Hi all, I posted about my shitty relationship a couple of months ago and I've finally found the courage to leave. Now we're having trouble sorting out the joint account. For background as I doubt anybody remembers my previous threads, I've been supporting ex-DP and his DS for the last year on my wages alone. ex-DP has been out of work for most of the last year and contributed at most £50 pcm - bearing in mind our rent was £500 pcm so £50 is a drop in the ocean really. We'd built up some savings which when I say we I mean I as he didn't contribute a penny. He got a job about 6 weeks ago and got his first pay packet about a week before we split up. So after we both contributed half to the bills (rent, gas / elec etc) and he paid his child maintenance, he had x amount left which was in our joint current account plus we had the savings in the current account too as we'd originally planned to use it for a new place. I haven't managed to sort out the joint account yet as I've been so busy but I have a separate account where my wages go into. We agreed to split the savings in half plus he'd keep the remainder of his wages as I didn't want to be a total btch and know he'll now need money for a deposit for a new place for him and his DS. Tried chatting to him this evening and he didn't want to know. He's since spent all bar £40 of his wages (I can see what's gone out on our statement) so most of what remains is our savings but he's swearing blind all the money in the joint account is his! I was trying to talk to him amicably about it, saying half the savings is X amount therefore Y amount is mine but he wasn't having it, just kept swearing at me and telling me how awful I am. Halfway through that conversation I realised he'd emptied the joint account! Thankfully he forgot we have another, joint bills account, which I emptied quickly before he realised. Not as much as half the savings, but still, I at least wanted something back. All the bills have been paid this month but now I'm worried any outstanding bills from where we haven't given final readings yet for gas / elec / water etc. will fall to me and me alone :(
I don't even know what I'm asking AIBU for really. I just feel so crap and I didn't want it to end up resorting to emptying the account, I hoped we'd sort something between us. We just had a blazing row where he told me to fuck off and leave him alone. I feel like I'm being a right btch even though I'm not entirely sure what for :(
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Fedupofthisshit · 11/07/2015 00:51
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