Just wanted to get other people's opinion on this one. I personally think my brother's behaviour and the way he lives his life is unreasonable, but what do you think...?
He's 36 and he has an 8yo DS who he has full custody of. He was renting a 4 bedroom house when he was living with his wife and her DCs from previous relationships. Long story short, they broke up, he got full custody and he started seeing someone else shortly after, who swiftly moved into his house. She turned out to have a problem with alcohol and 18 months later he caught her in a compromising position with another man in the sex club that she was running. Her lifestyle was obviously not good for my nephew because my brother was frequently going out in the early hours of the morning to pick her up from work, dragging my nephew with him.
So after they broke up my parents suggested he move in with them, give up the rental on the 4 bed house and save up for a deposit on a nice little house for him and his DS. My brother earns a good salary so they thought perhaps 12 month living with them would give him a good chance to save. They also help with childcare. BUT since he has lived with them he is hardly ever at home. He goes out 2 to 3 times a week. At first he used to go home at about 2am, but he has started not coming home til 7am the next morning. He has met someone else (who he told my parents he wasn't attracted to when he first met her at his social club thingy he goes to). So it seems they are an item now. I couldn't care less who he goes out with but I do think he should be spending more time and effort with his young DS, not chasing women and staying out all night! My parents look after my nephew most of the time now, which they don't mind, but they are fed up that he is not saving any money. He's lived with them for 6 months now and hasn't saved a penny. We know this because my dad asked how much he'd saved and he said nothing.
I say, if my brother was a woman, and was my nephew's mum, it would be totally unacceptable to be going out and staying out so much. My nephew even said to him tonight "Daddy, please don't go out tonight, why do you go out all the time?" And he still went out. When my mum texted me and told me this my heart just broke for him. His own mother never sees him and he hardly sees his dad either.
What do you think about this? And yes I have told my parents to give him ultimatums etc, but my brother doesn't take them seriously and just carries on doing what he does.
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To think my brother's behaviour is unreasonable
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Bluejellycake · 18/07/2015 20:34
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