Until about a year ago I was a SAHM.
For the past year I have worked on a self employed basis but my work has taken off really well and I work every day during school hours and then catch up on paperwork in the evenings. So really I work full time hours. DH is self employed also and regularly works from home for a day or so to catch up on his paperwork.
DH has been fairly lazy now I'm back at work and can't/won't really get to grips with the fact that I am working now in terms of housework, cooking, childcare at home, and holiday childcare!
For each of the school holidays so far since I began working again DH has just refused to help with any childcare at all, and indeed seems to find excuses not to work from home, and refuses to engage in any discussion about childcare.
During holidays I scale back my work to doing as much as possible from home and then working at clients' premises for two days a week. However for these two days then I simply cannot take the kids with me, and I need to do these days to keep clients happy. I can't take six weeks off from it all, although I have taken one-week half terms off during this school year, and have generally relied on family and friends to help me out on the other days.
For this summer holiday I arranged for a childminder friend to have the DCs for two days per week but she has pulled out at the last minute and now I am well and truly stuck and have said to DH that he will have to take two days off per week to work from home so I can go to work, so that we effectively share the childcare and well he is not happy and is already making excuses about why he can't do X day and Y day.
He told me that today he could not do any childcare, yet I've found out this afternoon that he's spent the whole morning 'working' in a local coffee shop with a colleague. He could have worked at home and done childcare whilst he did it!
I just feel like he is going to keep fobbing me off all holiday, and whilst friends and family have offered to help I cannot put upon them that much for 6 weeks! DH just refuses to discuss it. I tried to talk to him last night and he just carried on looking at his phone and ignored me.
When he phoned just now and said he's spent the morning in a coffee shop I told him that from now on my work days are his responsibility to cover childcare, and that if necessary I will get up at 5am and go off to work to ensure he can't leave home before me to go off and sit and drink coffee!
I am so pissed off. Everything always ends up being my responsibility!
AIBU?
To be really annoyed with DH regarding school holiday childcare?
SisterOfTheVicar · 22/07/2015 14:41
Sounds like someone's aggrieved their wife's little "project" has taken off. He doesn't like the idea that he's no-longer the main breadwinner and so has to pull his weight with all the time consuming/dull stuff which goes into having a family. Knob.
Do the 5am thing, park the car on a hill so you can coast off without even having to start the engine 
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YANBU OP
Why is it usually the woman that has to pester friends and family for favours, juggling everything around to make it work. I never hear any of my male colleagues fretting about childcare in the holidays. DH used to be like this until I threatened to give up work, he soon paid attention
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