My 'DH' often decides to go to the pub after work for half an hour or an hour. To his mind that is perfectly ok as it's not very long. Even half an hour in the pub ( and it rarely is only that long!) means he doesn't get home until 8pm at the earliest.
We have a toddler and another baby on the way. I also work and have to leave early every night to collect the toddler. If my husband doesn't get home until 8pm or later I have to do the bedtime routine by myself. This involves at least 30 minutes of trying to get the toddler to sleep but sometimes an hour.
So my day basically goes - up get myself and toddler ready, work and nursery, rush home ( a commute), sort out nursery bag, sort things at home ie pets, feed toddler, bath toddler, try to get toddler to sleep, prepare dinner, eat then collapse into bed myself.
If my husband is home he can take over bath and bedtime or cook dinner so we eat at a reasonable time. If he decides to go to the pub I end up doing it all and get no downtime at all.
We end up arguing about this all the time as it really annoys me that he thinks he can just decide to go to the pub whenever he wants. He thinks it's completely ok if it's not for long. But he is totally blind to the impact even an hour in the pub for him has on me. I'm not saying he can never go out. He does frequently. But I think these things need to be planned in advance. If I want to do anything in the evening I have to pre book it so that my husband leaves work early to do nursery pick up. I can never spontaneously decide to do things, so I do feel it's unfair that he thinks he has that right because I'm already at home to do the childcare.
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holidaysareoverated · 25/07/2015 07:06
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