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To be pissed off and feel my friend is a little ungrateful?

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theblairbitchproject Wed 24-Jun-15 21:44:08

It was my friends birthday last Monday (15th) and I took her out for dinner 3 days before on the Friday night- I paid for everything. She was off for a week last week and has been a bit stand offish with me since Monday- assumed she had a bad week (home life isn't great at the moment) and thought nothing more of it.

Then overheard her today bad mouthing me because I neglected to send her a text to wish her happy birthday.

AIBU to be a little pissed off and feel she is being ungrateful? She did send me a text to thank me for the dinner afterwards and I wouldn't put her down as an ungrateful person in general- just a little sensitive perhaps.

Aeroflotgirl Wed 24-Jun-15 21:46:06

That would make me think tgat bit less of her tbh, she sounds very childish.

PurpleSwift Wed 24-Jun-15 21:49:16

Yanbu so childish and yes, ungrateful

RabbitSaysWoof Wed 24-Jun-15 22:08:07

That's ridiculous a meal trumps a text. She sounds like a dick.

nikinaki Wed 24-Jun-15 22:24:44

YANBU. She's incredibly ungrateful in this situation. I probably would have sent a text on the actual day too, but you definitely did nothing wrong. You should subtly remind her of the meal you paid for!

MiddleAgedandConfused Wed 24-Jun-15 22:50:37

Yanbu! That must be really upsetting for you.

kissmethere Wed 24-Jun-15 22:57:37

Sounds like someone you can't do enough for. Does she usually act like a princess?

19lottie82 Wed 24-Jun-15 23:06:19

It depends. How close are you?

Did you mention her birthday during the meal? I.e. Have a good one if I don't see you?

Did she remember your last birthday?

3 weeks is kind of a long time.....

If one of my BFs "forgot" to even text and say happy birthday, if I always remembered theirs, I might be a bit miffed.

19lottie82 Wed 24-Jun-15 23:07:23

Sorry I read that as three weeks, not three days!
Yes, she's a bitch!

theblairbitchproject Wed 24-Jun-15 23:24:11

We're close. She's the only one at work who is a similar age so we get on well and have quite a bit in common. She does have some MH issues though and can be quite sensitive so I don't want to judge too much but can't help being a little pissed off.

HeyDuggee Wed 24-Jun-15 23:29:23

That's ridicilous. I wouldn't have texted in her birthday as I'm sure you already said it to her at the meal.

But even if you didn't, to bitch about you to others within earshot?

Says a lot about how much she values you as a friend, doesn't it?

CakeNinja Wed 24-Jun-15 23:30:29

I don't think YABU about feeling hurt she was bitching about you, you did a nice thing.
But I'm a bit surprised that you are close enough to go out to eat just the 2 of you but you didn't think to drop her a 5 second happy birthday text.
Not worth bitching about, definitely not, but why didn't you?
I mean, a meal is nice, but 3 days before my birthday isn't my birthday!

arethereanyleftatall Wed 24-Jun-15 23:33:55

It was lovely of you to take her for the meal out, but why didn't you text her on her birthday?

theblairbitchproject Wed 24-Jun-15 23:50:11

It's just something I don't tend to do! Weird maybe I don't know?! confused

The5DayChicken Wed 24-Jun-15 23:54:09

YANBU. Daft question, but was she aware that it was specifically a birthday meal rather than just 'your treat'?

She'll be mightily pissed off next year when she gets sweet FA grin

MajesticWhine Wed 24-Jun-15 23:58:10

She sounds a bit needy and a bit entitled. Don't bother next time. YANBU.

UglyBugaz Thu 25-Jun-15 00:03:31

Yanbu I would actually confront her if it was me

WaferInMyCoffee Thu 25-Jun-15 07:25:14

Do people actually text all their friends on their birthday? I would never expect texts on my birthday!? Did this friend get upset with every person who didn't text her Happy Birthday?

Sounds really, really petty and friends that get upset by things like this are just too much hard work...

GERTI Thu 25-Jun-15 08:18:44

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Aussiemum78 Thu 25-Jun-15 08:23:12

She is being ridiculous.

What does she do for your birthday?

BolshierAyraStark Thu 25-Jun-15 08:27:31

Well you know next year that you should simply text her & get her fuck all else, ungrateful princess.

CakeLady1 Thu 25-Jun-15 10:29:48

She sounds quite ungrateful. YANBU

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