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To be so so upset about a small scar

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Crossroads2 Wed 01-Jul-15 18:59:06

I'm so upset. My beautiful boy cut his head open last week. They glued it but the glue came off and there is a big hole on his face. It will be there forever. Will it ever close up? I can't stop crying. Tell me I'm being selfish and stupid over this.

ASettlerOfCatan Wed 01-Jul-15 19:03:03

Mine had a v deep cut in his head. He pulled the sodding glue out after 2 days. I paniced but 2 years on I can barely see it. You can get it glued again if you feel it needs it but don't panic. It's more rare for a small boy to NOT have had something like this happen. I estimate about 75% of mums I know with boys have done a&e glued head trips. All the kids are fine. 99% of scars are barely noticable.

Crossroads2 Wed 01-Jul-15 19:05:04

Thank you. It's big. They told me it is too late to reglue.

Welshmaenad Wed 01-Jul-15 19:11:25

When it's hesled you could massage bio PIL or coconut oil in yo try to minimise it?

My Dd has a little scar on the outside of her eyebrow where she fell in nursery and s pox scar on the inside of her eyebrow. Just part of the story of her childhood.

Welshmaenad Wed 01-Jul-15 19:11:40

Bio OIL sorry!

lljkk Wed 01-Jul-15 19:13:03

How old, Crossroads?

Cheerfulcharlie Wed 01-Jul-15 19:14:26

I'm not sure if you can use it on that scar but there is a product called Cica Care by smith + nephew which is a silicon that you stick on wounds to reduce scarring . I use it on my c section scar.

Mistigri Wed 01-Jul-15 19:14:35

My son had a fall as a toddler and although the initial wound wasn't huge he scratched at it and caused quite a bad scar. It was visible for a few years but we were careful with putting suncream on it (you have to be careful to protect scarred skin) and it's invisible now. He also has scars on his leg from a road traffic accident three years ago, and they are gradually fading although they are much larger (two operations).

Try not to worry - it will gradually fade over a period of years. Your biggest challenge I suspect will be stopping him from scratching the scab. For a couple of weeks we had to take DS out in the car to get him to sleep, because if left alone in his cot to go to sleep he would pick off the scab and make it worse.

ReadtheSmallPrint Wed 01-Jul-15 19:18:04

DS has a 'Harrison Ford' scar on his chin where he cut it open at 22 months and it was glued back together. He also has a few pretty deep chicken pox scars in his eyebrows.

DD has a huge scar down the centre of her chest from open heart surgery.

It's just one of those things. DCs don't stay 'perfect' forever. One day they will have gaps between their teeth and then great big adult teeth that are way too big for their 7 year-old faces. Next minute they have acne and before you know it they'll be covered in tattoos and piercings.

If you're very lucky, you'll live long enough to see them with wrinkles and grey hair.

Luckystar1 Wed 01-Jul-15 19:18:56

If it makes you feel better, I have a scar on my forehead about inch long that I got as a small child (around 1 I think). I never, ever notice it, and when I remember it, I quite like that it's there!

Bellebella Wed 01-Jul-15 19:23:47

Honestly it will fade and some children do get hurt and get scars. My sister has quite a few scars on her legs and her face where she was quite a scatty child and accident prone child but you can hardly notice them now. Scars do fade.

It will honestly bother you more than it bothers your son.

bgottalent Wed 01-Jul-15 19:26:55

I had several chicken px scars on my face but I can't even find them now. I think you can have plastic surgery for really noticeable scars but you would probably have to pay. My sister in law had a keloid scar on her upper lip and had plastic surgery. You can't see it now

Kewcumber Wed 01-Jul-15 19:28:20

I have a "Harrison Ford" (nice idea but wrong sex and not good looking enough) on my chin too as a result of an accident falling into a swimming pool and bashing my chin on the side when I was about 5.

It's still there and I'm 50 and I don't think anyone has ever noticed it.

As someone says we don't stay "mint in box" forever

LegoComplex Wed 01-Jul-15 19:29:43

I know how you feel, my DS (5) had a freak scooter accident earlier in the year and afte emergency surgery he's left with a noticable scar on the bridge of his nose. Try not to worry about it, I find i'm way more bothered by it than he is, he doesn't care a jot! they'll grow up with it as a part of them so be reassured it's unlikely to be an issue for your child. (also a few months on we've all got used to the scar and it's only really strangers who notice/comment) so don't worry.

StarlingMurmuration Wed 01-Jul-15 19:33:25

My DS had a nasty forceps cut when he was born, and seven months later he just has a little dimple on his forehead like a chicken pox scar. Other people can barely see it unless it's pointed out to them. Your DS is young, children's skin is very resilient. You may not even be able to see it in a year or so, and even if you can, it's just a war wound for him to impress his friends when he's older. Don't get upset or make him self conscious!

Flowerfae Wed 01-Jul-15 19:41:38

my youngest cut his cheek on a music stand at school and has got a scar...its thicker at one end, he's still gorgeous though smile

Anydrinkwilldo Wed 01-Jul-15 19:46:10

Scars add character try not to worry, he's fine and it will fade over time too.grin

ConstanceBlackwood Wed 01-Jul-15 19:50:20

My gorgeous DD had a horrid fall aged 2 and had to have surgery to repair her lip. She has a scar but is now 8 and it's barely visible. I was bereft at the time but it will fade. I've also had a bad facial injury (clumsy lot we are!) from a crash. If you saw my face at the time you would never believe I'd look normal again!!! But I had reconstructive surgery-the swelling went down and you would never know seeing me now. Please don't worry too much brew

MagicMojito Wed 01-Jul-15 19:55:11

Dh has a beautiful big scar right across his forehead and various large scars all over his body. I love every single one of them! They are apart of him and all have stories and memories attached to them.

Scars can be great smile

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