Talk

Advanced search

Unplanned pregnancy

(12 Posts)
GothicRainbow Fri 24-Jul-15 21:31:19

I found out last week that I am pregnant, it was unexpected and I am freaking out slightly.

My DH works very long hours with a long commute, we live in a small 2 up, 2 down terrace and we already have a 2 year old DS.

AIBU to be worried about having the space for a new addition and how I will cope with it all?

My DH seems to think I am and that all will be fine - but then he is out of the house for 14 hours a day!!

selsigfach Fri 24-Jul-15 21:54:46

Yanbu to be anxious about having another baby when you're on your own for so much of the day (my husband works away half the week, it's hard) but the bedroom thing seems to be a non-issue. Even if you end up with a boy and girl, they can share until they're about 10. That's plenty of time to think about moving if you need to. Best of luck with whatever you decide to do.

GothicRainbow Fri 24-Jul-15 22:03:10

Unfortunately the bedroom is an issue. We have a medium sized master bedroom that just about fits our double bed, wardrobe and a chest of drawers.

Our second bedroom is a box room that fits my DS' toddler bed & a small set of drawers. I don't think we could fit our double bed in the room even without other furniture so it wouldn't even be possible to swap rooms in the future - argh!

The amount of time my DH is out of the house does worry me, already I'm thinking about how the hell I will manage bedtime - my DS can be difficult to get to sleep at the best of times!

Penfold007 Fri 24-Jul-15 22:07:16

OP what do you want to do?

GothicRainbow Fri 24-Jul-15 22:14:20

In terms of the baby? We'll be moving forwards with the pregnancy. I don't want to abort the baby, we always planned on having a brother or sister for DS but not for a few more years - just feeling unprepared and overwhelmed I suppose.

inmyshoos Fri 24-Jul-15 22:54:31

You'll be fine op. You'll muddle through. Get out of the house as much as possible when baby comes (toddler groups etc) There will be a way to fit a baby into your wee house. I had 3 dc in one room for a long time and looking back they were lovely times. Congratulations btw x

PtolemysNeedle Fri 24-Jul-15 22:59:16

I felt very similar when I found out it as pregnant with my second, but just as you found your ways of doing things and getting a round be going when you had your first baby, you will find the ways to make it work when you have your second.

It is daunting, and it can remember thinking that certain tasks were just going to be impossible with a baby and a toddler, but they really weren't. And even with the things that were more tricky, it never lasted long because they grow and change so much so quickly.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Fri 24-Jul-15 23:53:02

Oh you might be shocked now but just you wait until they put that baby in your arms. You'll be absolutely thrilled to bits with him/her.
Congratulations. Send some baby dust my way. grin

GothicRainbow Sat 25-Jul-15 12:35:34

Thanks everyone, I feel in a better place this morning and have discussed with DH putting some of our bigger pieces furniture in storage when the baby arrives so we have abit more space in our living room.

I suppose the main thing is feeling totally blind-sided by the whole thing. We've always planned the big things in our lives and this has come completely out of the blue!

Pengweng Sat 25-Jul-15 13:53:46

Congratulations!!

Can you have baby in with you for the first 6-9 months? Would a small space saver cot fit in your room somehow?

One of the IKEA low bunks would work in the kids room if you had space for a full length bed as you could then slide bubbas cot in underneath it and it wouldn't be too high for DS who would be nearly 4 by then. Then it could turn into a bunk when you put a mattress on the floor.

Good luck. All will be ok.

GothicRainbow Sun 26-Jul-15 22:07:23

Thanks pengweng I dug out all my old maternity clothes today which has definitely helped with the excitement levels.

We were also visited by my DH's DBro and DSIL at the weekend. They currently live an hour and 45mins further north than we do and seem to think we could sell our current house and we would easily get a much bigger 3 bed property near by them.

We had a look on rightmove tonight and it does seem to be the case. We've found a property that looks perfect and is near a very good school.

We're actually very tempted to go and see it but I do have reservations about moving that far away from my family - who currently live 10/20mins away, especially my DSis and DM as they have been invaluable helping me with DS and also it's been lovely seeing his relationship grow with his grandparents.

It's a tough decision whether space and a nicer home outweighs being near grandparents.

Tinandgonic Mon 27-Jul-15 22:09:48

Congratulations OP. It will be fine and you'll get through it xxx

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now