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Keeping dc off preschool?

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Esmeismyhero Fri 03-Jul-15 10:00:46

I have two dc that are in preschool for 3 hours a day. Yesterday and today they have said they want to stay home and color and relax so I've obliged, I've got work to do for a show on Sunday but otherwise I'm happy to have the extra 3 hours with them.

This doesn't happen often and dc start school in September so I know that after then they won't be able to stay at home if they want. But AIBU to think during preschool if they ask to stay home on the rare occasion then that's ok?

My dh is not happy with me and says they need preschool.

Bunbaker Fri 03-Jul-15 10:12:34

It's nearly the end of term and it's preschool, not school so I would let them. They will have plenty of years in full time education where you won't be able to do this.

Iggly Fri 03-Jul-15 10:13:24

Yes why not! It is not compulsory.

InexperiencedDisneyMum Fri 03-Jul-15 10:17:03

Your choice but my friend was like this with her Dd. When it came to school she was a nightmare to get into school. She wanted her mum to let her stay at home all the time. For an easy life her mum let her. She had a visit from the welfare officer as her Dd's attendance was 70%.

Esmeismyhero Fri 03-Jul-15 10:20:33

I've kept them off when they asked no more than 5 times, they usually love preschool but it's hot and they just want to relax. I feel the same.

Dunkyourcustardcream Fri 03-Jul-15 10:42:26

It's lovely you kept them home. They're only little for goodness sake. Silly husband.

Bragadocia Fri 03-Jul-15 10:46:38

I agree with you. Enjoy the last weeks of flexibility while you can. Have them at home.

Artandco Fri 03-Jul-15 10:52:35

I do. I have to travel with work often. Sometimes it's easier if I leave school age child with dh and I take pre schooler with me. Means we both only have one to work around. It's not compulsory and I figure I pay per term not per day, so they are still being paid if they don't attend. I do tell them before the day though

I also occasionally take eldest out of school also. Sometimes it has to happen as nobody in the UK so he can hardly stay alone. It's a private school though so no fines for not attending. I just explain why and tell them when he will be returning. We try and make it a fri or mon only so not too much missed. He is homeschooled when travelling

Esmeismyhero Fri 03-Jul-15 12:59:07

Glad I'm not bu

EnjoyTheSimpleThingsInLife Fri 03-Jul-15 13:03:16

YANBU My dd has been off for the last 3 days. I don't usually let her stay off but we have had a family emergency so she has been unable to go in.

I think it's fine you have let your dc have a break smile

ninaaa Fri 03-Jul-15 13:12:20

I don't think it is a good idea to allow them to stay at home just because they want to.

Whilst preschool itself isn't compulsory, by allowing them to stay home, just because they want to relax, they may get the impression that school also is optional and they don't have to go when they don't feel like it (like inexperienced's friend).

Also, it is so close to the holidays, it doesn't make sense to take a day off now for no good reason, when in a couple of weeks you will have them at home for six weeks, and they will have plenty of time to relax.

I don't agree with your DH either, kids don't need preschool, but having committed to sending them, I personally would only take days off for specific important events, or gaining a new experience that they would not gain in preschool e.g. visiting family, going away on holiday, or a day trip, rather than colouring, which is what they would be doing at preschool anyway.

morethanpotatoprints Fri 03-Jul-15 13:19:41

No problem at all OP, putting it into perspective none of our 3 went at all.
No form of schooling is compulsory whatever the age.

FieldTrip Fri 03-Jul-15 13:23:50

Missing a day's pre-school is no problem at all. I would be worried about what precedent I was setting for when they start school though.

Tory79 Fri 03-Jul-15 13:27:47

Ds has missed pre school a few times because we are doing other things, but I don't let him stay at home just because he's asked, because I don't want him to have the idea that it's his choice to go or not.

MiaowTheCat Fri 03-Jul-15 13:39:03

I kept DD1 off the other day when it was really utterly unpleasantly hot - just because the poor child was wilting in the heat so we all cowered around a fan all afternoon and then buggered off in a nice cool bath to play for ages.

I don't generally do it though (think DD1's missed no more than 5 sessions all year - including illnesses and a holiday)

Smokedsalmonbagel Fri 03-Jul-15 13:53:30

Enjoy and have fun!

FinnJuhl Fri 03-Jul-15 14:06:53

There's not necessarily a precedent. I was fairly flexible about when Ds went to pre-school depending on his energy levels or if we had other plans.

Once he started reception, he turned up everyday with no fuss at all. Make the most of the flexibility while you can!

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