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Am I being an unreasonable pushy parent?

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Sussexbelle73 Tue 14-Jul-15 18:38:55

My DD is 3 and had just gone into pre- school at nursery. DS went to the same ofsted outstanding nursery but it was taken over by a new company 18 mths ago. DS had an amazing experience there but its all changed since being taken over.
DD has had 6 keyworkers in 18 months- I met the latest one today. DD has been in pre school since march but there were no photos, updated, observations or art work from march when she moved until now.
All new keyworker could say to me about DD's progress was that she looked cute in a couple of pictures.
I am bloody cross- arent there meant to be foundation stages of development? I would at least expect some update on how she was getting on and developing in the different areas?
Its only because my DS had such an amazing experience that I have something to compare it to but it feels dreadful!
Am I being unreasonable to expect more than this?

Idontseeanydragons Tue 14-Jul-15 18:41:05

6 key workers in 18 months brought me up short for a start. Plus the observations should be done - a child looking cute in pictures isn't really an OFSTED requirement!
YANBU, you're not being pushy at all. I would be concerned as well.

Sussexbelle73 Tue 14-Jul-15 18:45:42

I have complained but nothing seems to be getting done. Are you meant to complain to OFSTED if you think a nursery isnt meeting its requirements?

midnightmoomoo Tue 14-Jul-15 18:47:40

Yes but be aware that might trigger a full inspection. Have you contacted the lead practitioner/manager already? Do that first, if you're not happy then contact ofsted.

paulapompom Tue 14-Jul-15 18:49:15

Yes ofsted have early years assessors. Do they use files/books for record keeping? These should be updated at least weekly.

Sussexbelle73 Tue 14-Jul-15 18:49:49

I have spoken to the manager twice about it- I am so frustrated by all the change that I burst into tears. My DD isnt that happy there at the moment and I feel in turmoil about what to do.

Sussexbelle73 Tue 14-Jul-15 18:50:56

There has been nothing updated in DD's file since march- not sure about other records

PtolemysNeedle Tue 14-Jul-15 18:51:33

YANBU, and you can complain to OFSTED, although you might see more benefit from complaining to the manager. Tbh, if their staff turnover or management is that high and you have next to nothing to show from your dds time there, I'd look for another nursery.

pointythings Tue 14-Jul-15 18:55:37

To be honest, I think this nursery deserves to be inspected and get a boot up their backside. They don't sound like they are adding anything useful to your DD's life, and I know from personal experience what an amazing thing a really good nursery can be for children. Your DD deserves better.

Sussexbelle73 Tue 14-Jul-15 18:56:38

Finding moving her a hard decision as she has got lovely little friends and 6 keyworkers in 18 mths has been very disruptive. But on the other hand, my experience so far has been shocking- feel like they don't know DD at all and yet she is there 3.5 days a week!

paulapompom Tue 14-Jul-15 19:22:17

I worked in a nursery, years ago so lots may have changed, but we kept books for the children to complete, with help. For older pre schoolers we were also preparing for the move. If she was happy I would say don't worry too much, but i think you need to take action x

LokiBear Tue 14-Jul-15 19:33:32

Move your child. Our nursery fees are almost as much per month as our mortgage. I couldn't imagine spending thst kind of money to have dd unhappy and a key worker not knowing a dd inside and out. I chose my DD's nursery because of how caring the staff are. Her social and emotional development was paramount.

LapsedTwentysomething Tue 14-Jul-15 19:49:04

I would tell the manager that you want an up to date, evidenced report on her development over the last 3.5 months, and I would contact Ofsted.

I have an account of what DS has been doing every day that he's in nursery. They also highlight EYFS skills that he's demonstrating which I'm not that bothered about, but it gives me the peace of mind that they know what they're doing.

Sussexbelle73 Tue 14-Jul-15 19:51:00

You are right LokiBear- My DS had amazing childcare and this comes nowhere near - am going to ring some nurseries tomorrow to ser if there are any places

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