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AIBU?

Boyfriend Text From Ex

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Alice1983 · 23/06/2015 19:18

Just seen a text message from an Ex on my boyfriends phone. They don't normally talk (that I know of and I'm pretty on the ball) and it just says Hi how are you doing? What you up to these days? so like nothing major and he hasn't responded but he also hasn't mentioned it to me. They haven't spoken in years. AIBU to feel like texting her back and saying *k off? I am not going to but really feel like it (and feel childish for feeling like that)

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karbonfootprint · 23/06/2015 19:21

YABU, why shouldn't she text and why should he immediate report it to you? You sound quite dangerously over possessive.

karbonfootprint · 23/06/2015 19:22

Why are you looking at his phone?

NRomanoff · 23/06/2015 19:24

Hmmm. Not sure about this on the information given. Yabvu to be tempted to text somebody telling the fuck off because they dared text your bf.

How long have you been together?

You say you are 'on the ball' how do you know who he sees on a daily basis and why were you checking his phone?

When was the text sent?

The80sweregreat · 23/06/2015 19:24

She wants to get in touch with him I bet. Keep an eye on this. I guess your boyfriend will not resoond but if he did it will just make her think he is keen to meet up again. I may be wrong, but it seems odd behaviour.

WayneRooneysHair · 23/06/2015 19:24

Your boyfriend isn't a possession.

msgrinch · 23/06/2015 19:26

I text my ex boyfriend the other day, along similar lines actually. He responded though. I couldn't give two hoots what his new girlfriend says, we have known each other for 15 years, speak every few years and bump into each other occasionally. I have no interest in him romantically. Men and women can be friends with their ex you know.

Scholes34 · 23/06/2015 19:27

Don't you trust your boyfriend? If you do, what's the problem?

lemoncurd20 · 23/06/2015 19:28

So what? Seems like a fair enough text to me.

SoundsLegit · 23/06/2015 19:31

YABVU.

ReginaBlitz · 23/06/2015 19:35

I don't think yabu I'd be fuming! How do you know it was her? Why does he even have her number

Starlightbright1 · 23/06/2015 19:37

It sounds like you are possesive..Why were you checking his phone? Why did he need to tell you who has text? Esp as he hasn't replied

msgrinch · 23/06/2015 19:38

Why shouldn't he have her number?! he's a grown man, he can speak to who he what's. my dp speaks to his ex, they share a hobby. I speak to a couple of my exes (my first proper boyfriend as I mentioned up thread and my recent ex). Why is a simple "hi how are you?" such a big deal? I hardly "hi sex god, get your Knob out and ravish me".

snowglobemouse · 23/06/2015 19:39

are you 15, OP?

Unexpected · 23/06/2015 19:43

What do you mean you are "pretty on the ball"? Do you mean you monitor all of your boyfriend's texts, emails, letters, conversations etc? Why do you feel it necessary to do this?

namechangeagaimm · 23/06/2015 19:45

YANBU

Alice1983 · 23/06/2015 19:49

Ok; maybe I do sound overpossesive don't I but I'm really not. It just annoyed me; I don't know why. I was answering his phone and the message was on Whatssap so it came up. I knew it was her by the WhatsApp photo. He didn't have her number stored. We have been together 7yrs. Quite a while; I'm not possessive by the way but switched on; I would like to think I would know if he had something going on. LOL MsGrinch; no that was his other Ex texting him the other week... You are all making me feel bad now.

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UncertainSmile · 23/06/2015 19:51

Er.. Mind your own business?

Leviticus · 23/06/2015 19:51

Bloody hell OP (and Regina). It's hardly a photo of her vagina.

bloodyteenagers · 23/06/2015 19:51

I chat to most of my exes. Why shouldn't I? As two people knowing each other we were great. It was the chemistry that was shit. Best mate is an ex. Known him for 20 years. Another one, every so often will send each other an how's you message.

msgrinch · 23/06/2015 19:52

lol well if he received that text then yes, tell her to do one. Honestly on this try not to let it stress you.

Lozy79 · 23/06/2015 19:54

I have to admit I wouldn't like it, but I do text my ex occasionally.

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carabos · 23/06/2015 20:00

Why were you answering his phone and what does "switched on" and " on the ball" mean? Sounds crazily possessive to me .

mileend2bermondsey · 23/06/2015 20:05

I'm not possessive by the way but switched on Im on the ball
What the hell does this mean? This is not a normal way to behave in a relationship, especially one of 7 years.

Alice1983 · 23/06/2015 20:11

LOL because he is too lazy to..he would just let it ring and it annoys the hell out of me; he answers mine as well though if needs be. Seems more normal than I thought then.....I thought it was odd to be honest but must be just me then

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