To be absolutely gobsmacked by this wedding

(65 Posts)
daisywellies Fri 10-Jul-15 11:28:03

My friend is getting married in September. She is having a hen night in her local town, consisting of a meal and a few drinks. She is inviting 100 people to the wedding and all will be attending the ceremony, the meal and the party afterwards. She has not specified anything in relation to wedding presents, but if anyone rings her mum to enquire they have been told a gift voucher would be appreciated or have been given a list of small inexpensive things the couple need for their house and told anything off the list would be very welcome.
The wedding itself will consist of ceremony at lunchtime, followed by a meal in a local restaurant and then some dancing and access to the garden. There is no pre wedding dinners or post wedding barbecues.
The couple are paying for their honeymoon themselves.

AIBU to be shocked and taken aback by all this and to wonder what on earth is going on?

CalmYoBadSelf Fri 10-Jul-15 11:31:04

Unreasonable bastards giving you nothing to complain about or write MN poems in response to. You'd think they thought their wedding was for people to enjoy with them

Next thing they'll be having babies without showers and pushing presents

MissBattleaxe Fri 10-Jul-15 11:31:25

What's going on? where's the grabbiness? where's the greed? Where's the A list and B list and the moody bridezilla? Call this a modern wedding? Pah!

If I was invited to this wedding, I would put loads of money in a card and genuinely wish them well for being so bloody reasonable.

There's nothing here for me to get my teeth into. I'm off.

WorktoLive Fri 10-Jul-15 11:31:36

It won't be long before someone on here finds fault with it somewhere grin.

itsmine Fri 10-Jul-15 11:33:48

ah daisy you've restored my faith in people, that the whole place isn't inhabited by grabby greedy nutters grin

SwearySwearyQuiteContrary Fri 10-Jul-15 11:34:14

What madness is this????!!!!

DonkeyOaty Fri 10-Jul-15 11:37:03

DISCUSTING behaviour. I would go No Contact. Ugh.

RunRunAsFastishAsYouCan Fri 10-Jul-15 11:37:25

She hasn't specified if the meal will be split equally or do people pay for what they've had? Don't worry, there is still time for it all to go horribly wrong.

ChaosTrulyReigns Fri 10-Jul-15 11:38:09

Hmm. You haven't mentioned photographs. Thus us where us could all fail.

12345641 photographs while the guarding party is offered warm Echo Fails (25ml pp) plus a party back of cheesy wotsits to share until the Wedding Breakfast, seven abd a half hours after everybody's real breakfast?

Amirite?

Mulligrubs Fri 10-Jul-15 11:38:31

There is still time for a bridezilla hissy fit!

ChaosTrulyReigns Fri 10-Jul-15 11:39:19

See through the typos please. Sun is aglaring onto my notsofriffingsmartphone.

patterkiller Fri 10-Jul-15 11:39:22

Just wait, juuust you wait. There will be no free booze and she won't send thank you cards the instant the wedding days over. Come back then when you have something to gloat about. Your words are useless to me.

SchnitzelVonKrumm Fri 10-Jul-15 11:39:52

Where's the fun in that? So inconsiderate*

*Of Mumsnetters

sweetgrape Fri 10-Jul-15 11:40:19

Very disappointing this, I was looking forward to a right good bridezilla to get us through the weekend. She's being very unreasonable. confused

AlisonBlunderland Fri 10-Jul-15 11:40:26

Where's the unreasonable dress code?
Where's the ban on children and anyone with food allergies?

daisywellies Fri 10-Jul-15 11:41:07

Unfortunately the ceremony is at 2pm and the meal is planned for 4.30. Which means that if the ceremony is over by 3 and it will take us about half an hour to chat outside the Church and then wander over to the hotel, there will only be an hour left until the meal. Just enough time to enjoy a relaxing glass of wine.
I can't understand why she's behaving like this sad

TwinTum Fri 10-Jul-15 11:43:42

Yes, are children invited?

Viviennemary Fri 10-Jul-15 11:43:47

There will probably be a collection as you go in towards your meal and their honeymoon. Nothing under £100 per person will be accepted.

exexpat Fri 10-Jul-15 11:44:03

Next you'll be telling us that children are welcome and she's laid on an entertainer for them and is doing child-friendly meals at the reception, or something unbelievably inconsiderate like that. I hope she has at least specified an outlandish dress code?

FadedRed Fri 10-Jul-15 11:44:06

You'll be telling us next that she not having a £5000 glittery princess dress, 16 bridesmaids in puce strapless frocks, 3 very small shy/screamy flower girls, no guest dress code and no three hour photography session while the guests stand outside in the rain. Some people!!!! What are they thinking of??

SlightlyJaded Fri 10-Jul-15 11:45:46

I would just send a polite note telling her that you can't go OP.

Explain that you wish her well, and understand that it's 'her day so her way' but be clear that the absence of a wedding poem detailing why they want everyone to give them cash, was the last straw and just makes the day untenable for you.

Next thing they'll be telling people it's ok to bring their kids shock

molyholy Fri 10-Jul-15 11:46:09

Leave the bastards!!!!

QuintShhhhhh Fri 10-Jul-15 11:46:15

When finally you got a wedding invite, you could not even get your teeth in to a proper wedding thread berating the couple for their unreasonable-zilla behavior. What a shame! I feel your pain. sad

SoupDragon Fri 10-Jul-15 11:47:32

been done before.

EmpressKnowsWhereHerTowelIs Fri 10-Jul-15 11:47:49

Talk to the bridesmaids. If you're lucky they will all have been forced to spend £££ on something hideously unflattering that none of them will ever wear again.

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