To consider moving house?

[WorryingRenter]

I currently rent an end terrace house. The walls are quite thin and as a result we can hear lots from next door. Mainly the mum shouting at the little girl and the little girl throwing and breaking things. Noise pretty much constant in the daytime and stops about 10pm on a weekday and later at the weekend. The walls really are thin though to the point where we can hear each other moving around our houses, toilets flushing, coughs etc. Their visitors often park right outside our door and they'll stand and chat out there a lot and the little girl has friends round in the back garden a lot too with lots of crying and fighting and they run up and down next to our house. Basically it's a bit like being surrounded on all sides by noise from their house if that makes sense?

Saying that, on the other hand I'm lucky because the mum doesn't listen to loud music or anything or do the loud partying bit often. The worst of the nighttime noise is sometimes their dog barks a bit or normal family sounds like if the little girl is ill and upset and the mum is comforting her.

My tenancy is coming to an end soon and I don't know whether to move or whether it would be out of the frying pan and into the fire noise wise. I just miss being able to have a quiet moment to myself or my dd to not be constantly asking what that bang was or that scream. For the sake of disclosure for honest responses, I am on the spectrum and do have some noise sensitivy so do worry that this noise wouldn't bother other people so I should just get used to it and be grateful it's not worse.

It's just that it doesn't feel like home anymore and I don't know whether a new start would be a good thing or whether the risk of it being even noisier elsewhere should stop me.

AIBU to be considering moving house over this?

[SylvanianCaliphate]

It really is just luck.

I dreaded moving into a mid terrace fearing the noise, one neighbour was a student who had 0 parties, only lived there during term time and put everyone's bins out.
The other side was such a darling older woman I cried buckets when she moved.

A detached I lived in later had neighbours that constantly aggravated me and the whole area but weren't anti social in the traditional sense.

It really is pot luck.

[longestlurkerever]

what are the options for moving? in a flat or terrace you will always hear your neighbours ad it's pot luck how much noise they make (though the family next to you do sound noisy). are there more isolated places near you available to rent?

[DadfromUncle]

YANBU in my view - but I am hyper-sensitive to unwanted noise of any kind. I am extremely fortunate that I can afford to live somewhere where I'm not often troubled by noise from others. If I was you though, I'd be worried about the frying pan/fire potential. It's hard to know what somewhere will be like until you live there, by which time it's too late.

[WorryingRenter]

Thank you for the replies!

The options for moving are mainly flats or terraced. The odd semi detached pops up in my price range but I get a bit of HB which puts some landlords off.

Sometimes I wonder if it's because these houses are new build? I've always lived in terraced houses and just don't remember noise levels like this before! Unless I suppose it's actually just the fact they are noisy.

Yeah, I did think it would be pot luck :( I always dream of a detached house but I suppose Sylvanian your example shows even that is down to luck!

[DadfromUncle]

As I started to type, my neighbour cranked up some kind of chainsaw/brushcutter thing. I'd love to train myself to be less sensitive to it....

[shadypines]

I don't think you sound overly sensitive to noise OP, I think it's reasonable not to want to hear others talking shouting, coughing or whatever in your own home. I am in a semi with paper thin walls and at times it feels like we are a family of 8 rather than 4 . This has helped us tremendously but we still want to move:-

www.amazon.co.uk/Marpac-Dohm-Speed-Sound-Conditioner/dp/B006Z9V1LM/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1436982615&sr=8-3&keywords=white%20noise%20machine&tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21

It might be worth taking a look at and reading the reviews, I really can't answer your moving question OP as I think only you can be the judge of that, sorry.

[Spartans]

I live in an end town house (don't actually know the difference between town house and terrace), it's new build and we get no noise from neighbours. Might depend on the builder though.

It really is gamble that you might live somewhere worse