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To think that, by date 3, this is a big red flag?

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Lostin3dspace Sun 12-Jul-15 11:13:38

I'm about to go on date 3 with a man I thought was lovely, but he sent me a text yesterday telling me what he thought I'd look lovely in, including length of dress, perfume, underwear, light makeup. Up until this point, I was looking forward to it, but now I'm very skeptical. Am I just overthinking this? It's not like he's asked me to wear anything outlandish.

SoundsLegit Sun 12-Jul-15 11:14:39

Yep, run a mile.

IHaveBrilloHair Sun 12-Jul-15 11:15:30

Sprint!

CamelHump Sun 12-Jul-15 11:16:03

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velouria Sun 12-Jul-15 11:16:40

Think he needs to buy a blow up doll to dress up, ick

MrsBertMacklin Sun 12-Jul-15 11:16:44

Abandon Ship!

ChampagneBabyCakes Sun 12-Jul-15 11:17:02

Controlling on date 3... Move on!

I don't mind my partner saying he has a favourite dress of mine, or colour, but he doesn't get to tell me what to wear.

BunnyRuddington Sun 12-Jul-15 11:17:55

Cancel the date politely, then block his number.

SakuraSakura Sun 12-Jul-15 11:17:56

Do not waste your time on date 3 op.

Sighing Sun 12-Jul-15 11:18:03

Time to don the parachute and let that plane crash into a mountain without you!

BlossomTang Sun 12-Jul-15 11:18:09

He comes across as a bit controlling... shock

paulapompom Sun 12-Jul-15 11:18:42

Weird and controlling (judgey pants on and I don't care) agree with all pp - run like fuck and don't look back! X

cozietoesie Sun 12-Jul-15 11:19:23

Watch this

FabULouse Sun 12-Jul-15 11:19:54

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reni1 Sun 12-Jul-15 11:19:58

Cancel the date, be glad he showed you this early, much harder to run later.

Sianilaa Sun 12-Jul-15 11:20:16

Yikes!! I would not be going on the date...

froggyjump Sun 12-Jul-15 11:20:33

I'd be tempted to turn up in the opposite, or scruffy jeans etc and see how he reacts - if he's ok with it then he might just have been trying to be flirty?? but if he is 'disappointed' or whatever, tell him it's up to you how you dress and walk out

AlpacaPicnic Sun 12-Jul-15 11:20:54

Oh I'd turn up in the exact opposite outfit just to gauge his reaction. If he seemed pissed off then run. If he seemed smug because he was using reverse psychology just run.
Actually I'd run anyway, but I'd try the alternate outfit first! Just for shits n giggles...

Teabagbeforemilk Sun 12-Jul-15 11:20:59

Fucking hell!!! DH wouldn't suggest this and we have been together 15 years, unless i asked his opinion.

Did you ask his opinion?

If no, don't go on this date.

LilyMayViolet Sun 12-Jul-15 11:21:03

Totally weird! Yes, abandon this now op. Such strange behaviour, at best very presumptuous at worst controlling.

corlan Sun 12-Jul-15 11:21:04

Run! Run like the wind!

LeftMyRidingCropInTheMortuary Sun 12-Jul-15 11:21:07

Wowzers!
Put your trainers on and run!

WLmum Sun 12-Jul-15 11:21:11

Scary - don't go!

balls2DWall Sun 12-Jul-15 11:21:26

reply back and say "no problem but if we are going to do this i need to tell you what i want you to wear. gimp suit with mask and dog collar".

AlpacaPicnic Sun 12-Jul-15 11:21:28

Haha, froggy cross post!

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