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Is he being spiteful or am AIBU?

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FlowersAndShit Fri 17-Jul-15 22:07:04

NC for this.

I've just moved into my first place and couldn't afford a TV, so I asked my sister if I could borrow hers as she wasn't using it and it had been gathering dust at my parents for 2 years. She said yes and we didn't agree a timescale, so I just assumed I could have it for a few months until I could afford a TV and give it back. Fast forward 6 weeks, and my sister tells me she wants it back because her boyfriend wants it to play his PS4 on.

I have managed to save for a new TV but it won't be coming for another 3 weeks, so I asked if she would let me have it until then. She said no. Bearing in mind, I've helped her out a lot financially and she still owes me money. I told her she was being spiteful and she could have it back in a month. She said if I didn't give it back she'd kick my door down to get it, and then told me to keep the TV but she wouldn't be paying me back the money she owes me (£300). TV is about 7 years old and worth 50 quid.

She sent me a load of horrible abusive messages and told me I was causing her to argue with our mother. She then told me she can't wait until my mother moves on with her life and i'm on my own so she could watch me buckle like a piece of paper (I have long term depression/anxiety and mild autism) so I require a lot of help.


countryandchickens Fri 17-Jul-15 22:10:24

Well, I do think that when someone asks for what is theirs back, you do sort of have to give it to them flowers although of course that doesn't excuse threatening to kick your door down or not returning the money!

She's being horrible with the messages though (obviously.)

Have you got broadband? We don't have a TV here and haven't since 2012; just watch it on iPads/phones cake

sooperdooper Fri 17-Jul-15 22:14:08

Well there was no need for her to threaten you but she is entitled to ask for her property back whenever she likes, and you didn't agree any timescales

CookieLady Fri 17-Jul-15 22:16:51

She's unpleasant but you do need to return her television. It's really not worth the aggravation and stress. brew

whois Fri 17-Jul-15 22:35:26

Agree a time to take it back to her, and while you are there collect the £300 you are owed in cash.

She sounds awful. Who acts like that?

whois Fri 17-Jul-15 22:36:14

And never ever ever lend her anything again.

DoreenLethal Fri 17-Jul-15 22:41:30

You should have given it back, and called your loan in. Use that to get yourself a new one. Problem solved.

PtolemysNeedle Fri 17-Jul-15 22:50:38

She is massively over reacting, and it would have been kinder for her to let you keep the telly for a bit longer, but the thing belongs to her so you should have given it back when she asked.

It sounds like there's other stuff going on though, does she resent the amount of support you get from your mum?

AmIbeingTreasonable Sat 18-Jul-15 05:15:01

I'd be taking her to the small claims court for your money.

bigbumtheory Sat 18-Jul-15 14:23:52

I'd dump back her TV, demand the money and cut her off as much as possible. She sounds like a complete PITA.

FlowersAndShit Sat 18-Jul-15 18:33:40

I'm going to tell her that I will give her tv back when she gives me my money back, then cut her off. She has this horrible spiteful, selfish streak and resents me for some reason.

TwinkieTwinkle Sat 18-Jul-15 18:48:17

You can't dictate when you give something back that you borrowed for an unspecified amount of time. It is her property. She may be rude to you but she was well within her rights to ask for it back and you should have returned it. She sounds very aggressive though.

Penfold007 Sat 18-Jul-15 19:05:12

Just return the TV and collect your money.

Gobbolinothewitchscat Sat 18-Jul-15 19:12:02

Don't conflate the TV with the cash. They are two separate issues

If someone lends you something with no agreed return date to start with, then you do have to return it in their request

If she followed your logic re: the money, she would be on here posting that she's never returning the money until you return the TV and then you'll get no where

Return the TV asap and at the same time tell her you need the money back asap. If she can't return it one lot, agree a payment plan with her

Imustgodowntotheseaagain Sat 18-Jul-15 19:18:26

Your sister is a bitch, OP. Mine is the same. I moved from a house to a flat and gave her loads of my stuff - good stuff, not crap - including a chest of drawers that had been our mum's. She already had one, we got one ewch for sentimental reasons.

A few years later my relationship broke down and I had to start again with nothing. I asked if I could have the chest of drawers back. No, she said. She was using it to store her dog leads.

Give her the telly, get your 300 quid back and cut her off.

DarthVadersTailor Sat 18-Jul-15 20:29:46

If the TV is 7yrs old then PS4 ain't gonna work with it anyway......

WayneRooneysHair Sat 18-Jul-15 22:23:26

It might do DarthVadersTailor, I had a TV over 7 years ago with a HDMI port.

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