DP's younger brother and his wife are deeply unpleasant people. They have made a hobby of trying to stir up trouble for DP and his siblings. For example, when other BIL and his wife were going on holiday to try and save their troubled marriage, nasty brother and his wife convinced SIL (who suffers from serious mental health issues) that the reason BIL was bringing her on holiday was that he planned to drown her in the lake. That's just the tip of the horrid iceberg.
They have sent repeated texts to DP, his siblings, and our nieces and nephews suggesting that they hope we all die. Then cut contact with all of us. And now wail to anyone who will listen that their family abandoned them.
Increadibly, DP's parents have chosen to almost completely cut contact with the rest of their children, so as to appease this son and his wife.
So last week it was FIL's birthday. DP's sister lives over an hour away, so confirmed with her parents that they would be home at a certain time on a particular day. She drove over an hour with FIL's birthday present, and when she arrived PIL's weren't there. When she phoned her Mum, she was told that nasty BIL and SIL wanted to go for breakfast, so they went.
Tonight, DP went to drop his Dad's birthday present around (he's been very busy with work, hence not doing it sooner). His Mum told him they would be home from 21:30. At 21:50 we arrived at their house. PILs car wasn't in the drive, but nasty BIL's was, and we could clearly see that he and his wife were in the sitting (lights on, curtains open). We rang the doorbell and knocked the door several times, they looked right out at us but didn't answer the door. DP phoned his Mum a couple of times and she didn't answer. He's letting on that he doesn't care, but I can tell he's upset.
How can PIL treat their children so horribly. DP and his sister have recently talked about cutting contact with them. I insisted that this was a bad idea, as there's no coming back from it. AIBU to think that they might be right, and, as SIL said, that their parents are just horrible to their children and don't deserve to be given any more chances?
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To think DP's parents are being utterly horrible to their children
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ShadowsCollideCantLogInToMN · 27/07/2015 23:33
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