I've known A for 10 years, former work colleagues, kindred spirits. Liked partying together, even after she married quite young, loads in common.
We had babies a year apart, her first, 6 years ago.
Weirdly, I was the one with bad PND and anxiety, meds, counselling etc. I'm well recovered now.
From day one with a baby she started talking in cliches "you NEVER stop worrying" "I'd NEVER put my child in a nursery" "I didn't have kids for someone else to rear them" etc, all said as I chatted about returning to work ... Again, weirdly, I was the one who ebf and coslept and all that so-called attachment stuff while she didn't. I was dying to get back to work!
I got past those comments and carried on as normal.
She's since had another and has gone up a notch. I understand some mums are more laid back but I think she's overprotective to the point of damaging. Won't allow her 6 year old go to soft play, or park playgrounds, or summer camp, won't go on holiday in case the plane/car crashes.
Bought a swing set yet scolds him for running or going down the slide too fast.
I feel like the worst mother in the world as I drink tea and eat cake while she's fussing over our 6 and 5 year olds for doing what boisterous boys do.
I'm supposed to be the anxious one with just a PFB and a history of mental illness... Yet I'm so tired of her imagined dramas and catastrophes.
I've found myself limiting contact because play dates with other friends and their kids are, well, much more fun and far more relaxed.
We haven't been out without kids for over a year, she won't leave hers, which is fine and understandable.
Has this friendship run its course? Is it my fault for thinking she's bloody hard work?
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To think different parenting styles has killed my friendship?
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Getyercoat · 27/07/2015 20:56
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