To think that you stay with kids when they're sick?

(192 Posts)
DisappointedOne Fri 03-Jul-15 16:10:37

Yesterday a friend's husband posted a load of photos on Facebook of their 2 kids (3 and 1) covered in chicken pox and looking really unhappy. He commented that they were both really poorly, neither of them can leave the room and that the heat was making it so much worse - nobody sleeping etc. Lots of comments and advice on what to do etc.

Less than 24 hours later she has now posted that she and hubby are off to a hotel 6 miles down the road for a dirty weekend while "grandma deals with the whiny diseased kids". They left over an hour ago and granny has posted saying that they're still crying for their parents.

AIBU to be hmm about this. Poor kids just want mum and dad. All they're interested in is getting their rocks off. sad

namechangingagainagain Fri 03-Jul-15 16:14:48

Well a decade ago Id have agreed with you.... however I now regret not prioritising myself/my marriage enough so YABU. Its not like theyve been abandoned with a stranger. This trip may have been planned for some time ago.... and although chicken pox makes children whingy im sure their grandmother cam cope.

YUDOTHIS Fri 03-Jul-15 16:14:51

YABU to stick your nose in tbh, The kids aren't in any danger

DisappointedOne Fri 03-Jul-15 16:15:58

Grandma isn't local, btw. She's over from America for a couple of weeks. So the kids don't know her well.

YUDOTHIS Fri 03-Jul-15 16:16:42

Drip drip drip... still unreasonable.

Notagainandagain1 Fri 03-Jul-15 16:17:17

The kids are not being neglected so no issue really

Hope they have a good dirty weekend!

AuntyMag10 Fri 03-Jul-15 16:17:23

She announced on fb that she's going away for a dirty weekend away from her diseased kids. She sounds really tacky if anything. Who refers to their kids as diseased.

DisappointedOne Fri 03-Jul-15 16:17:26

however I now regret not prioritising myself/my marriage enough

So in these circumstances you wouldn't rearrange, you'd prioritise shagging over 2 sick kids?

elderfloweriver Fri 03-Jul-15 16:17:45

I don't understand why your post a picture of your ill children on Facebook, but chicken pox isn't the end of the world!

Whole family sound a bit 'washing dirty linen in public.'

elderfloweriver Fri 03-Jul-15 16:18:25

I'd DEFINITELY have a shag over two sick kids blush

DisappointedOne Fri 03-Jul-15 16:18:48

Drip drip drip... still unreasonable.

Unintentional. Sorry. I forget that this site likes chapter and verse upfront.

YUDOTHIS Fri 03-Jul-15 16:19:05

No thats not what she said, but if that was her only chance to spend time with her husband after it being arranged well in advanced she wouldn't be against leaving her kids with their grandmother. Jeez way to twist words. I agree she sounds immature and tacky but as for judging her decisions, Nope, Don't agree with that.

Orangeisthenewbanana Fri 03-Jul-15 16:20:43

I assume if Grandma lives in America, they may struggle to ever get someone to have the kids overnight. It's probably been booked for months and may be the last chance they get for a good long while. 6 miles is close enough to dash back if needed.

She might have worded it better though!

DixieNormas Fri 03-Jul-15 16:20:52

I wouldn't leave the kids if they were unwell and unhappy

Reginafalangie Fri 03-Jul-15 16:21:04

It's chicken pox.....not TB.

They will be with a trusted adult who I am sure has handled her fair share of sick children. I would imagine seeing grandma from America will do wonders for the children's spirits.

YABU to be so pearl clutchy.

namechangingagainagain Fri 03-Jul-15 16:22:06

Maybe or maybe not. Depends if the children are really sick or a bit whingy or not. Depends how easily it could be rearranged. Depends how grandparent feels.
Last yr we booked a "dirty" weekend away.... the night before one yr old ds4 had d and v...... should I have cancelled? Well I didnt. We had a great time. Grandma gave him lots of cuddles and cleared up vom. I wouldnt have done that with ds1.... but im less of a martyr now

TRexingInAsda Fri 03-Jul-15 16:23:18

YABU and really judgey with you 'dirty weekend' and 'they just want to get their rocks off'. How the fuck do you know what they want? And are you concerned about the kids, or the shagging? Mind your own business. The parents are best placed to tell how ill they are and what they need, and if that's staying home with grandma then so be it.

YUDOTHIS Fri 03-Jul-15 16:24:37

I hope I don't come across as being nasty to those who'd stay home by the way, what i'm trying to get across is its personal decision and horses for courses more than anything else. The kids aren't in danger and whether or not the parents stay home is neither here nor there, the kids are fine. beak out

Notagainandagain1 Fri 03-Jul-15 16:25:20

Are you jealous that they are getting their rocks off and having a dirty weekend? You sound it

DisappointedOne Fri 03-Jul-15 16:25:56

I assume if Grandma lives in America, they may struggle to ever get someone to have the kids overnight. It's probably been booked for months and may be the last chance they get for a good long while. 6 miles is close enough to dash back if needed.

Sorry, more dripping, but no. Other granny has both kids from Fri-Mon once a month for them to have a kid-free weekend. This is a bonus one.

Notagainandagain1 Fri 03-Jul-15 16:27:34

Nothing like a bonus dirty weekend grin

I wish I had that sort of set up with 2 loving Grandmas!

DisappointedOne Fri 03-Jul-15 16:28:08

Are you jealous that they are getting their rocks off and having a dirty weekend? You sound it

Ha ha. Not at all! My DH has been in Egypt for a week and DD is having a sleepover with my parents tonight so I'm happy bunny. Just struck me that I would't leave DD in these circumstances nor post it all over FB

YUDOTHIS Fri 03-Jul-15 16:28:15

You sound jealous OP.

LittleLionMansMummy Fri 03-Jul-15 16:29:17

Depends how long it had been planned for. Dh and i went away for a night while my aunt looked after 4.5yo ds with tonsillitis. However I didn't revel in and felt really shitty to leave my little boy. However, the tickets for a show and hotel stay were bought for my dh as a birthday present 5 months before.

SeraOfeliaFalfurrias Fri 03-Jul-15 16:30:02

Absolutely I would go, and have done so. DH and I booked a weekend in Venice for our 10th anniversary but DD1 came down with an awful bug the day we were meant to fly. She poured several litres of vomit into the back footwell of my car as we drove up the M25 to my mum's. We still went - my mum insisted. No need for everyone to have a miserable time and waste a good deal of non-refundable money. You only get one short life, every opportunity to have fun and adventure should be grabbed by the short and curlies. There are people other than you who are perfectly capable of taking care of your children, sick or not. To assume you are the only one who can do it properly or offer them comfort is nothing less than martyrdom and/or arrogance.

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