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to be sick of all the 'othering' on these boards?

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BishopBrennansArse Tue 30-Jun-15 17:48:55

I've just about had enough of this and I'm going to tell you why.

I'm disabled. My three children are disabled.
I am a member of this forum just as much as any other person here. My thoughts are just as relevant as yours. My family experiences are just as relevant as any other poster on this board.

How dare you tell me my parenting experience isn't relevant? Parents like me despite being a relative minority aren't that few around here. We have just as much right to share our experiences on these boards as everyone else, it is an open forum.

So how dare you tell me I can't post about cuts to disability provision, services and benefits. They are just as relevant as the experiences of the next parent. They have a place on this forum just as much as the opinions of others. How dare you tell me I can't mention experiences I've had with my children in public on 'naughty child' threads? When these things ACTUALLY HAPPEN and I'm trying to present an alternative view.

Yet you use phrases like 'SN brigade'. You tell us it's 'not about disability' when actually in real life yes it is no matter how much you might think it shouldn't be.

Undermining experiences I've had and other families like mine is downright ignorant. It's othering and bigoted.

I will defend my family forever.

How dare you.

pressanykeytobegin Tue 30-Jun-15 17:53:44


youareallbonkers Tue 30-Jun-15 17:53:49

I haven't seen any examples of this, but, no one forces you to use the forum.

AuntyMag10 Tue 30-Jun-15 17:55:20

I haven't see this op.

ollieplimsoles Tue 30-Jun-15 17:55:28

Why shouldn't you post about cuts to disability op, it sounds like it is something that would affect you?

Everyone can post freely and hopefully someone will come along on a thread and share your view.

Whats your disability if its ok to ask? Do you and your dc's all have the same condition?

nothingbutreble Tue 30-Jun-15 17:55:45

Well - I haven't, to my knowledge.

Your post is confusing out of context. Which thread are you referring to?

paulapompom Tue 30-Jun-15 17:56:08

?? Op can you explain who has said what to upset you, I don't understand the post, although I have apparently marginalised you in some way.

You can post on here, as you have proved by posting on here.

basgetti Tue 30-Jun-15 17:58:11

YANBU. Ridiculous current example is posters talking about SN being accused of derailing a thread about kids starting school in nappies! Apparently it's not about disability. There are some proper arseholes on this forum.

Methe Tue 30-Jun-15 17:58:18

I'm not sure who you think you are saying how dare you to me, or to anyone else for that matter.

I haven't done any of the things you list.

Have a word with yourself.

ghostyslovesheep Tue 30-Jun-15 17:59:48


BishopBrennansArse Tue 30-Jun-15 18:01:14

Ollie - I'm deaf. I also have mobility issues with the cause only identified by a neurologist last week. One child has slight hearing issues but no in the main they don't share my issues.

Press - back at cha and bonkers prime example of what I'm saying. Why shouldn't I post? I have the right to do so without being told my opinion isn't valid.

AnyFucker Tue 30-Jun-15 18:02:14

err, OK then

wouldn't this be best addressed to the people that have actually done the things you say they have ?

ollieplimsoles Tue 30-Jun-15 18:02:39

Have you any examples of threads this has happen on?

GoStraightGoStraight Tue 30-Jun-15 18:03:11

How very dare you.

WorraLiberty Tue 30-Jun-15 18:03:17

Who told you your opinion isn't valid OP, and have you taken it up with them?

AuntyMag10 Tue 30-Jun-15 18:04:25

Another thread blaming an entire forum for who knows what. Take it up with the posters themselves

BishopBrennansArse Tue 30-Jun-15 18:04:46

Nothing - Too many to count. Over years and years.

Methe - not nice being generalised about is it?

downgraded Tue 30-Jun-15 18:05:00

I haven't seen this.

I don't see why your parenting experiences wouldn't be relevant.

It isnt necessarily always about SN though, surely?

LashesandLipstick Tue 30-Jun-15 18:05:09

YANBU. I've noticed it too, someone commented "in the real world not everyone has ishoos" after myself and others had given frank honest descriptions about how we are affected by something. It's ignorant

morethanpotatoprints Tue 30-Jun-15 18:06:02

Do you mean those talking about cuts but saying they don't mean disabled people like your family but "others" is this what you mean by othering?
I too don't know what you mean but have been on a thread where this was mentioned before.
Is it the current one about being entitled, because that's just a gf in my opinion.

twirlypoo Tue 30-Jun-15 18:06:26

If you actually post with examples rather than having a rant I would imagine there would be a fierce brigade of mumsnetters behind you sticking up for you. As it is, your post is just alienating people and getting their backs up because your having a pop at "us" when it isn't actually something we have done!

BishopBrennansArse Tue 30-Jun-15 18:06:45

Any, Aunty - too numerous over too long.

goStraight - biscuit

MrsTerryPratchett Tue 30-Jun-15 18:07:12

The problem with TAATs is that no one knows what you're talking about. Sometimes this place can be great, sometimes not so. I've found great support with DD's issues and then sometimes the 'naughty child' stuff comes up. MN is a collection of individuals. Who generally don't like to be randomly attacked en masse for something, when they don't really know what it is.

NickiFury Tue 30-Jun-15 18:08:58

No it isn't always about SN but the mere suggestion of it as something worse considering in certain situations seems to provoke much dismissive irritation.

As for addressing it to those who do it, well personally I do, when I see it. However it's happening more and more, so hopefully this thread will bring attention to that.

nothingbutreble Tue 30-Jun-15 18:09:31

I can understand hat when an issue is sensitive to you then you tend to read twattish responses, not supportive OP flowers

But, mostly the support here for parents and children with additional needs is second to none.


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