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RosesandRugby Thu 09-Jul-15 16:05:21

I'm on the school ptfa. Today we had an outdoor event at school where everyone was invited to watch their DC. I helped set up tables and chairs at the beginning and to supervise the children during the event. I have all the usual disclosures required for supervising the children at the school as does my DH.

At the end of the event all the children were permitted home early and I helped to stack chairs and tables while the children got their bags. Once all the parents and children had left myself and my DH started to make our way to the doors of the hall to return all the chairs etc. it's something we have done dozens of times but this time a member of staff shuts and locks the door in our faces and shouts through the door that parents are not permitted on the premises. I pointed out we had set up and helped run the event she pointed to a new sign that says no entry to unauthorised personnel and she refused to open the door. confused

My DH said that if they're going to be like that then they can put their own stuff away and we have left leaving 200 chairs and 50 tables outside. I'm feeling a little bit miffed to be honest especially given they were begging for help this morning.

Do you think I am BU to feel put out? I'm unsure if I ever want to help them out again now. Have they just had too much sun? I briefly mentioned it to the head and she said it's a safeguarding issue hmm

WanderWomble Thu 09-Jul-15 16:06:57

Ugh, how rude of them. Tell them where to go next time they ask for help, and then explain why.


cashewnutty Thu 09-Jul-15 16:07:24

Well that Jobsworth was a bit stupid. I hope she had to put all the tables and chairs away herself!

JontyDoggle37 Thu 09-Jul-15 16:07:45

No it's a common sense issue - their lack of it....

LilyMayViolet Thu 09-Jul-15 16:08:18

Really??!!!! That's unbelievably rude! I would be extremely put out as well.

TheyreMadITellYouMaaaad Thu 09-Jul-15 16:09:41

Next time they ask for help tell them you would, if you could, but you can't - because they won't let you help.

What nonsense. No wonder you're miffed.

RufusTheReindeer Thu 09-Jul-15 16:09:51

I think they were being rude and stupid

I wouldn't help them out again

LineRunner Thu 09-Jul-15 16:10:52

They'll have to argue amongst themselves who's going to put all the chairs and tables away, then. Sort of shot themselves in the door there.

I don't think you deserved to be treated like that.

Leeds2 Thu 09-Jul-15 16:11:16

Silly. I would however tell whoever asked you to put the tables and chairs out that you had tried to put them away and were prevented from doing so. S/he may be feeling a bit miffed that you walked out without offering to help. I know that is far from the truth, but it might not be what they think.

RosesandRugby Thu 09-Jul-15 16:17:32

Glad to see im not the only person who can't understand why they acted the way they did. I've text the chair of the PTFA and told them that I obviously can't help anymore and explained what happened. I wouldn't help them again though I genuinely feel like they're accusing me of not being trustworthy which is gutting given the amount of times I've helped them out sad

WinterOfOurDiscountTents15 Thu 09-Jul-15 16:19:52

Is safeguarding the UK buzzword for any random hysterical response when even remotely connected to children? Or are they safeguarding the chairs, since youre allowed in when the children are there but you arent allowed to be alone with chairs? Maybe you have the look of a chair theif?

I wouldnt be remotely offended since they are clearly quite insane and that has nothing to do with you.

SayThisOnlyOnce Thu 09-Jul-15 16:23:11

Table a complaint with the PTA Chair. Odd woman doesn't have a leg to stand on.

feebeecat Thu 09-Jul-15 16:23:30

Safeguarding?? After the children had gone home? Who exactly was she concerned about & however did you manage to break out the chairs in the first place??
Madness. Hope they enjoyed tidying up, sounds like they'll be doing a lot more of it in future hmm

Theycallmemellowjello Thu 09-Jul-15 16:28:50

Presumably the member of staff did not recognise you? They can't just let any random adult in who claims to have been helping out at the event. It was badly organised, as a picture of you should have been circulated among the staff or someone who knew the volunteers should have helped you finish up, or at least thanked you for your time and sent you on your way. But teachers are busy so personally I'd forgive a bit of disorganisation. And the staff member in question behaved entirely appropriately: if you didn't have a pass and they didn't recognise you, of course they couldn't let you in just because you said it was fine.

TheReluctantCountess Thu 09-Jul-15 16:34:44

That sounds like madness. Don't help again, and make it clear why.

RosesandRugby Thu 09-Jul-15 16:36:55

She should have recognised me, my children have been at the school for 6 years and she has helped me with clubs I have run outside of school hours plus she attends the ptfa meetings occasionally. I can't see any reason why she's refused to let us in we had our badges on clearly visible and she signed me in on arrival. confused

ThumbWitchesAbroad Thu 09-Jul-15 16:37:48

What a stupid jobsworth reaction she had!

Hope she did have to do it all herself, how very bloody rude of her.

YANBU to feel pretty offended, all things considered and no, I wouldn't be helping again under those circs - well done, that staff member, 2 fewer volunteers for your school's next event, hope you're proud of your jobsworthy self!

Theycallmemellowjello Thu 09-Jul-15 16:38:19

Oh right well if she knew you and you had badges that seems very odd!

GinUpGirl Thu 09-Jul-15 16:38:27

I hope you left the chairs somewhere awkward!

Tizwailor Thu 09-Jul-15 16:38:41

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Chunkymonkey79 Thu 09-Jul-15 16:38:52

I would politely tell them to piss off if they want any help againgrin

CwtchesAndCuddles1 Thu 09-Jul-15 16:39:07

That is madness!!! Put it in writting to the head and chair of pta just in case sanity returns to the mad woman and she then decides to blame you for leaving out all of the tables and chairs!!!!

MammaTJ Thu 09-Jul-15 16:43:28

This is crazy beyond crazy!

RattleAndRoll Thu 09-Jul-15 16:44:47

Complete bonkers.

hedgehogsdontbite Thu 09-Jul-15 16:49:03

What the what now? confused

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