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to expect a bit more support from husband?

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pgtipsy Sun 05-Jul-15 14:51:51

I was on citalopram for years for mild/moderate depression. Switched to fluoxetine during both my pregnancies as was told safer for babies, but have never found it as effective. Now that we have decided not to he any more children, I am making the switch back to citalopram. I started withdrawing from the fluoxetine this week and it has just made me feel crap: teary, tired etc. My husband went away on a stag do this weekend and didn't once ask how I was coping/feeling. I didn't think much of it, but then he didn't even call the kids to say goodnight before they went to bed. It's just made me feel crap! He's been banging on about the stag do for ages and I was glad he was going because he was so excited, but his friends all stayed over the night before and left the house in a tip for me to clear up. Of course I'm glad he went on the stag do because it made him happy. But am I being unreasonable to expect few texts to check how I am getting on with the med-withdrawal and a quick phone call to the kids? I don't know if I am just feeling too sensitive/vulnerable because of my medication switch?

AuntyMag10 Sun 05-Jul-15 14:57:43

Yanbu, the least he could do is call to check on his kids.

ThumbWitchesAbroad Sun 05-Jul-15 14:58:34

No, you're not. He's being a selfish arse and only thinking about himself and his jolly.

He should have checked you were ok, and if your DC are still young then yes, I would have expected him to phone them to say goodnight at least!

pgtipsy Sun 05-Jul-15 14:59:32

The children are 3yrs and 9 months..

SurlyCue Sun 05-Jul-15 15:11:11

Sorry, adult men stayed in your home and walked out without clearing up behind them? Including your DH? shock i would have photographed the mess and put it on facebook tagging each and every one of them in it! How dare they? In fact i wouldnt have let them leve before it was cleaned up. In your shoes i would call each of those men and express your disappointment in finding a mess in your home for you to clean. They should be ashamed and apoligise!

Your DH is showing a basic lack if concern for you. Is this how he is generally?

pgtipsy Sun 05-Jul-15 20:07:33

He's bit usually like that. I think I'm more pissed off because we were supposed to be going away on a minibreak (just the two of us) tomorrow but his behaviour has made me not want to. When we booked it he was very lacklustre compared with his excitement for the stag do! I'm probably being over-sensitive.

pgtipsy Sun 05-Jul-15 20:07:56

PS thanks everybody...x

AntiHop Sun 05-Jul-15 22:42:35

Yanbu. That's bad behaviour.It's not difficult to send a text and he has a responsibility to you as your partner.

Hope you feel better soon.

morelikeguidelines Mon 06-Jul-15 07:20:01

Agree with curly

Tizwailor Mon 06-Jul-15 07:50:28

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