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PebbleTTC Mon 27-Jul-15 18:34:58

Hi all, posting here for traffic. I gave birth to my first child last Wednesday, came home from hospital Friday evening and every evening since Friday evening I keep crying. I'm so scared I don't know what to do, I don't even know why I feel this way. My baby is so beautiful and I feel worse for feeling this way but I feel like I shouldn't have gotten pregnant that I wasn't ready and now I could fuck this poor baby's life up or maybe I won't be able to look after him properly.

Someone please help me does this feeling pass, my poor husband doesn't know what to do I just can't stop getting upset

mmollytoots Mon 27-Jul-15 18:38:30

I got this about two weeks right after birth one day I had a big crying fit and got it all out of my system.

it's just your hormones settling it will pass

summersnowshowers Mon 27-Jul-15 18:39:22

Aww its most likely baby blues. If it helps i have a newborn myself and i keep weeping for no reason or biting my husbands head off.

If you still feel like that in a week mention it to your midwife or hv (i say that as someone who struggled with pnd with my first)

Dont beat yourself up its still very early days

mmollytoots Mon 27-Jul-15 18:39:38

I was upset that people wanted to hold my baby etc and she wasn't protected inside me. that hit me hard but its completely normal so don't worry.

If you feel it lasts longer than a few weeks or months etc Ser your gp

AlwaysSpoiled34 Mon 27-Jul-15 18:40:29

It is a very difficult time but you will eventually feel better. Ask your family and friends for support, eat properly, get as much rest as possible. It will get better, I promisesmile

formerbabe Mon 27-Jul-15 18:42:16

The first week or so I kept randomly bursting into tears...its normal! Like another poster said, if it continues, then see your gp.

Congratulations on your baby!

TattyDevine Mon 27-Jul-15 18:46:12

First week its pretty normal to feel a bit bonkers like this!

If it doesn't pass after a few weeks you would be right to feel concerned.

As for the things you are thinking, that's pretty normal. I remember thinking "what have I done, I've ruined my life"

But I hadn't, life is great! Kids are great.

It will probably pass. Congrats on your little one!

Nevercallmehun Mon 27-Jul-15 18:52:17

The first six weeks are hard. Some people are fine but it can be very difficult. Hopefully the teary days will get fewer and you'll begin to feel back to yourself again over time. Don't give yourself a hard time about it, it is fairly normal. Don't hesitate to talk to your health visitor about it if you're struggling.

Congratulations. flowers

geekymommy Mon 27-Jul-15 18:53:42

I got this right around when my milk came in. I had a C section on a Thursday morning and got very weepy Saturday night, and the next morning my milk had come in. I got something very similar a couple of days after DD was born three years ago.
You might also be having the tiredness hit you- having a newborn is well known to be exhausting.
Of course you feel like you don't know what to do- you've never done this before!

Beautifulbabyboy Mon 27-Jul-15 20:09:35

Totally normal. Every night at 7pm I had a big cry for about 6 weeks post the birth of my first. I wasn't depressed or unhappy. It was just the hormones!!! They do settle eventually. :-))

PebbleTTC Tue 28-Jul-15 02:00:50

Thanks everyone for the replies, I went to bed for an hour after I posted a few more tears and I feel ok (ish) again!

GiraffesAndButterflies Tue 28-Jul-15 02:11:35

flowers Pebble.

You are being absolutely bombarded with hormones right now. Don't feel bad about yourself for reacting to that, it's totally normal. And as PP have said, it should pass soon, and if it doesn't, tell your hv. They will have seen it all before, they won't judge you, and they can help. smile

Hippymama1 Tue 28-Jul-15 02:19:13

Awww op... Let it out and have a good cry if you feel like it... Nothing really to add as agree with pps on hormones and speaking to your hv or midwife.

My baby is just over 3 weeks old and I felt like this for the first couple of weeks. Everything will settle down soon. Try to get some sleep and take care of yourself - I'm sure you will feel better soon. flowers

Mermaidhair Tue 28-Jul-15 03:29:54

It is completely normalflowers I was like that with 3 of my 4 babies. Congratulations on your ds. Things will get easier, it is a huge shock when you first become a mummy.

Fuckup Tue 28-Jul-15 09:01:59

I remember it well op, 3rd day after my lo was born and I just felt so empty and low. People who had come to visit LO were quite concerned asking if I was OK because I just couldn't smile, or even talk very well. It wasn't how I expected to feel at all but it did pass.

littlefrenchonion Tue 28-Jul-15 21:49:15

Yep! Normal! I distinctly remember wailing 'What have I donnnneee?' at my DH and then wailing even more because I felt like the worst mother in the world. This came after my collegue visited and waxed lyrical about her immediate bond with her DC, which didn't happen for me.

3 months on, she is the light of my life and I wouldn't have it any other way.

It'll pass, hang in there flowers

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