"Boobies" in nursery?

(118 Posts)
Sat32 Tue 07-Jul-15 11:17:11

The nursery that my 19 month old attends seems to think that it is acceptable to use the word boobies when telling my child to cover up. Apparently she likes to lift her top up and keeps showing her "boobies". I was horrified that they are sexualising her at such a young age when they could just as easily tell her that she needs to cover up. Does anyone else have this experience?

NickyEds Tue 07-Jul-15 11:29:37

Is it the fact that they're telling her to keep her top down or the actual word "boobies" you're objecting to? Not sure how they're sexualising her?? I'm always having to tell my 18 month old to get his mits off my boobies.

Jedi1 Tue 07-Jul-15 11:30:14

Is this like vulva / foof?! Do you want them to say mammary glands?

WorldsBiggestGrotbag Tue 07-Jul-15 11:31:08

Haha Nicky I'm the same, always telling DD to stop pulling at mummies boobies!

Itllbefiiiiiiiiine Tue 07-Jul-15 11:31:56

My son was breastfed until he was 3. He loved having a 'booby'. He was not sexualising it. hmm

ElizabethLemon Tue 07-Jul-15 11:33:23

My 4yo has always called breasts boobs/boobies...

NickyEds Tue 07-Jul-15 11:34:24

He's not bf! Hasn't been since he was six months old- they've just proved irresistable since I've been wearing vests in the hot weather. Not even sure what the AIBU is?

vvega Tue 07-Jul-15 11:34:24

jedi why mammary glands? she's 19months old, surely 'put your top down' would suffice.
'boobies' when bf is totally different confused

isupposeitsverynice Tue 07-Jul-15 11:35:12

Is it the word boobies that's bothering you? I don't personally considered it to be an overly sexualised word, but if you did I could understand it. There is a noticeable dearth of non-sexualised words for female body parts, can't imagine why. I think you're reaching a bit to suggest they're sexualising her though. If it's really bothering you ask them to say chest instead, but personally I'd try and let it go.

MissJoMarch Tue 07-Jul-15 11:35:27

I'm sorry OP but you need to unclench a lot bit.

Kids use the word boobies all the time and it certainly doesn't represent sexualisation.

RuralLifeIsntRubbish Tue 07-Jul-15 11:35:47

Why can't they just call it her chest? Boobies is a horrible word. I have a very lovely friend who insists on saying boobies and my children have picked up on it. I bloody hate it, and worry people will think they have got it from me. Ditto doggie. She has some twee word for ketchup too, that I can't quite bring myself to type.

I agree with you. They can by all means tell her to cover up, but telling her to cover her boobies is crap. Presumably they don't tell boys to cover their boobies. I feel ill having typed out boobies so many times. Dreadful word.

GobblersKnob Tue 07-Jul-15 11:37:15

More to the point, why can't she lift her top up? Do they also discourage little boys from showing their chests?

ApocalypseThen Tue 07-Jul-15 11:38:25

19 month old children don't have boobies - it's a really ridiculous thing to say. And certainly there's no specific reason for tiny girls to keep their tops down in particular. Calling her little baby chest boobies does imply that there's a level of modesty and discretion required of tiny girls for reasons not shared by tiny boys, which would make ms raise at least one eyebrow.

Gruntfuttock Tue 07-Jul-15 11:38:27

They should tell the child top cover up her chest. At 19 months she doesn't have "boobies".

AuntyMag10 Tue 07-Jul-15 11:39:00

Fgs 'horrified'hmm overused word on here. Yabu.

OurDearLeader Tue 07-Jul-15 11:39:40

But this is adults right? Not children? I wouldn't like it either. Chest is appropriate at that age she doesn't have boobies.

diploddycus Tue 07-Jul-15 11:39:51

YANBU. I wouldn't call a 19 month olds chest her boobies. "put your top down" would suffice.

This has nothing to do with breastfeeding or adult woman's breasts.

Teabagbeforemilk Tue 07-Jul-15 11:39:55

I like the word boobies. Ds uses it. He asked what they were when I was getting changed one day. I told they are my boobies. He refers to his own boobies, dh boobies etc. dd was the same.

It is not a sexualising anything.

Horrified is very over the top

RoboticSealpup Tue 07-Jul-15 11:40:00

Surely op's problem here is that small children don't have anything that could be construed as "boobies"? This reminds me of that thread a while ago where a mum was told to leave a swimming pool because her baby DD was just wearing a swim nappy and not covering her breasts upper body.

CheerfulYank Tue 07-Jul-15 11:40:31

I don't find it necessarily sexual but it is an odd word choice! I'd say chest or even just "pull your shirt down over your tummy."

midnightvelvetPart2 Tue 07-Jul-15 11:41:21

I think I know what you mean OP, in there's no need for them to use the word boobies when your DD does not have breasts & instead of making it about covering up in general they are making it about female parts that are widely considered to be sexual in nature. They are asking her to cover up a body part that she doesn't have yet because in the adult world breasts are for sex & later for feeding, but primarily for sex. So the implication is that she's being rude, when it can't possibly be the case at her age.

WorldsBiggestGrotbag Tue 07-Jul-15 11:42:31

I can kind of see where you're coming from as young children don't have boobies. They have chests. I'm not sure if it's sexualisation but it's an unnecessary word to use in that context.

Etak15 Tue 07-Jul-15 11:45:14

Please rural life I'm dying to know what the ketchup word is?!

Quinandthem Tue 07-Jul-15 11:45:55

I tell my dd to put her belly away.

Agree she doesn't have boobs. Although she does like putting my bra on...

BertrandRussell Tue 07-Jul-15 11:46:28

It's a) a ridiculous thing to call a 19 month old's chest "boobies" and b) a ridiculous thing to make a fuss about a 19 month old pulling their top up.

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