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Can I ask what was your cut off age for ttc your last child?

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FragrantBreeze Mon 27-Jul-15 21:45:48

Am really interested in this!

I'm 36 and would like to ttc number 3.

Sadly I've just had a MMC so I'm wondering if ttc is a good idea. I'm do feel fit, healthy and young but wonder if my body agrees!

The miscarriage has really thrown me. I've had two straightforward pregnancies with dc1&2, now 2 and 7 months.

Would appreciate honest opinions on this.

Thanks

PiperIsTerrysChoclateOrange Mon 27-Jul-15 21:48:23

For me it was 24.

I know that is young but after my 2nd didn't want anymore.

Some people it will be in their 40's some people 50's

I'm sorry for your loss.

LuckyLopez Mon 27-Jul-15 21:48:46

Probably not the right person to ask! I wanted to be done by the time I was 30, and I was.

I didn't really have one, I was 37 and 39 when mine were born.

lemonpoppyseed Mon 27-Jul-15 21:50:02

DH and I started trying for DC2 when I was 38. We agreed that if nothing had happened by the time I had turned 40, we would stop trying. We conceived DD about five months later, and she has just turned one. I think it's definitely worth having the conversation before you start TTCing again...

fourtothedozen Mon 27-Jul-15 21:51:19

I had my first child at 38. I would say that your two children will be increasingly demanding in there next few years to come. Babies are relatively easy to look after, a 2 year old and a 4 year old takes more energy.
They also get very costly- especially when they get to 10, 12 and the teenage years.

Meredithgraze Mon 27-Jul-15 21:51:27

I haven't had my last child yet (well hopefully, like you have had m/c's) but 40 would be my cut off

scarlets Mon 27-Jul-15 21:52:00

I made no specific plans, but I ttc for the last time at 32/33 and in retrospect that was right for me. Fwiw I dint think you're on the old side at all!

SocialMediaAddict Mon 27-Jul-15 21:52:30

Mine ended up being 31 as I had twins and didn't want anymore. I always thought 35 would be my cut off.

Pugthug Mon 27-Jul-15 21:53:20

38

SnapesCapes Mon 27-Jul-15 21:54:49

34, which is now. I just feel that beyond this my body will be less equipped and the age gaps will be too large.

We had DS2 4 and a half years ago, haven't used any protection since and haven't had a 3rd child. We've very deliberately not tried consciously, I thought if it was going to happen it would. It's not. I'm taking the hint and DH is off for the snip in a fortnight.

Rockinghorse123 Mon 27-Jul-15 21:54:52

I'm pg with dc2 and plan to have a third. We've said we want to be done by the time I'm 35 (30 now) but that's more to do with the age gap between the dc than my age.

AngieBolen Mon 27-Jul-15 21:55:03

I'm 43, and feel physically I could have another, although I don't want any more DC. I think my cut off would be 45.

scatterthenuns Mon 27-Jul-15 21:55:40

Menopause... thats the point of it, surely?

ShatnersBassoon Mon 27-Jul-15 21:55:56

I wanted our family to be complete when I was in my 20s. I didn't trust my own body enough to leave it until I was older.

ShelaghTurner Mon 27-Jul-15 21:56:03

So sorry about your mc flowers

I wanted to be done by 40. A mc put paid to that and in the event I had my second at 40 and 3 months. I was 36 when I had my first.

Would have liked another but for me, especially given my (zero) level of fitness and high BMI, I didn't feel that any more was a good idea.

306235388 Mon 27-Jul-15 21:56:34

I wanted to be finished by 29 and I was but now I'm 34 and my youngest is about to start school I'm wavering but dh isn't and financially it'd be stupid.

I'm very sorry for your loss.

pickingstrawberries Mon 27-Jul-15 21:58:26

I don't think age would bother me. My cut off would be when my family was complete, if you see what I mean? Sorry about your miscarriage flowers

MadameJosephine Mon 27-Jul-15 21:58:45

For me it was 40.....

I was 41 when I had DD grin

TheHouseOnBellSt Mon 27-Jul-15 21:59:44

I'm also 43 and know that physically I could have another child...I don't think I will because financially it's not a good move and we have 2...but if I was going to try, I'd stop at 45.

Suefla62 Mon 27-Jul-15 22:01:38

Told my husband when our youngest was 1.5 that it was now or never. He chose never.

rosy71 Mon 27-Jul-15 22:04:12

I had mine at 33 & 36. We did discuss having a 3rd but I felt I would need an age gap of 4-5 years which would make me 40-41. I didn't want another sooner; felt it would be too hard. When I reached 40, it was as if a switch had flicked & I no longer had any desire to have another. So i suppose it was 40 for me.

ThePortlyPinUp Mon 27-Jul-15 22:08:52

I always said I'd stop once I reached 30, I ended up with 4dd's by the time I was 26 and had 2 mc's before we decided enough was enough.

greenfolder Mon 27-Jul-15 22:09:37

Dd1 I had at 26 dd2 at 29. I started trying for dc3 at 36 with the idea of having numbers 3 and 4 before 40. Finally fell pregnant at 39 and had dd3 nearer 40. Decided to count blessings. I had decided I would try until I was 40 then move on with my life. Whether I actually would is difficult to say.

RosePetels Mon 27-Jul-15 22:12:08

For me probably 40-45

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