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To wonder if I will ever be employable?

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DawnOfTheDoggers Thu 25-Jun-15 15:34:05

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QforCucumber Thu 25-Jun-15 15:38:45

not me but my DM, was a SAHM for over 20 years, until very recently really.

shes about to turn 50 - no work experience to speak of, has been interviewing for a year or so, but just been offered a bar job in the local pub.
Depends what you're looking for really, for my DM this is perfect she is new to the area, newly single after leaving my EA stepdad and looking to get to know people there so it will help with all of those for her.

OhNoNotMyBaby Thu 25-Jun-15 15:41:10

Can you go to college and get some skills? Even basic ones like typing for example.
Look for apprenticeships - they're not just for 16-18 year olds! You would be a perfect candidate.
Take any job (within reason), waiting tables, whatever. You will learn skills and will gain experience.

dixiechick1975 Thu 25-Jun-15 15:42:43

Could you volunteer then get a reference from that. A college course as well would be a good start.

BaronessBomburst Thu 25-Jun-15 15:43:55

Voluntary work is also a good way to get experience and references.

mmmminx Thu 25-Jun-15 15:44:11

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mmmminx Thu 25-Jun-15 15:44:33

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BlueMoonRoses Thu 25-Jun-15 15:44:56

What do you love to do? What are you good at? Can you go to uni as a mature student? Teaching? Nursing? Medicine? ACCA?

RealHuman Thu 25-Jun-15 15:46:25

Apprenticeships are not easy to get once you're older than young adult as there's not the same government funding.

dixiechick1975 Thu 25-Jun-15 15:47:36

Something like the volunteer admin one one on (Under vacancies, was emailed to me recently as dd Is a member) Says they will give up to date office experience and a reference. They are Devon based but lots of charities must do similar.

CoffeeAndBiscuitsPlease Thu 25-Jun-15 15:49:08

I've worked all my life and still do now I'm a mother, and despite my in work training, and degree and experience, I still can't better myself. It's horrible.

The job market is shit all round. In my opinion you've just gotta keep pushing until somebody "likes the look of you"

WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant Thu 25-Jun-15 15:51:08

Volunteer. Pick a nice charity shop that works for a good cause.
Barnardos? As you have kids.
RSPCA if you like animals?
They have all kinds of stuff that needs doing, not just sitting around waiting for customers!

Take a term-time job if you are in a student town. I guess students will pick the holiday ones, but there may be term time places. Student cafe/bar?
Library? Bookshop?

Train for a carer role? Nursing homes round here are always short of decent staff, who know how to,look after people (oh, look. That's what you have done for the last 20 years, and not been paid for!)

It depends if you want a job for 'social' reasons? Other people to,talk to? Reason to be up and dressed by 8?

Or for money? You could take up a craft, and sell your creations at craft shows? Or ebay/etsy...

Go and have a chat with a job centre. They can sometimes be useful. Honest. But decide why you want a job/ what you want from a job before hand.

Good luck.

girliefriend Thu 25-Jun-15 15:55:42

I think you probably have more skills than you realise, just by being a mum you have to be fairly organised, a counsellor, be able to negotiate, be able to cook a meal or two etc etc look at what you enjoy doing and what you feel you are good at and go from there.

There are plenty of jobs where lack of experience wouldn't be much of a problem as long as you are reliable and trustworthy. I walked into a home care agency and they more or less offered me a job on the spot, I had no previous experience but was keen to learn. From there have gone onto do my nurse training and have now been qualified 10 years!!

Oliversmumsarmy Thu 25-Jun-15 16:00:50

If no one will employ you why don't you employ your self? Start with something small like selling on eBay then you don't know where it leads. Friend trades in a particular brand of furniture online. Fell into it really when she bought a sofa on EBay but found it came with several chairs, she sold those and then bought something else then sold that and she now employs her dh. Another buys and sells clothes.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome Thu 25-Jun-15 16:07:16

HGV licence. Get your feet under the table with a big fleet and it's money for old rope. Only thing is that 90% of the job is reversing, so reasonable spacial awareness is desirable. You need cardio fitness and both eyes, and preferably both legs.
Cost about 2500.

U2TheEdge Thu 25-Jun-15 16:09:56

I feel the same.

I am waiting to hear back if I got an apprenticeship with the NHS.

They said they would make a decision at the end of the day (Monday) and I haven't heard anything. I started a thread in chat.

I am feeling pretty downhearted about it all. I just completed a diploma in health care and it doesn't look like that is helping me out much as I have very little hands on experience being a carer/SAHM for 15 years. I am guessing I didn't get the apprenticeship as I haven't heard back which just makes me wonder if I will ever get a foot in the door. Might have to revisit going to uni.

I could do dom care but can't do zero hour contracts. I did actually get a job recently but left the company due to extremely poor treatment and it is pretty obvious they hire anyone who goes for the job judging by the way their staff act.

