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to think this is weird, dh, 18months younger than me, refers to things as before his time, and other people that are his age......

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PigletCrisps Mon 29-Jun-15 23:15:49

he will say things about someone then say, he's my age [meaning his]

when I ask him if he remembers such and such from childhood days, he will say oh that was before my time, as if I'm a completey different generation to him or something

yes I'm 18month older,no big deal

I personally find this v odd, and quite weird really

ive told him I find it weird how he does this, and he things I'm being over sensitive
I'm not upset, he is a year and a half younger

but it's just weird

ShipShapeAhoy Mon 29-Jun-15 23:17:43

I think it's a bit weird! I'm 10 years younger than my dp and sometimes joke about him being a fossil but I'm very clearly joking. 18 months is nothing!

KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes Mon 29-Jun-15 23:18:00

Maybe he matured later so stuff you were into didn't yet interest him?

PigletCrisps Mon 29-Jun-15 23:20:39

well I was talking about food from my/our lol teenage years
but he does it about allsorts

maggieryan Mon 29-Jun-15 23:21:07

No I'd say he's delighted he's younger. My younger husband (year younger) remembers everything that I remember and refers to people as our age. Strange carry on

KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes Mon 29-Jun-15 23:22:13

Maybe he likes the idea of being a toy boy?

PigletCrisps Mon 29-Jun-15 23:29:35

I find it so odd they way he refers to people as being his age......

NormaStits Mon 29-Jun-15 23:29:58

Yanbu, 18 months is close enough when talking about pop culture, eg TV music food. There might have been some flash fads you don't have in common, like the summer giant gobstoppers were popular in my year but the year above scoffed at how immature they were. But on the whole, you should have experienced similar things. My DP and I are 6 years apart and we remember quite a few things in common.

OwlinaTree Mon 29-Jun-15 23:32:03

Was school very important to him?

PigletCrisps Mon 29-Jun-15 23:32:39

maybe he thinks he is younger than he is.....
if I was 5 or 10 ormore years older I could understand, slightly
but 18 monthshmm

I don't know what to say to him when he says this
any funny ideas

PigletCrisps Mon 29-Jun-15 23:34:14

no school wasn't v important to him

we didn't meet at school
we met as 21 and 22 year olds

whats the theory about school?

Pumpkinpositive Mon 29-Jun-15 23:34:24

This would only make sense if you were really young - like, under 20.

Incidentally, my younger cousin - by 18 months (!) - does this. It's a bit irritating perplexing, but at least I don't have to sleep with her. confused

She likes to play one upmanship games with people over the most inane things. Is your beloved like this?

Hobbes8 Mon 29-Jun-15 23:34:34

I used to work with someone a month younger than me. He used to tell me repeatedly that he was a school year younger (as I was born in August and him September of the same year). Like that matters when you're 30.

HappenstanceMarmite Mon 29-Jun-15 23:37:23

Sounds to cynical me as if he is rubbing in the age gap, insignificant as it is. Making a point. I'd ignore it and change the subject and/or act as if you hadn't heard the remark. He's trying to get a reaction.

ImperialBlether Mon 29-Jun-15 23:40:19

I agree with Happenstance. He's trying to make you feel rubbish for being a few months older than he is. Why he's doing it is anyone's guess.

OwlinaTree Mon 29-Jun-15 23:40:20

Some people who were really into school still see it as what 'year' you were. I have a mate who is like this when she talks about people 'they were in so and so's year' etc. So I thought it might be that.

ImperialBlether Mon 29-Jun-15 23:41:21

Tell him he reminds you of Adrian Mole, aged 13 3/4. That's about the age where you stop caring about that sort of thing.

PigletCrisps Mon 29-Jun-15 23:49:09

Lol at reminding me about adrian mole 13 and 3/4
I will actually say that next time

He is getting weirder
I've told him tonight i find it odd
And that it doesn't upset me but it is just weird

hes gone off upstairsto bed in a strop after saying he is going to start saying it more to bug me

he is now not talking to me

PigletCrisps Mon 29-Jun-15 23:50:19

Not sure he tries to play one upmanship
With me not noticed that to be fair

Pumpkinpositive Mon 29-Jun-15 23:52:37

hes gone off upstairsto bed in a strop after saying he is going to start saying it more to bug me

he is now not talking to me

You sure you've married an adult? shock

PigletCrisps Tue 30-Jun-15 00:00:09

Lol yes he is definitely an adult in age with a v responsible professional job etc

maggieryan Tue 30-Jun-15 00:11:17

How old are you? He sounds like a kid..

FinallyLearntToBudget Tue 30-Jun-15 00:12:06

Piglet my husband does this and the gap between us is about 19-20 months <can't be bothered to calculate exact number>.

All I know is that for a few months I will be 35 (say) and he will be 34.

So glad I'm not the only one who has to put up with this confused.

morelikeguidelines Tue 30-Jun-15 00:13:23

I have been done to do similar to dh as a joke - he is 2.5 years older than me. But it is deliberately said in fun, acknowledging the age gap is not really big.

The thing is he was the youngest in his family growing up and I was the eldest, so our frames of reference were quite different, I.e.He knew about all of the things his elder sister was into growing up, pop music etc, that just weren't on my radar yet. So he will talk about X record from early / mid 80s which will mean nothing to me, as I had to discover things myself as I got a bit older.

AcrossthePond55 Tue 30-Jun-15 01:24:01

Start telling him he's 'too immature' or isn't 'experienced enough' to understand things. Bring up a social or political problem, expound on it and when he expounds back, discount his opinion saying 'Well, you really haven't experienced the world yet 'at your age', have you?' with a pitying look.

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