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AIBU?

An advance WWYD?

13 replies

notmyusualMNname123 · 13/07/2015 17:12

We're due to go on holiday with 2 sets of friends and their kids. I'm looking forward to it, and all the kids get on really well. One of the sets of friends is VERY hot on good manners, and is always v proud when her DS (who will be the youngest child there) is all "yes please, mummy" and "no thank you, mummy".
However, DH and I have noticed that when parents are out of earshot, those pleases and thank yous are very few and far between.

Do I say to the child "what do you say?" (or similar) or do I just let it go? I don't know if that counts as backing up the parents, or reprimanding their child.

What would you do?

Thanks

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TheHouseOnBellSt · 13/07/2015 17:14

Oh my God....talk about worrying about nothing!

YABU to even be thinking about this. How old is he? If he's under 5 then YABVU.

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HirplesWithHaggis · 13/07/2015 17:15

I'd correct the child, and view it as supporting the parents.

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 13/07/2015 17:15

I would expect, and ask for, please and thank-you. You know that this chikd can say it, so I would be nice but firm, and expect the same from all the children (as long as they are old enough to understand and say it).

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nexttonormal · 13/07/2015 17:15

Their child, their job to parent. Enjoy your holiday and don't worry about it.

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Anon4Now2015 · 13/07/2015 17:19

Wait until it happens (if it happens) and then ask the parents what they'd like you to do

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Icimoi · 13/07/2015 17:36

I'd leave it alone. I still harbour a bit of a grudge against the friend we once went on holiday with arising out of the time I came upon her interrogating MY children about whether they'd cleaned their teeth.

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Tryharder · 13/07/2015 17:39

I wouldn't worry about it at all.

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WorraLiberty · 13/07/2015 17:46

I always give a beaming smile and say "What do you say?" whether the parents are hot on manners or not.

If the kid says nothing, then I don't push it because some kids are just shy/awkward.

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BrainSurgeon · 13/07/2015 17:47

I agree with one of the previous posters, if you want to have peace of mind, once the situation arises (and only then) just ask the parents - discreetly.

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Balaboosta · 13/07/2015 18:19

Don't go anywhere near it. The kid already has parents. Doesn't need any more. Relax and enjoy your holiday.

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DoesItReallyMatter · 13/07/2015 18:46

WWYD? I wouldn't give it any thought Smile. I'd just do whatever it is that you do with your own kids. It's meant to be a holiday not finishing school. Wink

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FurtherSupport · 13/07/2015 19:01

I can't imagine thinking about it in advance but I'd "mention" it to anyone who didn't say please or thank you to me.

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Fatmomma99 · 14/07/2015 00:23

I know what you mean OP, because I DO notice the difference when a friend of my DD says "can I have a drink!" or "can I have a drink, please?" and even more so in your case when mum is so proud of his saying "please and thank you"

I know it shouldn't irk me, but it just kind-of does!

So I know how I would feel. But understand you're possibly pushing a boundary.

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