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I wish DH and DCs enjoyed our garden as much as I do.

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MyballsareSandy Tue 30-Jun-15 14:07:32

I love the summer and really enjoy being outside in our garden. I like to eat out there, or just chill and chat with a glass of wine, or play basketball with the DDs. It's like another room, our house isn't that big so summer feels more spacious.

Yesterday I was out there on my own sad. Teen DDs were flaked over the sofa glued to ipads, one of them even had a fleece wrapped around FFS, it was boiling (London). DH got in from work, told me he didn't want dinner in the garden as he'd been bent double in a boiling loft all day and wanted to sit somewhere comfy and cool, so he flaked out on the sofa with the DDs.

Fair enough I suppose but I feel these light warm evenings are so few in this country that we should make the most of it. AIBU?

NomiMalone Tue 30-Jun-15 14:10:16

YABU I'm afraid.

You can't enforce your idea of what's fun or nice onto other people.

GinUpGirl Tue 30-Jun-15 14:11:26

Yabu. I don't like the outside very much. You can't make them think like you.

AudiR8 Tue 30-Jun-15 14:12:01

I have a garden and it never gets used apart from when I'm hanging the washing out, I absolutely hate being outside in this weather!

So YABU to expect others to feel the same way as you.

greenhill Tue 30-Jun-15 14:24:58

yesterday I was out there on my own sorry, but that's my idea of bliss.

YABU but have some wine from me.

chrome100 Tue 30-Jun-15 14:32:56

YANBU. I love being outside and sunshine is so rare in Yorkshrie that when it's out I want to enjoy it!

I remember having a friend as a child who refused to play outside. I could never understand how she could bear to be indoors.

NRomanoff Tue 30-Jun-15 14:37:00

Yabu. Dh loves the garden, I don't and I certainly don't want to eat outside. If you like it, do it. But don't expect everyone else to because its your preference

FraggleHair Tue 30-Jun-15 14:39:53


Can't understand why someone wouldn't want to eat outdoors on a lovely evening.

WorraLiberty Tue 30-Jun-15 14:40:15

YABU. I like sitting outside with a glass of wine in the shady evening.

But I hate eating outdoors and I don't like really hot sunshine.

answersonapostcardplease Tue 30-Jun-15 14:41:22

I wouldn't want to sit in it either if I was baking already.

ChocolateBreakfastBalls Tue 30-Jun-15 14:42:58

YABU, lots of us dislike this heat, it's not because we want to upset other people.

Profspice3 Tue 30-Jun-15 14:43:16

The OP never said she "expects" anybody to like the outdoors, just that she wishes her family also enjoyed it so they could spend time there together.

I'm in the same situation and find myself pottering around the garden while DP is inside enjoying the shade.

Totality22 Tue 30-Jun-15 14:47:01

As someone who doesn't have a garden (sob sob, although we do have a small terrace but it's not child friendly) I say YANBU, but I concur that not everyone likes the outdoors. Make the most of it - wine and a garden to yourself sounds like utter bliss!!

redfairy Tue 30-Jun-15 16:00:52

YANBU. I love my garden too and would be out there for breakfast, lunch, dinner and way into the long summer evenings. It kills me to see DS1 inside on his xbox, DH working nights sleeping days (fair enough) and DD2 hunched over her tablet watching Netflix. I sit in the garden like billy no mates wondering where I went wrong with my hobgoblins.

Backforthis Tue 30-Jun-15 16:03:33

I hate sitting outside so I'd be with them but can you turn it into a positive? Set yourself up with a drink and a book and enjoy the peace? Maybe get a big umbrella to give shade for them and they'll visit you!

Tuskerfull Tue 30-Jun-15 16:05:55

YABU. My mum is the same as you and my summers were always filled with snide remarks about me wanting to be inside.

MrsGentlyBenevolent Tue 30-Jun-15 16:06:11

Yabu. I lived a 5 walk from a huge, blue flag beach when growing up. My mother nagging and whinging that I had to go out and appreciate what I had drove me nuts - I'm not an outdoors person. I like the indoors, with unlimited internet and Netflix.

bigTillyMint Tue 30-Jun-15 16:10:27

Sandy, I'm with you! I love being in the garden all day and all evening if it's good weather. DH comes out in the morning/evening as he doesn't like being in the sunhmm and the DC come in and out. We eat outside in the evenings whenever we can - somehow leads to a more relaxed and chatty time too.

Wishmychildrenhadanoffswitch Tue 30-Jun-15 16:12:09

Yanbu. The slightest hint of sunshine and we eat outside. I'm mumsnetting from the garden right now whilst dh gets bbq stuff together for the beach.

Handsoffmysweets Tue 30-Jun-15 16:13:53

YANBU OP but then I love nothing more than sitting in my garden and DH and I are often out here well past 1030 most nights enjoying the weather. I do understand that the heat isn't for everyone as I know it can make some feel ill. Can I just ask other posters out of interest why they don't like being outside? I'm just being nosy!

Aermingers Tue 30-Jun-15 16:15:38

YABU. It's roasting at the moment I was out earlier and it was a relief to get into our cool house. Sitting in the baking heat is not for everyone.

ExitPursuedByABear Tue 30-Jun-15 16:16:45

Shove up OP. I'll sit and have a glass of wine with you, outside, on a beautiful summer's evening.

the naysayers are just wrong wrong wrong

MrsTerryPratchett Tue 30-Jun-15 16:23:46

My parents used to make me have dinner outside. Then laugh at me being scared of wasps. Happy days hmm Also, happy memories of horrible sun burn.

Shady, late evening, I can just about be bothered to indulge DH and DD but not during the burning heat.

I actually think there might be something genetic about how you feel about hot sun. It makes me feel physically ill and quite 'drunk' IYSWIM. I also hate wasps. Hate them the stingy, buzzy fuckers.

McButtonwillow Tue 30-Jun-15 16:27:27

Yanbu. I love my garden even though I'm not a fan of the heat we get the afternoon shade so today before collecting ds I had a lovely hour out there with my book. I quite often eat breakfast out there and we always eat dinner outside if it's nice.

My dc are younger though so they still like being outdoors. Like you say op if feels like having an extra room and makes the house feel bigger.

I'm sadly excited because I've just ordered a chimnea with a vision of being able to sit outside in the evenings well into the autumn smile.

BoyScout Tue 30-Jun-15 16:29:34

handsoff I have the kind of skin that burns instantly. So I have to lather myself in sun cream which makes me feel hot, sticky and uncomfortable. The sun beating on my fair head gives me a headache and hats make my head hot. It all just feels unhealthy. I worry about skin cancer and sunstroke.

Happy to sit in the shade though so I don't really get the indoors people, if there is shade available.

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