Name change for obvious reasons. I need some perspective.
And apologies for yet another neighbour thread. Look away now if you don't like these. This is a genuine question. I am really scared, have to go to the police later today and want some support/advice.
We've had lots of problems with our neighbours, who moved in nearly 2 years ago (council house). We bore the brunt of it, because they are in the end house and we are the only ones with a party wall. We heard things that made me contact Children's Services - really extreme emotional abuse, we weren't sure whether physical or not. SS visited them for a while then seem to have signed them off. The abuse of the kids continued - sometimes even as the SS pulled out of the drive. The kids are clean and well presented and the man is cogent so we think he managed to convince them all was well and we were malicious neighbours.
6 months ago things reached a head and I contacted the NSPCC who got SS out again but no joy. Neighbour was recently arrested at 1 AM for some sort of violent affray in the house, and their two toddlers were in the midst of the action - but still not removed from the house. The police rang me to ask if I will give evidence, if it comes to it. I said I would. They also said, instead of contacting the NSPCC - which I have done in the past - if there are any more incidents, to dial 999.
On Monday afternoon the mother of all arguments starts and I can hear one of the children crying and shouting. So I do as told and ring the police. Surprisingly, they know immediately who I am and send two cars with sirens. The shrieking was so loud, the neighbour three doors down heard it and came out. Neither of them were arrested - and the children were left in situ. The minute the police left, it was all 'us against the world' lovey dovey again and they rush out in the car half an hour after threatening to stab eachother and him trying to throw her out and her refusing to go. (Car trips usually mean they return and get drunk or drugged up). The DV goes both ways from what we can hear. She is as violent as him and actually far more creepy and scary. She sometimes does this weird baying/screaming sound. Sounds like an alcoholic neighbour I had years ago when he hat DTs.
There was a lot of that on Monday.
An hour or two later, the man goes out into his garden, stations himself by our (high) fence, and according to another neighbour who went upstairs to look out, was stood bizarrely shrieking abuse about "the fucking neighbours" and "the fucking police" - at the fence. I went out for some of it but was so scared I couldn't stay there long. I heard a lot about knifing "the neighbours" and he said "I am going to shoot you in the head!" I have heard him loudly bemoaning the fact he can no longer shoot the house martens, which I thought at the time was said in case we were listening.
My (nice) neighbour was sat on her back doorstep, listening. She said she couldn't believe it. She said she would write down some of it, whilst it was fresh in her mind and she will back us up that it did happen.
OK so... death threats. That's as serious as it gets, right? Even if the person is mentally ill/drunk/stoned (and he may be all three). He is an unemployed man of about 50. He has a very loud voice and we are often treated to his lengthy rants in the garden about things not being what they used to be, how immigrants stole his job, how everything is fucking shit. Or that the world is against him. My husband heard this btw but like me, only a fraction of it. My 4 sons heard it - 2 are adults - and one, probably 2 of the neighbours. Sadly the neighbour who would have marched round there and lamped him had been working a night shift so he slept through it.
I know it was aimed at me as there was something about "fucking neighbours' unfounded allegations". My nice neighbour tells me there was something about a dog and a motorway - really weird stuff that made no sense.
Now the police had already been out once, and I knew the second they turned up he'd deny everything. So I thought I'd call 101 the next day. But Tuesday I was busy all day with my son at hospital and didn't want to call in the evening when the kids could hear. So I rang yesterday, finally.
They made an appointment for me to go to the police later today. The 101 operator sounded quite shocked when I told her about the shooting in the head comment.
So my question.....What will happen with clear death threats? Is it harassment? Something else? If it is a he said/she said thing - will the CPS run with it? Will someone now take us seriously and get those kids to a place of safety? The police certainly seem to be the first agency to take us seriously - the council just stonewalled us and kept them in situ. Shouting in the gardens breaks their tenancy agreement. Threatening neighbours does. Council refused to give s a higher fence and even commented how great he must be as he cuts his lawn!
We have logs of the trouble they have caused/noise/ASB going back nearly 2 years. The council did nothing. Gave them a secure tenancy despite it, in fact. Our lovely home we loved for 13 years has turned into a nightmare. Now the other neighbours are being impacted, too.
After I called 101 yesterday I went down the garden and saw that 6 fence posts have been ripped off (it was a bit we added to make the council's 3 foot high fence upto 6 foot - partly cos I have a dog that could jump into their garden or the field beyond, and partly because I felt very scared next door to them with a fence they could step over - especially the woman who usually presents as the most threatening of the pair).
He has ripped out about 20 foot of our fence and lobbed it into the garden. It has crushed a rose bush one of the last things my late dad bought me.
He has security cameras so the odds of a randomer coming into his garden to rip off the upper bit of fence and lob it in mine are zero.
I have contacted the council but no reply yet and they clearly are protecting these tenants - maybe embarrassed because they rehoused them despite another HA evicting them for ASB, as we happened to find out.
Longwinded, and sorry but... what is likely to happen? Does anyone think I am finally going to be helped and those kids are, more to the point?
I should add whilst ranting about the fucking neighbours/police/shooting you in the head - his toddlers were still awake and downstairs if not in the garden with him. We could hear them.
If it does go to court, how do I continue to live next door to these people in the meantime, as they will know I am giving evidence against them re. their child abuse but also maybe a second case, re. their threatening us? I don't understand why the council can't evict them, as how can I feel safe here, now?
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