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To think coming down for breakfast in a hotel in your PJs is really bad manners

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Nurserywindow Wed 22-Jul-15 13:48:22

We were away at the weekend in a hotel with a couple of friends whose teenage daughters insisted on coming down to breakfast each morning in skimpy pyjamas. We were embarrassed and could see hotel guests looking a bit askance. However, their parents didn't say anything so there was nothing we could do.
They also lounged around the general reception area for about an hour afterwards using their ipads, before going upstairs to get dressed.

AIBU to think this was rude and they should have been told firmly to get dressed before coming downstairs?

Smoorikins Wed 22-Jul-15 13:50:56


My daughter lounges around in her pj's all day if she's not working/going out but a) they are not skimpy and b) she wouldn't do it in a public place.

I'm with you. I'd be embarrassed.

Babyroobs Wed 22-Jul-15 13:51:39

YANBU, I wouldn't let my kids do this.

Christelle2207 Wed 22-Jul-15 13:51:45

Yanbu, very odd indeed.

FirstWeTakeManhattan Wed 22-Jul-15 13:53:00

I wouldn't do that in a hotel, no. I wouldn't be absolutely horrified if someone else did it, but I'd assume they hadn't stayed in many hotels before. I don't think it's rude particularly, but the parents should guide the teenagers on how to behave properly.

TheHormonalHooker Wed 22-Jul-15 13:54:32

I find this quite strange. I know lots of teenage girls and not one would dream of doing this.

Unbelievable really. confused

Goshthatsspicy Wed 22-Jul-15 13:54:48

Intitled behaviour.
Some teens really do think the world revolves round them.

OTheHugeManatee Wed 22-Jul-15 13:54:52

YANBU. This is why I dislike staying in hotels for more than a few nights unless I can get room service. I hate having to get out of PJs before breakfast, and then <shudder> eating it in public where people are going to judge my bed-hair and lack of makeup. Self-catering, room service or serviced villa for me, tyvm wink

Petridish Wed 22-Jul-15 13:55:22

Totally inappropriate confused

fearandloathinginambridge Wed 22-Jul-15 13:55:52

I wouldn't do it and I wouldn't want to see it.

I realise that I do things and behave in ways that my parents and grandparents would never have countenanced and would think were very bad manners indeed, but I do think being dressed in a public place is basic decorum.

HamishBamish Wed 22-Jul-15 13:55:57

YANBU, it's really rude. Fair enough to remain in your pyjamas if you're having room service, but not when other guests are present.

Nurserywindow Wed 22-Jul-15 13:56:21

When I say 'skimpy pyjamas' I mean they were made of skimpy light material, and were a bit see through, not that they were short shorts or anything like that.

But it still looked awful in my view.

The5DayChicken Wed 22-Jul-15 13:57:09

I was going to say YAB a bit U. Then I saw the 'skimpy' bit.

No, YANBU. Skimpy PJs aren't appropriate for breakfast in a hotel.

When you say teens, are we talking old enough to be independent or young/middle teens? If older, the parents may be picking their battles. They may well be getting told "I'm old enough to make my own decisions" a lot and therefore chose not to have that conversation knowing it would cause a scene and draw further attention to their scantily clad daughters.

Nurserywindow Wed 22-Jul-15 13:57:45

They're 14 and nearly 16.

The5DayChicken Wed 22-Jul-15 14:00:24

Wow, I'm astonished their parents didn't say anything then. And that they own see-through pyjamas at that age confused

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lardyscouse Wed 22-Jul-15 14:03:00

I'd speak to the Hotel and ask them if it would be possible for your entire party to be notified when these guests were due to appear [impossible] or, if not, to be able to up and leave your breakfast and return later to a freshly cooked one once the scanties have gone.
They will soon put a stop to it.

knittingdad Wed 22-Jul-15 14:04:32

This is why room service exists.

Nurserywindow Wed 22-Jul-15 14:04:35

We were actually quite surprised that no one on the staff said anything. It wasn't a particularly 'posh' hotel, but it wasn't a rough and ready one either. A family hotel in a seaside town.

limitedperiodonly Wed 22-Jul-15 14:07:55

When you say 'insisted', do you mean they invoked the Human Rights Act in order to wear their skimpy scanties at a hotel where decent people could see them?

If so, I think the Daily Mail Sadface Squad are your friends.

spottybottycream Wed 22-Jul-15 14:11:56

Its just pyjamas. I mean I wouldn't do it, but I would hardly call proper pyjamas inappropriately dressed. Its not like they came down in bikini's. You see worse things in town on a friday and saturday night!

Notso Wed 22-Jul-15 14:13:20

Teenagers on holiday lounging around, the dirty bastards.

BuildYourOwnSnowman Wed 22-Jul-15 14:17:26

I remember going on holiday with my elderly grandad who wore his slippers to breakfast and dinner (in the kind of posh restaurant). I heard people sniggering and commenting.

I wouldn't object to lounge wear as I believe some nightwear is called these days! But that is more similar to sportswear really. Skimpy nightwear isn't acceptable. Dh sleeps in his boxers - would your friends have thought it acceptable if a man had come to breakfast in his underpants?

Garlick Wed 22-Jul-15 14:17:37

I thought you meant they were in frilly little teddies! Normal pyjamas - maybe not ideal, but not too bad. Maybe, if there's a next time, you could advise them their PJs show through in the light: I'm sure they didn't realise.

I wear pyjamas all the time grin I'm just really good at picking ones that don't look like pyjamas. Americans would call it loungewear, I think wink

Sparklingbrook Wed 22-Jul-15 14:19:44

There's no need for that. I prefer self catering as it means I can eat my breakfast in my dressing gown at 11am if I want.

Too many rules and regulations to hotel breakfasts, YY room service is the way to go. Miss out on all the communal cereal shenanigans and greedy buffet goers too.

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