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timetogoyetagain Sun 28-Jun-15 17:55:05

WIBU in saying no to a drunken midnight booty call from 'OH' last night? It's the 3rd one in 2 weeks!! Now he's ignoring calls and texts...
Backstory - dating about 6 months, just started introducing friends and DC. Had DC in tears today because he promised to visit today and hasn't.

MarchLikeAnAnt Sun 28-Jun-15 17:57:00

YANBU he doesn't sound very pleasant, are you sure you want him in your life?

WorraLiberty Sun 28-Jun-15 17:59:41

'Booty call'? Ugh, sorry but that makes you and your boyfriend sound about 17 years old.

But to answer your question, YANBU.

Why would you be at the beck and call of anyone who suddenly decides they want sex during the early hours of the morning?

Especially if they're going to sulk like a child when you say no.

marriednotdead Sun 28-Jun-15 18:00:03

He is not giving me you the impression that he's your OH at all. Booty call = FWB in my book unless, at a real push, there are many other proper dates as well.

And now he's ignoring you? Not nice, he was out of order, not you.

Please pick up your dignity and walk away.

NerrSnerr Sun 28-Jun-15 18:02:29

How old is he? Not talking to you because you turned down sex last night? I would walk away, especially as his immaturity is affecting your children.

MasterchefIwish Sun 28-Jun-15 18:02:52

Sounds like he thinks when he says 'how high' you do jump. To punish you is bad enough, it is a bad omen of things to come. To do it to your DC should tell you OH should be an ex.

Only 6 months you have dated and already he is demanding and sulking when demands are not met. Do you wish this to continue? Because in another 6 months you will look back and see this behaviour again and again.

AuntyMag10 Sun 28-Jun-15 18:04:31

So he is taking out his disgusting request on your dc? Bin him. Do you really want someone like this in your kids life?

timetogoyetagain Sun 28-Jun-15 18:06:22

worral 'you're not bloody 17' is EXACTLY what went through my head when my phone started going off last night!

heatseeker14 Sun 28-Jun-15 18:06:33

YANBU. Tell him to fuck off, don't waste your time on this complete dick.

SilverNightFairy Sun 28-Jun-15 18:07:17

YANBU. Please consider how quickly you allow a new partner into your children's lives. If this man has your child in tears after only 6 months then you have more to be concerned about how than a booty call.

PotteringAlong Sun 28-Jun-15 18:08:21

If he's already reducing your children to tears for letting them down because he's sulking because you wouldn't have sex with him then bin him now.

Finola1step Sun 28-Jun-15 18:09:00

"NEXT!" is what you need to be shouting. Booty calls, fgs.

Lweji Sun 28-Jun-15 18:10:40

why was your DC in tears if they have just been introduced?

BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted Sun 28-Jun-15 18:11:11

Someone you are dating does not phone you up while they're on a boozy night out, or just after they've staggered in their front door and ask to come round for a shag. He's shown you some real disrespect and now he's let down your child and is sulking because of your quite sensible refusal.

The guy is a prick. Get rid.

Oldraver Sun 28-Jun-15 18:11:12

I'm in the bin him camp. He's punishing you for not putting out...how vile

Lweji Sun 28-Jun-15 18:12:01

Forgot to say LTB.

timetogoyetagain Sun 28-Jun-15 18:17:47

I feel like copy pasting all this to him grin

timetogoyetagain Sun 28-Jun-15 18:19:03

But seriously thanks for confirming my feelings, I've been not dating for 4 years before this so a little rusty.

BreadmakerFan Sun 28-Jun-15 18:20:27

He's ignoring your messages so you panic and drop your pants at being so grateful he's deigned to give you another chance...

timetogoyetagain Sun 28-Jun-15 18:27:22

breadmakerfan There was no pant dropping or panicking... nor will there be any in his future from me.

CheeseAndBeans Sun 28-Jun-15 18:28:27

Wow, what a prick. Bin him! A grown man sulking because you wouldn't sleep with him?!
But, YABU for using the term "booty call" grin

timetogoyetagain Sun 28-Jun-15 18:30:17

Lweji DC gets attached incredibly quickly and has a memory like an elephant. They recited word for word the conversation where he said he'd come on Sunday. It's Sunday, he's not here, they're sad. I should have stuck with my gut and waited longer for them to meet.

PresidentTwonk Sun 28-Jun-15 18:31:34

Please tell him to fuck right off. Now. Before it goes any further. What a cock weasel. winecakeflowers < for you have to deal with him

DejaVuAllOverAgain Sun 28-Jun-15 18:32:43

If he's like this at the start of your relationship then he'll only get worse. Dump him and find someone who'll respect you and not sulk like a toddler when you say no.

timetogoyetagain Sun 28-Jun-15 19:01:52

PresidentTwonk I think cock weasel is my new favourite term!! grin

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