BBQ at a wedding.....too tacky and cheap???

(149 Posts)
Janeymoo50 Wed 24-Jun-15 08:24:02

my wedding is booked for 3pm on a Sat afternoon. Tight budget (about 6K all in), roughly 45-50 guests for the whole day. Ceremony at 3pm, informal photos only, then a cream tea with cake, scone and cream, couple of small speeches. Guests will have a drink served straight after the ceremony and there'll be tea/coffee and more fizz with the tea. Then we're having a BBQ as the main food about 7pm. Not having wedding cake but hoping to do either a Krispy Kreme donut cake or some large pavlovas with fruit for pud. A couple of people have "made a face" when I mentioned BBQ???? Would any of you feel it was a bit tacky??

PotteringAlong Wed 24-Jun-15 08:24:58

We had a BBQ! It was great.

PotteringAlong Wed 24-Jun-15 08:25:37

Make sure there are places for people to sit and proper plates though otherwise it's a mess with posh wedding clothes.

NomiMalone Wed 24-Jun-15 08:25:51

I would love it.

Provided that there was enough food for everyone including greedy people like me. Nothing worse that being at a BBQ and all the rude quick people nabbing all the nice grub.

Congratulations in advance btw thanks

northdownmummy Wed 24-Jun-15 08:26:09

We had a bbq at our wedding and the guests all loved it. Lots of comments about it being a fun relaxed and informal day which is just the mood we were hoping for

SoupDragon Wed 24-Jun-15 08:26:23

I don't see a problem with it.

Maybe you can come up with a poncey name for it to satisfy the sneerers smile

CMOTDibbler Wed 24-Jun-15 08:26:27

I think a bbq which is food on a plate with nice salads/sides, and good meat would be lovely. Being chucked a sausage in a bun or a manky burger, less so, esp in dressed up clothes

Eastpoint Wed 24-Jun-15 08:26:38

We had a bbq 21 years ago, no problem at all

SoupDragon Wed 24-Jun-15 08:27:07

It's not that different from a hog roast really is it?

Seriouslyffs Wed 24-Jun-15 08:27:44

The face pullers are very rude!
What are the logistics of a BBQ- I always find it expensive and who would cook it? A hog roast might be cheaper and easier to organise.

patterkiller Wed 24-Jun-15 08:27:46

I would love to be a guest it sounds lovely.

DoJo Wed 24-Jun-15 08:28:28

Tell anyone who makes a face that you assume they will not want to come and invite someone who will be happy for you! I'm usually all for accommodating guests where possible, but someone who is negative about your perfectly legitimate food choices should keep their thoughts to themselves.

SirChenjin Wed 24-Jun-15 08:28:33

I don't think it's tacky - I'm always pleased to be at the wedding of someone I care for, and don't care what they serve me on a plate.

That being said - I'd worry about being outside for a BBQ in this weather (providing it's outside), and of spilling ketchup/grease down an expensive outfit. Are you doing the usual sausages/burgers, or something more fanch schmancy?

flanjabelle Wed 24-Jun-15 08:28:46

Soup Dragon - I'm thinking a grill sounds better!

fastdaytears Wed 24-Jun-15 08:28:47

Ugh is it too late to disinvite the face-pullers? How rude. Your plans sound lovely and in any other context £6k would be a fortune to spend on a party. But because it's a wedding you should find magic money down the back of the sofa...
Stick to your guns. Not tacky at all (and nothing tacky about not wanting to put yourself in a ton of debt for one day)

DulcetMoans Wed 24-Jun-15 08:29:16

Do it! Just account for seating and shelter in case of weather.

It will be great!

BolshierAyraStark Wed 24-Jun-15 08:29:40

It's fine, I'd really enjoy that. We had a hog roast & that's not too different from a bbq.

BoyScout Wed 24-Jun-15 08:29:56

Went to a wedding with a BBQ and the food was fine. However, it was organised by each table going up one at a time to collect food. It took too long, we were one of the last tables to go and it's not very nice to see people eating while you're sitting there hungry having to wait. And by the time we got our food, the first few tables had long finished eating.

So just have a think about how to serve it!

Pumpkinpositive Wed 24-Jun-15 08:34:15

Sounds lovely. smile

What if the weather is bad? Is there a covered patio area?

GemmeFatale Wed 24-Jun-15 08:35:32

I love bbq. Retract the invite to the catbumfacepullers and invite me instead?

mmgirish Wed 24-Jun-15 08:36:04

I would be happy to have a BBQat a wedding! It's your day. Don't let people put you off because the have preconceived ideas about what a wedding should be like. Your plans sound lovely.

Nolim Wed 24-Jun-15 08:36:12

I have been to a werding bbq and ot was good

Hi5Hello Wed 24-Jun-15 08:40:06

We had a hog roast and BBQ.... It proved very popular

expatinscotland Wed 24-Jun-15 08:40:45

Sounds fantastic! I dislike the whole 'breakfast' (which is lunch or dinner) vehicle, speeches, 'evening do'. Glad to see this more practical format around.

RachelRagged Wed 24-Jun-15 08:46:42

Sounds wonderful OP

I would be more than happy as a guest with your plans.

Hope the weather is nice for you and you have a lovely day,

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