A SAHM walks into a bar...

[Magalouf]

And goes to order a round, when one of the guys in the round comes up and says 'I'll get these, I've got a job'.

AIBU to be pissed off! I said it's fine I got it, but he was pretty insistent. I didn't want a scene. He's a friend of DH, who wasn't there at the time.

[missymayhemsmum]

YANBU to be pissed off as a woman paying her way, - but maybe give him the benefit of the doubt for trying to do the right thing? He may have assumed that as a one-wage family cash is tight, or your DH may even have given that impression, and he's trying to be a supportive and generous friend?

[Sallystyle]

Hang on.

Didn't we have this thread yesterday?

[Sallystyle]

Must have been a double as the other one had more than one reply.

[PHANTOMnamechanger]

deja vu!

[Iliveinalighthousewith2friendl]

Didn't see the thread yesterday so I can't pass comment.
Without knowing him. I can't know if he was bring patronising or Caring,
Are you offended that he would not let you pay your way. Or because he said being A SAHM is not a job,
That's just his uneducated ignorance. Being a mum with out s break must be the hardest job in the world.

[lostoldlogin]

being a mum is not the hardest job in the world. It is not harder than any of the following

being a soldier
being a surgeon
being coal miner
being a firefighter
being a deep sea fisherman/woman

ETC

As we all well know. It really is NOT that hard, I am sorry. Looking after your own children who you love? Not that hard. Really.

[lostoldlogin]

Sorry, and to reply to the original thread, I expect the poor guy was just trying to be decent given that he knows that as a stay at home mother, you are not paid a wage. What an asshole, eh?

[fuctifino]

The original thread was deleted..... op disappeared and it became a troll hunt if I remember correctly.

[TheDowagerCuntess]

I missed the other thread, but the OP doesn't say anything about SAHM-dom being the 'hardest job in the world' so not sure where that rant ^^ came from.

[Kytti]

lostoldlogin Bit extreme?

And as for "Looking after your own children who you love? Not that hard. Really."

Loving them is easy, being a good parent can be very hard. If you think it's a piece of cake you must have a team of nannies on board.

[lostoldlogin]

In fact I am a working single mother. Team of nannies! Ridiculous. The rent was in reply to another poster on the tread who trotted out the "being a mother is the hardest job in the world" claptrap.

[morelikeguidelines]

I thought it would be "a sahm walks into a bar".. .

"and then promptly falls down in a faint to realised she has got away from the house and kids "

[MrsGentlyBenevolent]

I think it was misplaced kindness/joking. I mean, if you are a stay at home parent, it is assumed you have no true income, therefore do not have a job. It's not a bad thing, a bit overbaring to offer to pay on your behalf though. I would have laughed it off, said something like 'I can afford it you know, I do spend money on things other than Baby Yoga and SMA milk '.

As for that 'hardest job in the world' nonsense, lost is quite right. It is tough being a parent, but not the 'hardest job', heck - it's hard work but not a job to start with.

[Blu]

Was he celebrating getting a new job?

[Dunkyourcustardcream]

I thought the same as 'morelikeguidelines' - if that was me in that situation I'd think great. No round for me I'll use the money for some nice bubble bath and a McDonald's for the kids. Cheers rich man with proper job.

[lostoldlogin]

Yes I agree MrsGentlyBenevolent it is not a job. Woe betide anyone who points that out normally though......

[TwerkingSpinster]

lost, as someone who used to work in a job considered hard by your list, I can tell you bullshit. Being a sahm has been by far and away the hardest thing I've done.

[StupidBloodyKindle]

It might not be the hardest but without backup/support it can be the loneliest.
Soldier
Surgeon
Firefighter
Coal miner
Deep sea fisherwoman

All these jobs, bar the last one possibly (pending crew or whether you mean the amazing female divers who free dive for pearls) are all team efforts so there is a lot of camaraderie there and breaks

[StupidBloodyKindle]

Ooh, twerking what were you? < nosey emoticon>

[SomethingFunny]

I would have just said thanks?!

[MorrisZapp]

Can we just get to a place where we can accept that 'job' is normal/accepted parlance for 'paid job'?

This man has a paid job, regardless of how easy or hard it is. OP does not currently have a paid job, regardless of how hard or easy her days are.

Fwiw I often buy more than my fair share of drinks because I have a better paid job than some of my friends. It's something I like to do and they're happy to accept, and not turn into some weird judgement thing.

My job is pretty easy, but well paid.

[NorahDentressangle]

I would say it's the hardest job too.
I think it's because you have such emotional investment in the DCs and how they turn out. Also lonely with no immediate reward.

A bit like saying looking after an elderly parent is a dawdle (assuming they are not needing heavy lifting) - no, being a full time carer is draining and hard (we must all have heard of carers' health failing due to the strain) - I think it's the emotional responsibility and the lack of recognition by others, the lack of immediate reward. This results in stress big time.

[Magalouf]

The original thread was deleted..... op disappeared and it became a troll hunt if I remember correctly.

Jeepers I'm not a troll! I mean everyone has a first post at some stage!! I replied a few times on the last thread and then let it be. I originally posted twice by accident, hence the reason it has seemingly reappeared.

Must work on my posting technique

[QueenBean]

Being a parent is tough but it isn't a job. Certainly not harder than many actual jobs either.

[Bonsoir]

Being a parent is as much of a job as you are willing and able to make it.