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To contemplate having this difficult conversation with elderly NDN's family?

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Dampfloor Mon 27-Jul-15 21:58:30

We're in the middle of having some work done on our house and the builders have found the floor in the utility room is soaking and the floorboards and stud walls are rotten.

We're having the cause traced but it looks like it could be the roots of two giant conifers (think 35ft+) in our NDN's garden which have either grown through a pipe or caused water to leak from one of the ponds.

Now, we know that these trees have sentimental value to the neighbour and she's very elderly and housebound.

I feel bad raising it with her family.

Even if the trees haven't caused damage, they also severely block out our light (and our NDN's light the other side).

WIBU to broach it with her family?

Just want advice really and to ask WWYD?

missymayhemsmum Mon 27-Jul-15 22:12:06

You are going to have to raise the issue. Don't tell me, Christmas trees planted by the kids 30 odd years ago? Apart from anything else, do you need to claim on insurance? Presumably there may also be damage to her house, which may be the place to start. Have a chat with the other NDN and see if you can arrange a proper chat with the NDN and her family over a cup of tea, rather than trying to catch them over the fence. - along the lines of can we meet up? I have a problem I don't want to worry your mum about but thought you ought to know.....

Dampfloor Mon 27-Jul-15 22:17:11

Thank you missy.

You're pretty much bang on about the trees - not Christmas trees but you're on the right track! (don't want to out myself though).

She's very frail and the family are very worried about her - but I think it needs to be said. It would be a huge bonus to everyone, including them in the long run, if the trees were taken down.

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