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To ask teachers, come on- is this code?!

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Balacqua Tue 23-Jun-15 18:12:48

Ds age 5 is at the end of reception - he was described during our parent interview as being overly emotional, easily frustrated, difficulties with hand writing, socially immature, doesn't use his words and gets upset, ... Doesn't put his hand up on the carpet and argues with friends. Also told he is academic ally able, good reader, good at maths.

Is this code for problem child?

SoupDragon Tue 23-Jun-15 18:15:12

Why do you think it's a code?

whois Tue 23-Jun-15 18:15:54

That's pretty plain speaking? Kid is fining it difficult and needs some support.

nilbyname Tue 23-Jun-15 18:16:22

Um..... I don't think there is much to see beqtwen the lines! grin think the teacher has been pretty freak with you.

OuchLegoHurts Tue 23-Jun-15 18:16:29

It sounds fairly straightforward to me...doesn't seem like code.

PotteringAlong Tue 23-Jun-15 18:16:35

It's definitely code for pain in the backside.

Did you come away with a plan - acknowledging the problems is fine but did they tell you how to help him move forward?

nilbyname Tue 23-Jun-15 18:16:44


Picklesauage Tue 23-Jun-15 18:19:35

In would not say this is problem child, if anything I would say babyish / immature. Or perhaps a wimp. Although that feels too harsh for a 5 year old.

Mistigri Tue 23-Jun-15 18:20:33

Hopefully five year olds who are struggling are not yet being labelled as problem children.

What did his teacher propose to help him?

Muskey Tue 23-Jun-15 18:20:37

Definitely not code just the teacher telling you how she sees your dc. I wish more teachers were like this

SaucyJack Tue 23-Jun-15 18:20:39

I don't think it could be less coded if it tried!

BumpTheElephant Tue 23-Jun-15 18:23:03

It doesn't seem like code at all, the teacher has told you exactly how he is by the sounds of it.
It sounds like your DS needs a bit of support.

Balacqua Tue 23-Jun-15 18:23:54

They were really nice about him, told us he'd have small group sessions for literacy and numeracy and that he'd have more responsibility with the new reception starters next year as well as access to some older kids who can mentor him. I just thought - oh God, is my child 'that child' and they are telling me so and I'm not getting it . Or wound they have been more forth right? He has never hit or been hit which gives me some comfort

cuntycowfacemonkey Tue 23-Jun-15 18:24:02

Sounds like some very specific feedback about child's behaviour not sure why you think it's coded.

Pantone363 Tue 23-Jun-15 18:24:36

It's no code, it's an honest report instead of the usual cut and paste stuff!

ShipwreckedAndComatose Tue 23-Jun-15 18:25:19

I think you are over thinking this.

nilbyname Tue 23-Jun-15 18:26:10

What do you mean by 'that child' confused

Sounds like apvwlt school with a good read of your son and supporting him well?

Balacqua Tue 23-Jun-15 18:26:13

Ok that's good. Do they think he's a pain in the arse then - I was worrying they were trying to tell me he is a kid with emotional behavioural difficulties

nilbyname Tue 23-Jun-15 18:27:24

op they HAvE told you he is immature and overly emotional? What more do you want them to say? Are you worried it is more serious than you think?

Floggingmolly Tue 23-Jun-15 18:28:42

A code?? They couldn't have been any more explicit confused What on earth do you think it's code for??

Balacqua Tue 23-Jun-15 18:28:47

Yes I'm worried its more serious- history of as, adhd, dyslexia and generalised anxiety in the family

Balacqua Tue 23-Jun-15 18:29:45

Flogging Molly- do read the thread, I think I've been clear

PotteringAlong Tue 23-Jun-15 18:30:53

Can you make an appointment with the senco? It might be good to discuss your fears with them.

MayPolist Tue 23-Jun-15 18:31:12

Maybe they think a bit of responsibility would help him act less babyish?

nilbyname Tue 23-Jun-15 18:32:13

Ok, I think you should sleep on the information given, call up the school and ask for a follow up appointment.

YR to Y1 is a leap, so it would be good to know what they were doing to make sure he is supported.

Ask the questions you are asking here, the teachers will help you. Don't worry, your kid is still very very little. Try not to put too much pressure on yourselves flowers

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