To ask teachers, come on- is this code?!

[Balacqua]

Ds age 5 is at the end of reception - he was described during our parent interview as being overly emotional, easily frustrated, difficulties with hand writing, socially immature, doesn't use his words and gets upset, ... Doesn't put his hand up on the carpet and argues with friends. Also told he is academic ally able, good reader, good at maths.

Is this code for problem child?

[SoupDragon]

Why do you think it's a code?

[whois]

That's pretty plain speaking? Kid is fining it difficult and needs some support.

[nilbyname]

Um..... I don't think there is much to see beqtwen the lines! think the teacher has been pretty freak with you.

[OuchLegoHurts]

It sounds fairly straightforward to me...doesn't seem like code.

[PotteringAlong]

It's definitely code for pain in the backside.

Did you come away with a plan - acknowledging the problems is fine but did they tell you how to help him move forward?

[nilbyname]

Frank

[Picklesauage]

In would not say this is problem child, if anything I would say babyish / immature. Or perhaps a wimp. Although that feels too harsh for a 5 year old.

[Mistigri]

Hopefully five year olds who are struggling are not yet being labelled as problem children.

What did his teacher propose to help him?

[Muskey]

Definitely not code just the teacher telling you how she sees your dc. I wish more teachers were like this

[SaucyJack]

I don't think it could be less coded if it tried!

[BumpTheElephant]

It doesn't seem like code at all, the teacher has told you exactly how he is by the sounds of it.
It sounds like your DS needs a bit of support.

[Balacqua]

They were really nice about him, told us he'd have small group sessions for literacy and numeracy and that he'd have more responsibility with the new reception starters next year as well as access to some older kids who can mentor him. I just thought - oh God, is my child 'that child' and they are telling me so and I'm not getting it . Or wound they have been more forth right? He has never hit or been hit which gives me some comfort

[cuntycowfacemonkey]

Sounds like some very specific feedback about child's behaviour not sure why you think it's coded.

[Pantone363]

It's no code, it's an honest report instead of the usual cut and paste stuff!

[ShipwreckedAndComatose]

I think you are over thinking this.

[nilbyname]

What do you mean by 'that child'

Sounds like apvwlt school with a good read of your son and supporting him well?

[Balacqua]

Ok that's good. Do they think he's a pain in the arse then - I was worrying they were trying to tell me he is a kid with emotional behavioural difficulties

[nilbyname]

op they HAvE told you he is immature and overly emotional? What more do you want them to say? Are you worried it is more serious than you think?

[Floggingmolly]

A code?? They couldn't have been any more explicit What on earth do you think it's code for??

[Balacqua]

Yes I'm worried its more serious- history of as, adhd, dyslexia and generalised anxiety in the family

[Balacqua]

Flogging Molly- do read the thread, I think I've been clear

[PotteringAlong]

Can you make an appointment with the senco? It might be good to discuss your fears with them.

[MayPolist]

Maybe they think a bit of responsibility would help him act less babyish?

[nilbyname]

Ok, I think you should sleep on the information given, call up the school and ask for a follow up appointment.

YR to Y1 is a leap, so it would be good to know what they were doing to make sure he is supported.

Ask the questions you are asking here, the teachers will help you. Don't worry, your kid is still very very little. Try not to put too much pressure on yourselves

[Balacqua]

Id rather not- he seems to be ok, meeting all his elg except for handwriting and some of the social stuff, sorry I don't really get all of it