56

lol

OP I understand. My youngest (12) varies between non stop talk of Minecraft to attempting to explain, over and over, the intricies (spelt wrong?) of certain online games

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Delilahfandango · 31/07/2015 10:01

I've spent the last 20 odd years zoning out of such conversations with my kidsBlush tbh, I do it to my DH as well - if he's rabbiting on about what he's done at work or anything to do with engines of any description!

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ghostyslovesheep · 31/07/2015 10:11

I've managed to curtail the yammering by agreeing to yet another trip to Pets at Home to look at the bloody things!

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Charley50 · 31/07/2015 10:11

I do it to my DS when he's taking about his computer games. He could be speaking another language tbh.

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WoonerismSpit · 31/07/2015 10:16

you're going to get a hamsterrrrrr Grin

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Dawndonnaagain · 31/07/2015 10:19

I've just been asked for a seventh fish tank!
She isn't here, she's at her boyfriend's place!

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ghostyslovesheep · 31/07/2015 10:22

haha - no I am NOT I am aren't I?

She has 4 fish and between them we also have 3 guinea pigs and 4 cats Hmm

we move house in a week - so I've been putting her off ..

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kissmethere · 31/07/2015 10:22

Yep same here it's non stop. I try take it all in, especially when after a long explanation I'm asked which isy favourite Hmm

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ghostyslovesheep · 31/07/2015 10:23

and yes Damn at one point we had 4 tanks! I've whittled it down to one now ...for now Grin

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ghostyslovesheep · 31/07/2015 10:23

DAMN! Dawn sorry!

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WoonerismSpit · 31/07/2015 10:25

You so are!

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Fatmomma99 · 31/07/2015 10:27

You sooooooooooo are

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twinkletoedelephant · 31/07/2015 10:27

DTS have ASD and ADHD all day it switch's from Minecraft to skylanders Pokémon and back to skylanders..... All day long.

The talk about/write about/paint/draw/make models/act out scenes its never ending

Then they discovered stampy YouTube videos

I have perfected a vacent stare whilst nodding smiling and doing the weekly shopping list in my head :-)

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skrumle · 31/07/2015 10:31

yes - utterly unreasonable. when my DS (8) wishes to discuss with me the updated headwear available to the birds in the new level he has reached in Angry Birds Epic I immediately cease work/housework/watching TV to discuss this in detail, including how I would personally prefer to see the headwear develop if I collected 25 gold coins. Wine

reassuring thread actually - cause DS is definitely this type. scarily i think he might have got the tendency from me, but he takes it to a whole new level. worst bit is that every so oftenafter 15 minutes of nodding and saying "mm-hm" he'll suddenly ask me to repeat everything he's just told me...

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youarekiddingme · 31/07/2015 10:32

My DS (10) has ASD and this is the norm in my house. I do switch off and thanks to the ASD he doesn't actually notice Blush.

I tell him to research stuff and costs etc and come up with a saving plan and record it. Once he's done that I let him get whatever it is. But then again he isn't a pet person so I don't end up with pets I'm babysitting!

Get a cute Syrian hamster!

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ghostyslovesheep · 31/07/2015 10:33

he'll suddenly ask me to repeat everything he's just told me

oh my goodness that's a whole new level of hell! It's like machines developing conciousness - kids realising you aren't listening to a word they say!

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TheyreMadITellYouMaaaad · 31/07/2015 10:37

I'm perfecting my Stare. I don't like telling my dc that I'm not interested in what they're telling me, but, at the same time, ConfusedConfusedConfusedConfused. So I look at them while they monologue. Give them total, wordless, unblinking focus. Eventually they might notice, pause, and say "I'm monologuing, aren't I?" or "I'm monopolising the conversation, aren't I?". Yup.

Trouble is, even if they recognise this, it can be really difficult for them to switch tracks and change the subject, or even just to switch off and shut up.

Welcome to ATC (Asperger Traits Central).

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RachelWatts · 31/07/2015 10:38

DS1 keeps asking what mod I would make for Minecraft...

After staring round the room for a few seconds for inspiration, I say "Er - maybe a railway?" I get a look of withering disdain and he says "There's already a railway mod! I already told you about it!"

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ghostyslovesheep · 31/07/2015 10:40

yes she has been working with CAMH's around her anxiety and obsessions - they have concluded she doesn't have aspergers as she's very social and chatty - it's more linked to her anxiety - the obsessions seem to go hand in hand with being stressed - we are currently moving house so it's ratcheted up a notch

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