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AIBU?

I've got a thread started in sn no replies - start it here?

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aninsecurewomanwhoisabitweak · 09/07/2015 22:05

As some people block sn topic?

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BlackeyedSusan · 09/07/2015 22:12

eh?

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ghostyslovesheep · 09/07/2015 22:13

dogs barking can not fly without umbrellas

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Pagwatch · 09/07/2015 22:14

People don't block SN topics
SN topics are ones you have to opt in to.

The SN section is slightly slower because it is obviously less busy.

What is it you want?

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Pipbin · 09/07/2015 22:15

I see what you mean. The SN topic is hidden by default so won't turn up on most people's active lists.

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Luckyluc · 09/07/2015 22:16

What does sn mean?

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TheHouseOnBellSt · 09/07/2015 22:17

OP I see you've got a really awful situation to sort out here....I've just seen your thread over in SN.

I hope someone here can help....would you like me to link the original or will you explain here?

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TheHouseOnBellSt · 09/07/2015 22:18

Having said that I almost guarantee someone with good knowledge WILL be along in SN soon to advise you....sometimes it's a bit slow there.

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InTheBox · 09/07/2015 22:18

Start your thread. If anyone wants to hide it then so be it but that's their prerogative.
The amount of "posting for traffic" that AIBU gets... join in!

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aninsecurewomanwhoisabitweak · 09/07/2015 22:18

I had a thread I started in special needs been there for 24 hrs and I was hoping for a bit of help
(ie mumsnet great support)
I know before special needs affected me personally I had an option to block sn topics - other people may have done that. Which means that they wouldn't see my question
I'm trying to get traffic (BUT asking a bit for 'permission' so I don't just pop the question in the 'wromg' place

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aninsecurewomanwhoisabitweak · 09/07/2015 22:19

Oops I type too slow
Yes please link who said that!!

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Pagwatch · 09/07/2015 22:19

Seriously - it's not blocked.
You just have to opt in to see posts about SN.

Post what you want - it's fine.

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TheHouseOnBellSt · 09/07/2015 22:19

You don't need permission OP. Just post away....someone might know how to approach it for you.

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TheHouseOnBellSt · 09/07/2015 22:20

OPs thread in SN

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aninsecurewomanwhoisabitweak · 09/07/2015 22:21

My dd is 20 and some of you may have read a post I've had in general health - she's got a rare degenerative form of encephalitis
It's affected the left side of her brain so her cognitive function is affected
Understanding is more or less there
But you can't talk fast or in a complex way.her speech is worse and she can't read and write
She's in rehab unit but it's not helping and she's upset being there. Self harming.
We want to get her home but need to sort out the assessment of needs from ss and look at guardianship and power of attorney while she has capacity.
Just keen on getting some support and encouragement and somewhere to ask questions?

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Pagwatch · 09/07/2015 22:27

We are applying for deputyship for DS2.
He is 18
So far we spoke to a solicitor who is helping us. We have the support of our Gp.

Are you dealing with adult services as well as SS?

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TheHouseOnBellSt · 09/07/2015 22:27

Are you in England, Wales or Scotland OP?

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Gruntfuttock · 09/07/2015 22:30

OP, do you mean respite unit, rather than rehab?

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MessedUpWheelieBin · 09/07/2015 22:31

Depends on your situation, but from an unhappy experience (sorted in the end, but really didn't need to have that fight on top of everything else.) I'd suggest getting health and financial POA under way swiftly, before going for ss needs assessment. Don't mention not having it. Register as her deputy, preferably with another family member.

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InTheBox · 09/07/2015 22:36

Have you i.e. your home and environment been assessed by SS?
You want to get her home so if SS is involved I presume they'd make initial checks to be sure that she'd be better of you with than in the unit.
Have you medical records of her self harm? If it's just something you've noticed - and not the doctors - then you need to get this documented.
In the main, SS don't want to remove children from their families and tend to require dire reasons to do so, so keep medical records / journals up to date. Do you visit often? Does she seem to have her own way of communicating with you? If you see an incoming shit storm then get everything on side but from what you've written I can't see why you'd be refused guardianship.

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MessedUpWheelieBin · 09/07/2015 22:49

Our experience was regarding LA wanting to be appointees in order to slot dc into inappropriate systems they had, rather than provide additional finance for the care needed.
All about money and it being in their opinion in dc's interests to head for residential care as early as possible as it was considered easier to adapt if done young.

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aninsecurewomanwhoisabitweak · 09/07/2015 22:54

That's exactly the thing we would want to avoid!
She's okay relatively now
Condition degenerative but don't know slow or fast (trying to get new super duper meds to slow down atrophy of brain)