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AIBU not to pay her for a party she threw

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ahphoque Mon 06-Jul-15 21:04:58

Last week I was visiting a friend and she had been invited to a party by a new friend of hers. I had previously met this friend but don't know her particularly well ikywim. Anyways, since my friend had only recently met this woman, she asked me to go as her plus one and so I went along with her. The party was quite dull and the woman throwing it was a bit off with my friend and rather rude towards me so we left after an hour or so.

We didn't have anything to eat (she had laid out crisps and the like) and brought a bottle of (rather expensive) wine each aswell as flowers.

This morning I received a text from party woman demanding £5 to cover the cost of the food she laid out. Now there were at least 60 people in attendance and there is no way she spent £300 on food.

AIBU to not pay her as I didn't eat any of the food and already gave her flowers and wine?

hiddenhome Mon 06-Jul-15 21:06:40

Good grief, no you don't pay shock

BikeRunSki Mon 06-Jul-15 21:07:28


Was this a sort of pyramid selling thing in disguise?

HaleMary Mon 06-Jul-15 21:07:31

A friend of a friend retrospectively charged you for attending a party she threw, and to which you brought wine and flowers???

I've heard it all now.

jeanswithatwist Mon 06-Jul-15 21:07:32

the woman wanted some money towards some crisps etc? what a tight arse, she is embarrassing herself

Appleblossom82 Mon 06-Jul-15 21:07:38

No. Yanbu.

You dont invite people to a party and charge them for it after the event.

Stealthpolarbear Mon 06-Jul-15 21:08:36

If you consult debrett's you will find the appropriate response in this situation is to text "wtaf?!?!"

PuppyMonkey Mon 06-Jul-15 21:08:52


PuppyMonkey Mon 06-Jul-15 21:10:09

Sorry, I meant grin

Can't blinking see this phone any more, old git.

TheRealMaryMillington Mon 06-Jul-15 21:10:38

wow, some people are just really weird (not you op)
nothing constructive to say!

DinosaursRoar Mon 06-Jul-15 21:11:46

Text back "no" then ignore all other correspondence.

Smartiepants79 Mon 06-Jul-15 21:12:22

Where has this new trend come from?
When you invite people to a party/wedding/christening that you have organised you don't expect everyone to pay for the privilege of attending.
If you can't afford to pay for the guests, don't invite them.

MrsKoala Mon 06-Jul-15 21:12:27

Wow. That's a new low.

Text back something like '£5 for an hour of your company and some crisps? When i brought wine and flowers? Are you fucking shitting me?'

EugenesAxe Mon 06-Jul-15 21:13:02

Holy shit - no! What an incredible woman! Genuinely so shocked anyone could think this was acceptable behaviour.

Still shocked. YOU give a party; your choice. Can't afford it, suggest something else where your friends are reasonably clear about what they have to pay.

PoppyBlossom Mon 06-Jul-15 21:13:19

I think I'd actually say what jeans said, tell her you didn't have anything to eat and she's embarrassing herself.

QuestioningStuff Mon 06-Jul-15 21:14:26

What the hell? What a weirdo. Please ask her what the hell she's on about and tell us what she says.

TheNumberfaker Mon 06-Jul-15 21:14:53

Just ignore her or reply that you'll expect your usual £100 'party attendance fee' first...

DoreenLethal Mon 06-Jul-15 21:15:29

'There was food?'

hiddenhome Mon 06-Jul-15 21:15:29

Tell her she's a graceless scrounger.

scarletforya Mon 06-Jul-15 21:15:47

Send her a bill for the wine and flowers.

SanityClause Mon 06-Jul-15 21:16:08

Nope. That's just bizarre.

Maybe she's homophobic, and thought you were a couple, and was offended shed spent money on you?

Maybe she fancies your friend, and thought you were a couple, and is trying to chase you off?

I'll try to think of some more explanations in a minute.

Wristy Mon 06-Jul-15 21:16:18

Text back 'hahahahahahaha, I'll give you a fiver if I get my wine and flowers back!'grin

Wow, just wow.

lastnightiwenttomanderley Mon 06-Jul-15 21:16:42

Pay the £5....then send her a bill for the wine and flowers!

CrystalHaze Mon 06-Jul-15 21:17:23

Send her a bill for the wine and flowers.

Just what I was going to say grin

lastnightiwenttomanderley Mon 06-Jul-15 21:17:40

Love all the cross posts smile

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