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Put up pregnant on Facebook?

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ByeByeButterfly Wed 22-Jul-15 16:30:01

AIBU because I don't think I am but honestly not sure.

I am 11 weeks pregnant and posted on Facebook I'm pregnant (I know Facebook--groan).

We had only previously told my parents, DPs parents and my sister.

Now my Dad is annoyed I didn't pre warn him that I was posting it up as he wanted to tell his Mum (my Gran) first.

Firstly, I never told him he couldn't tell her and he never asked.

Secondly, I haven't told my Mums Mum or my Mums sister - my aunt - either.

I posted as got a hen do this weekend and wanted people to know why I could not drink.

Should I have pre warned him or was it my choice to make?

If it was my partner annoyed or not pre warned id agree but my Dad? What do you think?

moooolah Wed 22-Jul-15 16:32:33

I think it's your news to do whatever you want with.

But if you've got a fairly close family I wouldn't personally announce on social media before sharing the news with my nan or aunt..


nmg85 Wed 22-Jul-15 16:33:04

Entirely your decision in my opinion.

BlueKarou Wed 22-Jul-15 16:33:52

It's your news for you to tell people whenever and however you want to.

midnightvelvetPart2 Wed 22-Jul-15 16:34:38

Congratulations [flower]

yanbu, perhaps he thought he had another week & you wouldn't announce it until the traditional 12 weeks? Is your Gran on fb? Its not really up to your dad how you choose to share your news tbh

SaulGood Wed 22-Jul-15 16:36:05

Nobody's being unreasonable. It is your pregnancy and you are free to announce it however you choose.

That said, I can see where your Dad is coming from. I would never have put a thing on FB (in fact FB was never informed I was pregnant) until my Grandmas knew. I see it as common courtesy to tell nearest and dearest first, in person if possible. This includes grandparents. This is only personal opinion though. You see things differently and that's not wrong.

hellsbellsmelons Wed 22-Jul-15 16:38:53

I wouldn't be announcing anything at 11 weeks.
But it's your news and your body so entirely up to you.
Don't let anyone guilt you about it.

ByeByeButterfly Wed 22-Jul-15 16:39:08

She's on Facebook yes.

I mentioned to Mum a few days ago I was going to announce it but didn't state when just soon.

Maybe thought the 12 weeks stage but then even so I feel it was my news to share.

The annoying thing is he phoned Mum up to complain about it to her, not me!

I understand he's like to tell his Mum - I'd be happy for him to have told her after 9 week scan but Dad never discussed it.

Maybe should've told aunt and gran first - we are close but talk every few weeks. I guess it feels a bit awkward announcing it individually.

ReginaBlitz Wed 22-Jul-15 16:40:22

I find it pretty cringe tbh when people announce things like this on fb but each to their own. Yabu for announcing it too early regardless

ByeByeButterfly Wed 22-Jul-15 16:41:20

Would've waited to announce til started to show but with the hen do it seemed to make sense. Plus why I felt nauseous.

SaulGood Wed 22-Jul-15 16:42:05

Oh if she's on FB, I'd definitely say that it would have been nice to tell her first. Her grandaughter's having a baby and she finds out on social media. It's just a bit impersonal. No harm done but I don't think anybody's particularly unreasonable.

ByeByeButterfly Wed 22-Jul-15 16:42:28

I didn't realise 11/12 weeks was too early or there was a set too early stage.

Friend announced hers at 8 weeks. Each to their own.

Nottalotta Wed 22-Jul-15 16:42:46

Its totally up to you how you announce your pregnancy, but I can see why your dad would have wanted his mum told personally. I hate Facebook pregnancy announcements myself and haven't done one, but that's irrelevant!

ByeByeButterfly Wed 22-Jul-15 16:43:14

It's my second child so not her first great grandchild from me.

SaulGood Wed 22-Jul-15 16:44:01

You perhaps could have sent a group message to the people going on the hen do or tell them on the hen do. What happens is that your Granny is relegated to 'everybody I know on social media' as opposed to 'family member'. It just seems that way and people can find it a bit strange.

AdeleDazeem Wed 22-Jul-15 16:44:43

Did you tell bride-to-be or would she have found out through Facebook?

ByeByeButterfly Wed 22-Jul-15 16:44:49

I quite like hearing pregnancy announcements and updates on Facebook (beats the monotonous minion quotes anyway!) but I think I am a minority nosy

ByeByeButterfly Wed 22-Jul-15 16:45:48

I am bride-to-be so I hope she knows smile

SaulGood Wed 22-Jul-15 16:45:53

Oh you can announce whenever. I'd never presume to tell a pregnant woman when it's appropriate to say something. Doesn't really matter that it's not the first great grandchild. All children and all pregnancies are marvellous. It's not about birth order, it's just a courtesy/manners issue for some people.

BeautifulBatman Wed 22-Jul-15 16:45:59

I've got to say, if I'd been lucky enough to still have both my nannies alive, I'd have told them myself first. DHs nanas are both still around and we told them after we got negative t21 results. I'm now 28 weeks and I've put nothing on Facebook. A bit cringe imo.

Janeymoo50 Wed 22-Jul-15 16:46:27

Rightly or wrongly, I would feel quite hurt if my adult niece announced her pregnancy on FB before telling either me or her granny. You're kind of saying it's ok for random people to find out (friends of friends etc) before close members of family. But hey, each to their own.

ByeByeButterfly Wed 22-Jul-15 16:49:35

I don't have my Dads mums number as rarely speak - we get on just not as close as Mums side of the family.

I am normally impeccable with my manners.

So yes maybe IWU for not telling first and Dad WBU for telling me when I can do it and not taking the gripe up with me.

I will apologise and say I didn't realise he hadn't told her (true) but that I'm sure she'll be happy regardless.

AdeleDazeem Wed 22-Jul-15 16:50:42

Double congrats then! flowers

ByeByeButterfly Wed 22-Jul-15 16:51:27

I think for me it's how would I react if niece told me at same time as others - I'd not mind at all and be happy for her. Sometimes it's hard to remember looking from the other side.

ByeByeButterfly Wed 22-Jul-15 16:51:51

Thank you Adele smile

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