OP I am sure that we will both get something eventually.

NotYouNaanBread Thu 25-Jun-15 16:59:49

I would recommend an apprenticeship. It's a great way of getting training and experience at the same time, especially if you're starting from practically zero.

You have to get minimum wage, and a minimum of 17 hours a week. They have to provide all the training and they get a grant from the government to cover your training costs (if you haven't already got a degree) and they also get £1500 towards your pay - it's a great scheme for employers. You are guaranteed the job for the duration of the apprenticeship - they can't let you go half way through.

Don't be afraid to contact people you would like to work with - not people who are inundated like Oxfam, but if there is a nice printer, or accountancy firm, or marketing firm or whatever near you, why not find out the name of the owner and email them and say that you are looking to get back to work, you are 38 years old (or whatever you are) and looking for an apprenticeship.

SAY that you are aware that they will be able to claim back a lot of the costs from the government (don't assume that they already know this), and would they consider taking you on for an apprenticeship in business administration/book keeping/digital marketing etc.

The job centre will also help you get a work placement for 8 weeks if you go on JSA.

Scroll down to Types of Apprentices here -

Some employers advertise apprenticeships, but billions of them don't know what a good deal it is to have them, nor do many of them know that the Job Centre will give you free staff for 8 weeks, which is a BRILLIANT way for you to get your foot in the door of a good company. And while a 17 year old can be a bit of a liability, if they have any sense they'll be falling over themselves to get a free ADULT working for them. I used to be an employer, and I definitely would - I used to get sent some seriously hopeless cases, but always found somebody great, and nearly always used to take them on permanently after

NotYouNaanBread Thu 25-Jun-15 17:00:25

What do you want to do, by the way? What do you like?

SnakeyMcBadass Thu 25-Jun-15 17:04:28

I could have written this OP. I'm applying for anything and everything and volunteer at a local charity shop. It's demoralising, but I keep at it.

butterfly133 Thu 25-Jun-15 17:34:18

you say you'd like to do something for you, so I'm wondering if you have any idea what you would like? Would you be interested in working for yourself?

Charity shop/any voluntary work a good plan. You might not find anything interesting at the start but they are keen to find trustees as well so you could work your way to that.

U2TheEdge Thu 25-Jun-15 17:42:51

You don't get min wage for apprenticeship unless you have been doing it for a year.

For the one I have gone for it is 37.5 hours a week on the wards and the learning at home for £100 a week. I am 34.

U2TheEdge Thu 25-Jun-15 17:44:08

Sorry should have said that you may get lucky and get an apprenticeship with min wage but I haven't yet found any that pays over £102 a week for full time hours.

I did some research on it and it is only after a year they have to offer you min wage.

expatinscotland Thu 25-Jun-15 17:46:26

I'd start volunteering. And do a course in something where I could start working for People Per Hour to build up references and experiences.

LapsedTwentysomething Thu 25-Jun-15 17:50:14

My DM did AAT L2. She then got a job in an independent shop and began doing their bookkeeping. She had two further accounts jobs in manufacturing settings before working self-employed.

DarthVadersTailor Thu 25-Jun-15 17:51:54

In a previous life I used to work for a company specialising is helping folks in EXACTLY the same situation as yourself. Let me tell you, most of the people I worked with ended up employed so it is more than possible!!

A few tips.

1. DEFINITELY look for voluntary positions as PPs have said, it's a great way to earn a reference, gain skills and boost confidence in yourself. An employer will see that you are willing to work and have shown fortitude to get yourself out there, and employers love this! There are many roads to go down in this respect but Citizens advice bureau offer a wide range of positions and often you can gain an NVQ as well. Which brings me to.....

2. Look into what you can do to train. Would you be willing to look at education and gain a qualification? A basic IT qualification can go a long way, once again to the employer it shows a willingness and desire for self-improvement. Depending on what qualifications you already possess you could look to build upon those as well perhaps?

3. I would highly suggest that you either approach someone you know or a funded company like Maximus or A4e and try to gain some soft skills sessions and interview practice. It'll get you used to an interview situation (helps to tamper down the nerves) and help to gain that self belief....I often think that a confident candidate with the right attitude often trumps someone with superior experience/qualifications but no real passion or drive. Granted it is hard to get the interview in the 1st place but you want to be prepared when you do.

4. Make sure that CV is as good as it can be. Ask friends to review it, ask for opinions, speak to recruitment consultants who see them every day for their advice, and play up every bit of experience you have. Remember that many skills as a parent are transferrable to the workplace so don't think that you have zero experience because this isn't the case!!!

5. Be prepared for it to possibly take some time to get where you want. Overnight things like this leap don't happen & if they did they wouldn't be worth it.

Good luck OP. You CAN do this!!! grin

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