To think this is a bloody horrible way to treat someone?

[Everythingwillbeok]

My DD age 17 started a new part time job on Friday, serving food in the local pub.First shift went ok was a little bit quiet but she kept busy cleaning ect.

Saturday was a washout, instead of working until 7pm she was sent home at 3:30 as it was really dead, she's full of a cold so this suited her fine, it was a shame about missing out on the extra money but she felt ill anyway.

Yesterday she rang me from the toilets sobbing saying a large amount of money which was in an envelope in the kitchen had gone missing and as she was washing up she had heard her boss talking about her to three regulars at the bar saying well its funny its never happened in seven years and suddenly when the new girl starts there's money going missing, I don't trust her.

She was so upset saying mum I wouldn't even take a pound coin if it wasnt mine. I managed to calm her down and told her to hold her head up high and carry on with her day. She text me a bit later saying she wanted to come home as she felt embarrassed as she felt like people were thinking it was her.

She carried on working all day knowing what had been said, was meant to finish at 7pm but was still washing up at 7:45pm.

Once she left she rang me saying the owner had reported the lost money to the police but she didn't want to go back as she felt so upset.

Part time jobs over summer are really hard to find where we live, I'm torn between telling the owner to fuck off and how dare she make my daughter feel like shit and slag her off to three blokes who've never met her before and telling to ride it out, it will blow over and see if it gets any better before she packs it in.

Any opinions would be helpful. I'm not thinking straight as I'm so angry.

[Tryharder]

Would she feel confident enough to ask to speak to the boss privately and say that she overheard the conversation and show would like to reassure him that she didn't take the money.

The job sounds awful but obviously it's up to her whether or not she continues and how much she needs the money.

[Tryharder]

I would be advising her to ride it out personally.

[DoreenLethal]

Why would a business leave a large envelope of money in a kitchen anyway? And on her first day how would she know it was a large envelope of money if it was in an envelope?

If their money handling procedures are such that large envelopes of money are left lying around and not in the safe, then they really need to look at their procedures...anyone could have taken it and just blamed the new staff member.

[ThinkIveBeenHacked]

I know its hard when so young but I think she should stick it out. Speak to the managrr and say what shes overheard andexplain (1) she would never do this and (2) she is disappointed that the finger has been pointed at her.

[Rosa]

Stick it out but talk to owner and say she heard the conversation and she wanted to tell him that a) she had no idea that there was money there and b) she wouldn't be looking in an envelope anyway.

[RebootYourEngine]

If she leaves she could make herself look guilty of taking the money.

Id speak to the boss in private saying what a previous poster suggested, that she overheard their conversation.

[ThinkIveBeenHacked]

Has she got contracted hours or is she Casual? I used to work PT in retail but had a contract and if the boss suggested I leave a few hours early id say no as I needed the money. They were contractually obliged to pay me for (eg) 20 hours a week and there was always something to do however small.

[Emochild]

I've seen it happen many times when existing staff use new staff to cover up theft
I used to work in loss prevention for a large multi site retailer. Every year as the Christmas temps started the amount of theft would go through the roof -it wasn't the temps! (Usually anyway)

It's ok for the boss to ask your dd directly if she took the money, and they should be asking every member of staff that worked that day
It's not ok to discuss it with every Tom, dick and Harry

I would advise your daughter to ride it out, especially if the police are now involved -quitting will only add fuel to the rumour

Whoever left a large envelope of cash in the kitchen is probably involved in the fact it went missing in my experience -I cannot believe that is their normal cash handling process!

[broomchickabroomchick]

I'd also stick it out. If she suddenly never goes back they will all believe it was her anyway. She should speak to the boss too! How horrible for her though, hope she is ok

[somemothersdohavethem]

How awful! He sounds like a right piece of work. I'd say ride it out only to show that she's innocent. Once that's been proven I'd tell her to get the hell out of there

[ScoutRifle]

I wouldn't want my dc working in a place that is so badly run its
A) got no customers
B) leaves large amounts of money laying around
C) accuses people of theft behind their back
No wonder it's doing so badly!
Personally I would advise that she seeks another job asap.
The place will probably go under anyway and it'll be last one in first one out anyhow.

[Sometimesjustonesecond]

I'll admit I am a bit helicoptery, but given your dd is is under 18, I would be inclined to contact her employer myself and tell them she overheard that conversation and remind them that slandering a child, with no proof of wrongdoing is utterly unacceptable. Also point out it is not unheard of for staff to steal and blame temps - temps are a convenient scapegoat.

[Stealthpolarbear]

Yes I agree if she leaves they'll assume it was her

[LazyLouLou]

Go and talk to him.

Use all of the points raised above and tell him he needs to get his business head on and not treat staff like that or they will all eventually walk out on him as he blames each of them for his own stupidity - which leaving an envelope full of cash on a work top certainly was.

[totallybewildered]

a good reason not to take mobile phones into work.....

[GeorgeYeatsAutomaticWriter]

Eh? What do mobile phones have to do with it, totallybewildered?

[BifsWif]

Agree that I would be having a harsh word with her boss, how dare he?

If she leaves without any explanation why, she'll look guilty. If she leaves after you speak to the boss, then I think it would be clear that she's left because she doesn't want to work for an arsehole someone like that.

[whois]

I'll admit I am a bit helicoptery, but given your dd is is under 18, I would be inclined to contact her employer myself and tell them she overheard that conversation and remind them that slandering a child, with no proof of wrongdoing is utterly unacceptable. Also point out it is not unheard of for staff to steal and blame temps - temps are a convenient scapegoat.

Ugh what a terrible way to deal with it. Some bat-shit parent rings you up and says you're 'slandering a child'? Laughable.

Sounds like a shit situation OP but I think you DD should go back in with her head held high. Leaving looks like guilt.

She should arrange to speak with her boss privately, tell him what happened (i.e she knew nothing about any envelope) and what people have been saying.

Sounds a shit place to work tho.

[noddingoff]

Emochild, that's really interesting. I suppose it makes sense to wait for the fall guys to show up if you want to steal.

[bestguess23]

If she leaves without addressing it she will inevitably look guilty. She needs to speak to the boss, not you as some pp have suggested. She just needs to say she overheard and that it wasn't her.

[PurpleHairAndPearls]

Oh no please don't ring them yourself!

She should absolutely ride it out with her head held high (whilst looking for another job urgently). Presumably if the police are involved it migh get cleared up anyway. Do they not have CCTV?

[Peacheykeen]

Tell her to stick it out and hold her head high. She has done nothing wrong. I worked in the pub/ hospitality trade for years and you have to develop a very thick skin. The manager was very unprofessional to be talking this way . I have been in the same position as your daughter and if anything it gave me more determination to work harder and proove what a useful member of staff I was. I Really feel for Your daughter but she can't let other people win. She has done nothing wrong

[Sometimesjustonesecond]

Not all kids can deal with it themselves though. If one of mine had overheard that conversation they would have spoken up there and then but another ofy dc at the same age would not. Depends on the child and to me, 17 is still a kid and the responsibility of their parents.

I wouldn't let someone speak about my child that way - if it makes me batshit, so be it. I think sometimes teenagers need their parents to advocate for them because the other adults around them are not behaving as they should.