Basically I have been with DP for two years now. I am a single parent and my DD was three months old when I met DP. His family are very conservative even though they plead that they aren't. DP has a sister and a brother and his parents. DP's brother has consistently bullied him through his childhood and teenage years and is the reason DP has no self confidence. DP's brother also has a son the same age as my DP. None of them like me. Things started off well for the first few months before they started calling me controlling and telling DP that we should split up. I have severe MH problems that get worse when out of a routine or things are sprung upon me so yes, I do like things a certain way but DP and I have discussed this many times and he is absolutely fine with it and very understanding. Their insistence on me being 'a bully' has caused numerous fall outs between me and DP as I get so upset and take it to heart as I just wanted them to like me. DP's brother called me a slut and a bad mother several times. I am neither.
DP then went away for six months for very stressful work and I had very little contact with his family. While he was away DP's brother texted him an unprovoked attack on me putting more stress on DP.
DP and I toddled along dodging verbal attacks one after another from his DP in a cycle of forgiving him and him doing it again everyone he got frustrated with life. The breaking point was a few months ago when he took to Facebook and commented on a public picture asking why my DD couldn't spend any time with her own family instead of his (I have a troubled family life) and said that it was pathetic that DP's mum had started caring for DD very occasionally. We obviously cut off contact after this.
I fell pregnant in January of this year and had a troubled pregnancy until I gave birth to our sleeping daughter in May. The feud was forgotten and even though they were no support they did not make things worse either. We had a funeral for her and went for a meal afterwards with DP's mother and sister and his mother told me off for using my fork incorrectly hours after my daughters funeral. Less than a month afterwards DP's brother was throwing rocks at DP who was holding my DD so we left, again cutting off contact.
DP and I bought our first home together after losing our daughter and we are set to exchange contracts this week. He is also planning our engagement. His family have been messaging him trying to encourage him to drop out of the sale. Obviously DP called them out on it and put them back in their place but to be honest it is the last straw for me. I have been verbally abused for two years when I have done nothing but try to make these people like me. WIBU to go no contact? Do I have ground to tell DP that he can see them whenever but I do not want to anymore?
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crumblybiscuits · 27/07/2015 12:00
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