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eeyoreandpoohbear Thu 23-Jul-15 22:20:14

I took my son to Drs yesterday after a fall in the park - big group of boys playing football all from school as end of term. I didn't see it but he fell ( tripping/fallen/got pushed,not sure which, over another child) and landed on his back and bumped his head, he seemed fine but kept complaining it hurt. To be on safe side I popped into Drs as was on doorstep and got a quick appointment for him to be checked. I have three dcs, all boys, this was my middle son and he really didn't want to go in and was cross with me, in tears etc. Dr we saw wanted to know if he was always like that on visiting Dr, she looked at his back which has a big scrape down it from a child at school and he has a small mark on lower back - he told her scrape was from school and said the other mark was football, they tend to assume any bruises occur from football! As I was leaving she asked me if he was known to social services. I didn't think at the time but now I am upset and cross - I appreciate they have a job to do but we have never seen her before and we aren't frequently in there with injuries etc, I only took him cause I was worriedsad am I being unreasonable to be a bit cross? I felt she judged me immediatelysad

SoupDragon Thu 23-Jul-15 22:23:58

Every time I take a child to minor injuries they ask if they are known to social services.

It is their job.

gamerchick Thu 23-Jul-15 22:24:04

Well I always get asked that if I have to take one of the kids to a&e.. I thought it was a standard question these days. I don't know about the GPs though.

I honestly wouldn't think about it too much though.

FarFromAnyRoad Thu 23-Jul-15 22:24:55

She judged what she saw with her eyes. It will be part of her remit to question and act upon injuries on children. You should understand that and be thankful. I think YABU - you didn't hurt your child, you have nothing to hide right? So no need to get all uppity about the Dr doing her job is there.

LaurieFairyCake Thu 23-Jul-15 22:25:22

Totally normal. I'm a foster carer and they always ask me too.

No offence is intended.

eeyoreandpoohbear Thu 23-Jul-15 22:27:32

Fair enough, I haven't been asked before, now I know - thank yousmile

Jollyphonics Thu 23-Jul-15 22:28:34

How old is your son?

LilyMayViolet Thu 23-Jul-15 22:29:11

I've been asked that about dd at hospital before. Not at the Drs but I've never taken her for an injury as such. It's probably routine.

AnyoneforTurps Thu 23-Jul-15 22:29:13

Because, of course, everyone who is abusing their DC goes to the GP loads and never pretends the injuries were caused by football? hmm

I appreciate that it was a surprise for you, but think about all the abused kids out there. Sometimes an alert nurse or GP is the only thing that stands between them and a whole childhood of violence.

eeyoreandpoohbear Thu 23-Jul-15 22:29:49


LilyMayViolet Thu 23-Jul-15 22:31:48

Anyone, that is the point isn't it really? It's very uncomfortable for the vast majority of people who are caring loving parents but necessary because some aren't.

TheoriginalLEM Thu 23-Jul-15 22:33:53

I was asked this too, one time i took DD to minor injuries, she had bitten through her tongue poor thing. I hadn't been asked before (there had been a few other incidents blush) but the nurse just said they have to ask. DP was a bit miffed but i was more concerned in getting DD transferred to the nearest A&E, 30 miles away hmm. Another time (ooops - she got trodden on by a horse) the nurse commented that she was pretty accident prone! Trouble is, she is pretty robust health wise so the only time i have had to take her to medics is for minor injuries so that is all that appears on her notes. I must look like a pretty careless mother!

HippyChickMama Thu 23-Jul-15 22:41:58

I'm an A&E nurse and it's one of the questions on the paperwork. I imagine GPs also have to ask when any child attends with an injury, HCPs as a whole are being made more responsible for child protection screening since the much publicised cases of preventable child deaths.

DoeEyedNear Thu 23-Jul-15 23:06:45

Standard question in my experience when accessing urgent primary care with my dc

SistersofPercy Thu 23-Jul-15 23:12:52

I've spent a lot of time in A&E with a hypermobile dd who dislocates often. I'm always asked, and was asked last time we visited and she was 17!

borisgudanov Fri 24-Jul-15 13:58:44

I've been asked more often if the child is known to Father Christmas than to Social Services.

AuntyMag10 Fri 24-Jul-15 14:02:31

If you appreciate that they have a job to do then why are you complaining about it rather than understanding?

DonkeyOaty Fri 24-Jul-15 14:04:52

Boris I don't understand that quip confused

OP yup is standard partic wrt injuries that could present as inflicted as opposed to self inflicted iyswim

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