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theblairbitchproject Fri 17-Jul-15 17:45:59

How you moved on?? And how long it took you? Lost my job this week. Angry, emotional and numb all in one but I do have periods of "acceptance".

If you went on to do the same job- did you enjoy it as much? How did you cope?

dinodiva Fri 17-Jul-15 18:25:14

It sucks, doesn't it?

I was made redundant in 2010 and I loved my job at the time. At first I was relieved (long, drawn out process) but was out of work for about 8 months before I got something else in my field (quite specialist). That whole period was horrible and not a time I would like to revisit.

How did I move on? Probably when I got a new job and a new focus to be honest. Wanted to smack everyone who gave 'helpful' advice but did my best to keep busy - outdoors exercise was a great help for me. Also I gave myself time at the beginning to grieve for what had happened. Whenever I got a knockback from a job application I have myself a set period of time to feel 'boo hoo poor me' and then applied for something else so I felt like I was moving forwards.

Now? I have another job I love. I am also excellent at change management and understanding how people react to change. You WILL get through it and be fine, however much it sucks at the moment.

FunnyNameHere Fri 17-Jul-15 18:32:04

Oh yes. I remember sobbing on the tube home, at 11.30 in the morning after I'd been fired, feeling like my entire life was over and that I was a total failure.

Three weeks later, I was being interviewed to be a freelancer at a MUCH better company, and 2 months after that I landed a full-time job there.

I believe in fate. You will look back on this as an important turning point in your life, even if right now it looks like The End of Everything.

Cry, moan, wail all weekend. Monday morning, get busy looking for something equally good or better. MASSIVE MASSIVE MASSIVE hug for you, and please do remember to get roaring drunk. It's obligatory.

milkandmarmite Fri 17-Jul-15 18:33:48

Sorry that you lost your job. I was made redundant from a job I truly loved in 2013 a month after returning from maternity leave. I a LP so it was a nightmare for me emotional and financially and it came as a complete shock.

I cried for weeks. I had arranged my childcare around THIS job. It felt so unfair. I had endless interviews but my self esteem was so low. I did end up getting my current job - same role different company better paid, two months later. I didn't think it would happen, but time does make things better. Honestly.

This job is good. Hang in there, something will come along!

PurpleHairAndPearls Fri 17-Jul-15 18:40:11

I lost my job through ill health a couple of years ago. I loved my job, studied for it, worked long hours, missed DCs sports days etc, in fact DH was a SAHD to enable me to do the job.

It was very hard as it was such a huge part of my identity, but the one thing I have taken from it now is a sense of perspective. I miss my colleagues and the brain challenging aspect of it, but I look back now and realise the job itself wasn't the be all and end all. It sounds trite but there a lot of things more important than work. I am sure if I can go back to work, I will be much better in keeping things in perspective and won't be such a worrier.

flowers to you OP, I hope it's the start of good, and better, times for you though. As my mother would say, everything happens for a reason.

theblairbitchproject Fri 17-Jul-15 18:45:13

Thank you all. Feel a bit better at the moment but know ill feel a bit "meh" tomorrow.

Singsongsung Fri 17-Jul-15 18:45:53

I have left a job I love today. It was my choice to go but as a result of restructuring that saw me losing hours and responsibility.
I am moving onto another post straight away which is more senior and better paid but I'm still devastated to leave my lovely colleagues who made the job worthwhile.

jimijack Fri 17-Jul-15 18:46:46

Didn't lose my job but had to give it up.
23 years there, studied, worked my way up, looked forward to going, worked very long hours loved it.

Everything happens for a reason.

I took a different opportunity, worked very well for a short time, now getting back into similar line of work to my beloved first job because it's a good time.
I actually feel extremely lucky to have had the experience.

Sorrybutilikekatie Fri 17-Jul-15 20:47:30

I am on garding leave as of 5:30 tonight and I will be redundant on the 6th August. I loved my job but I'm re training and going back to uni. You will feel better. My 1&1/2 bottles of wine tonight has helped tonight.

crustsaway Fri 17-Jul-15 20:52:18

This happened to me, the company went bust. I did grieve for a bit then took the opportunity to do something completely different. Life is about change and a positive outlook after a period of grieving does wonders.

VivaLeBeaver Fri 17-Jul-15 21:01:53

I'm six months on and am still very angry. Was doing the job on secondment but had been for three years, bosses kept saying it would be made permanent. Then we got a new senior boss who moved me sideways and gave someone else my job. No ad, no interview. I was kicked out my office and the work I have to do now isn't as interesting. I'm bored. I have to see the person doing "my job" most days and while I don't blame her it's upsetting.

Littleorangecat Fri 17-Jul-15 21:07:09

Yes I sobbed for about 2 days until my husband made me do something proactive and update my cv. I started applying for new jobs within a week but only under duress !!
In hindsight I needed badgering to do it as I was so wrapped up in redundancy I just felt so sorry for myself !!
Luckily I got a much better paid but fT job with a commute compared to my old local pt job.
I think a new job gives you focus you need to move on - good luck!

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