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To hate it that people say "yes" when I ask how they are.

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sweetgrape Fri 10-Jul-15 11:59:18

It's become so common place now that it seems to be the norm.
If I say to someone "how are you" or "how're you doing" or something similar they invariably answer "yes I'm good thanks" or "yes I'm fine".
What is the "yes" for? I know it might make me sound trivial and pedantic but I hate it. People didn't used to speak that way. I think Eastenders started it off and now it seems the whole world does it. AIBU?

ShatnersBassoon Fri 10-Jul-15 12:04:04

It's just small talk. They expected you to say "Are you all right?" and the answer is out of their mouth without really processing the question. I don't think you can blame Eastenders.

Snozberry Fri 10-Jul-15 12:05:20

A lot of people say "alright?" as a greeting so perhaps the yes thing is a standard response to that and gets used all the time no matter what the first hello is?? I don't know. Sometimes "alright?" is answered with another "alright?" and I find that weird. Greetings seem to all be weird and mean nothing.

EatShitDerek Fri 10-Jul-15 12:06:39

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sweetgrape Fri 10-Jul-15 12:06:43

Yes but Shatners I have received answers in this way on emails and texts so that can't really apply.

WinterOfOurDiscountTents15 Fri 10-Jul-15 12:12:23

If you want it to be how people used to speak, you should say How do you do? to which the response is the same in return!

ShatnersBassoon Fri 10-Jul-15 12:14:11

It does apply. They quickly read that you're asking after them, and it doesn't really matter enough to go back and check if it was an "All right?" or a "how are you?"

gamerchick Fri 10-Jul-15 12:14:33

Would you prefer the truth instead? Piles playing up/kids up all night vomiting/cant afford some bill etc.

If you go through a day of truth so you feel like slitting your throat at the end of it you probably wouldn't care about the yes. grin

sweetgrape Fri 10-Jul-15 12:32:02

The answer I would expect if they are alright is..."I'm fine thanks", the word "yes" is surplus to requirements. It is a new thing. You only have to look at repeats of programmes from the 80s, 70s and beyond to know this.

SirPercyPilkington Fri 10-Jul-15 12:33:45

I am beyond amused that Eastenders is getting the blame for this grin

Yes, I'm fine, thanks for asking.

Ledare Fri 10-Jul-15 12:40:08

But "yes" isn't an answer to "HOW do you do?" either.

It's wrong. Wrong wrong wrong.

I haven't noticed this thankfully but it's a slippery slpoe shock

Can we expect, "how does the earth rotate on its axis? Yes, it..."

Kumiho Fri 10-Jul-15 12:40:15

Maybe just stop asking people 'how are you', as it's a fake question - you don't really want to know.

I really dislike "Are you alright?" as a greeting. Growing up that phrase meant only that you were displaying some sign of injury, not 'hello'. The answer doesn't come naturally to me. Of course I'm alright.

Ledare Fri 10-Jul-15 12:42:06

"Slippery slpoe" grin

Also wrong. I've just come in from the sunshine and my lenses haven't adjusted.

RepeatAdNauseum Fri 10-Jul-15 12:48:40

Maybe it's just how they process the question? However you ask (how are you, are you alright, etc), you're really asking if they are okay.

So in their head, they think "Am I okay?" - yeah I'm fine, or no I'm not.

I don't think it's an Eastenders thing.

sweetgrape Fri 10-Jul-15 12:53:01

I recently watched some old Coronation St episodes blush, and noted that nobody answered an "how are you" type question with a "yes". It's definitely a new thing and I'm certain that Eastenders started it off just as The only way is Essex seems to have started off awful phrases such as "mugging me off" and "I swear down",<shudders>. I wish it didn't bother me so much but it does. angry

Getthewonderwebout Fri 10-Jul-15 12:56:27

I swear down has been used loads in emmerdale. Watch some old eps of that.

sillybillymilly Fri 10-Jul-15 13:03:03

My bugbear is the word 'man' at the end of a sentence ggrrrrrr .. thats in Eastenders too

TheWernethWife Fri 10-Jul-15 14:04:28

Agree with Kumiho - fed up of going into shops and being greeted with "Yallright" or even worse "Yallrighthere" - so bloody rude imo. This usually takes place when I've literally just taken a few steps into the shop, give me a chance to look round first, went into Next last week and I was approached three times in five minutes wtf. Store/shop managers take note.

SaucyJack Fri 10-Jul-15 14:12:46

Yeah, YABU.

Yeah, every sentence starts with yeah dahn Sahf.

Like, innit.

Gruntfuttock Fri 10-Jul-15 14:27:59

One thing that really winds me up is people who say "Yes no" in response to a question, when they mean "Yes". I have heard it a lot in programmes such as Escape to the Country. The presenter will ask the househunter something like "Is this kitchen large enough for you?" or "Do you like the garden " and almost every time, the reply will be "Yes no, it's a fantastic size" or "Yes no, it's perfect". I have never heard a man do that, btw, it's always women. If there's anyone here who does it, will you please explain why?

sweetgrape Fri 10-Jul-15 15:22:06

Thewernethwife that annoys me too. Do they not realise that it puts customers off browsing. If we want help we'll ask for it, otherwise leave us alone and let us browse in peace. I can't understand why they wouldn't realize how off putting it is, they must shop too.

SunnyBaudelaire Fri 10-Jul-15 15:26:19

" fed up of going into shops and being greeted with "Yallright" or even worse "Yallrighthere" "

I do hate that, when you go into a café or bar or shop and the assistant says 'are you all right there?' - it is so fucking annoying! What don't I LOOK 'all right'? What are you saying? do I look a bit loony or something?

Worst of all was my Sister's boyf saying it to me as an introductory greeting. OK he did work in a phone shop but still.

Now I tend to yes are you all right there too?

CrohnicallyAspie Fri 10-Jul-15 15:34:49

We used 'swear down' in primary school so over 20 years ago now. Don't think you can blame TOWIE for that!

Gruntfuttock Fri 10-Jul-15 15:35:30

Has anyone noticed how many young men e.g. shop assistants, delivery men, don't say "Bye", but "See you later"? confused I think that's weird, but so many do it.

Theycallmemellowjello Fri 10-Jul-15 15:40:48

sweetgrape - why on earth are you opposed to language changing? of course no one speaks like it's 1970 now...

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