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Peachybanana Wed 15-Jul-15 01:41:47

There's a new family moved in a few doors down from me who have a son in primary 1 so he must be 4/5 yo. Every morning I see him walking to school on his own, the school is relatively close however there is a road to cross which does tend to be busy with school traffic in the mornings and home time.

The parents seem like a lovely couple, would it be wrong of me to
1.mention my concerns to them?
2. go out there myself and make sure he gets across the road safely

what would you do?

PresidentTwonk Wed 15-Jul-15 01:44:03

YANBU you could see my school out of the window but my mum still walked me when I was little

Koalafications Wed 15-Jul-15 01:46:45

Seriously?! shock

I'm genuinely surprised that anyone would let their 4/5 yo DC walk to school on their own. I would contact the school and see if they are aware.

TheDowagerCuntess Wed 15-Jul-15 01:47:28

I certainly wouldn't leave my DC to make their own way to school (eldest is 6, and only one road to cross), but you do risk looking like a massive sticky-beak if you say something.

It's difficult, because what's more important - beaking out, or ensuring the basic safety of a 4YO. On the face of it, the latter, right?

CloserToFiftyThanTwenty Wed 15-Jul-15 02:18:01

Doesn't school have a policy about this?

When you speak to them next, can you invent a near miss accident mention how dangerous the road is?

SavoyCabbage Wed 15-Jul-15 02:29:01

Are they from another country? Where I am loads of children go to school on their own and when the bell rings they all just go off. The school doesn't make sure everyone gets picked up.

In fact, yesterday I found a crying child in the park as his mother usually gets him from the park and she had t turned up.

And this is no county backwater. Our school is on a six lane road!!!

SwingingBalls Wed 15-Jul-15 02:58:24

Do they collect the child from school? Our school won't release the child unless a parent/guardian is stood waiting.

Your neighbours obviously have no concerns for thier child so you saying something may cause tensions.

Bogeyface Wed 15-Jul-15 03:11:19

I would go with "I dont know if you know as you have just moved in but there was a horrible near miss a couple of weeks/months/years ago on [that road] with my friends son. Thats why we all walk them to school, the way the drivers go around that corner...... just thought I would mention it as I wasnt sure if you knew" big smile and dont mention it again.

Superworm Wed 15-Jul-15 03:36:34

The school should pick this up. 4/5 year olds coming to school on their should make them think safeguarding.

lunar1 Wed 15-Jul-15 03:48:46

I'd tell the school.

merrymouse Wed 15-Jul-15 04:43:28

IME schools don't let 4/5 year olds leave the classroom on their own - and am sure this was also the case when I was at school in the seventies. Seems very odd.

merrymouse Wed 15-Jul-15 04:45:32

I would call the school.

Kytti Wed 15-Jul-15 05:22:08

It could be they're from another country. Where we live nobody even really checks there's an adult to drop off / collect. I wouldn't like it, but is the road dangerous? Couldn't you take them if they're so close and you're worried?

Spartans Wed 15-Jul-15 06:00:00

Hmm not sure about this. If he is in year one he will be 5 or 6? Or is primary 1 not year 1?

Next doors 5 year old plays out with a couple of friends and is the most sensible out of the three of them when it comes to crossing roads and playing on the path. If he went to a school close I would imagine he could take himself. As it is, our nearest primary is 2 miles away.

However I wouldn't let my child walk on their own. I also not entirely sure having a word is a good idea. I doubt it will change their mind and probably cause some tension. If you are ok with that then do it.

merrymouse Wed 15-Jul-15 06:05:17

P1 is equivalent of reception.

merrymouse Wed 15-Jul-15 06:07:00

the most sensible 5 year old is still going to be pretty short and less visible to cars.

hazeyjane Wed 15-Jul-15 06:13:18

Both the schools my dcs are at would get involved if a child as young as this was walking to school on their own.

mimishimmi Wed 15-Jul-15 06:16:37

Same happens here. Most are from South Asian background. The kids wait at busy roads until I go to cross it with my DS (8) and then they cross with us ... they've obviously been told by their parents to wait until an 'aunty' comes along. It does concern me what the legal ramifications could be for me if something happened to them. Apart from that, obviously I don't want anything to happen to these sweet kids.

Lagoonablue Wed 15-Jul-15 06:19:26

Too young. Tell the school. It's a safeguarding issue in the broadest sense. The school can talk to them about it in a helpful way.

I am all for kids having freedom to grow Into independent beings but not at 5.

avocadotoast Wed 15-Jul-15 06:39:15

I'd mention it to the school rather than the parents. There's no need for them to know it's come from you.

OrangeSquashTallGlass Wed 15-Jul-15 06:46:27

Tell the school. Our school had a policy of no child walking without an adult before Year 4.

chanie44 Wed 15-Jul-15 06:46:31

A neighbour a couple of roads away lets her children walk to school and they are about 8 and 6. I was really surprised, even tough it's only 2 roads away.

BumpTheElephant Wed 15-Jul-15 07:12:40

I'm surprised the school allow it. DS1 has to be taken to the classroom and picked up from the classroom by someone over the age of 14. They don't allow them to go in on their own until year 3.

BleachEverything Wed 15-Jul-15 07:20:44

I'm struggling to believe anyone would let a four year old walk to school and cross a road.

Unless they are thick as shit obviously.

turningvioletviolet Wed 15-Jul-15 07:30:54

I've just had to write a note to dd2's school to say that I'm letting her walk home on her own. She's 9, Yr4. Without a letter they're not allowed to leave the teacher until a parent has been spotted. Not sure how it works the other way round though, it's not like the school can stop a parent allowing a child to walk to school on their own.

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