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AIBU?

About school trip photos?

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WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant · 23/06/2015 11:04

Ds and 2/3 of his class are away for a few days on a school trip.
Transfer to big school trip, kids not going to the local comp don't get to go.
Class bully/idiot is one of the ones who has gone with them.

School are putting a few pix up on their website, which is nice for us parents to see what they are all up to.

I will call the bully child 'Albert', to give him a bit of privacy...

This is the 4th time the class have been away. They have been once a year, all through juniors.

This is the first time Albert has managed to stay away from home overnight without his mum having to collect him at lunchtime on the day of arriving.

3/4 of the photos are of flaming Albert!
I appreciate he has finally managed to stay overnight (as the rest of the class managed at 7ffs... He is 11 now!)

But there are about 20 kids there, and we would like to see all of them enjoying themselves. Not just ds, we know most of these kids. Have done for years.

The pictures are some group pix (yes, obviously, they should contain Albert...)
But mostly single child or two/three kids working together.

First world problem, I know. But I am sick of his sneery face on nearly all the pix. Agghhh.

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WorraLiberty · 23/06/2015 11:14

You do realise separation anxiety happens to different age groups?

I don't know what else to say really. If you're sick of looking at this face, stop logging on to the website.

hedgehogsdontbite · 23/06/2015 11:18

You want to get a grip of your resentment of a child. It's pretty ugly.

MNpostingbot · 23/06/2015 11:30

Yeah, get a grip. Personally I'd prefer no pics of that sort of thing, but maybe I'll change when mine are a bit older and doing this sort of thing.

As for hounding poor old Albert.... He's a child!

WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant · 23/06/2015 11:30

Hedgehog, where did I say I was resentful of the kid?
Sick of him sneering in loads of pictures, yes?

Worra, I think this is worse than separation anxiety. It is a notable occasion if Albert manages a full week at school. He did recently, and got a mention in assembly!

I obviously mis-understood the pictures thing. I guess it isn't for the 20 sets of parents/family/friends of of the other kids. Just an Albert-blog.

I will go away and show no interest in my ds or his friends for the next two days.

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PandasRock · 23/06/2015 11:32

YABU

ghostyslovesheep · 23/06/2015 11:32

maybe it's to reassure his family that he's okay?

you sound rather intolerant and unkind - he's a child - being scared isn't a crime

littleducks · 23/06/2015 11:32

The member of staff with the camera/in charge of taking pics is also the one supervising Albert/his d group.

WorraLiberty · 23/06/2015 11:33

Worra, I think this is worse than separation anxiety. It is a notable occasion if Albert manages a full week at school. He did recently, and got a mention in assembly!

Well that's fantastic encouragement surely?

You don't have to say you're resentful of this child, because everything you've said so far, says it all really.

He's 11 years old for goodness sake.

PickleSarnie · 23/06/2015 11:34

He's 11. You're an adult.

WorraLiberty · 23/06/2015 11:34

And if they've still got 2 more days left on the trip, there's plenty of time for more photos of other kids to appear.

hedgehogsdontbite · 23/06/2015 11:35

Hedgehog, where did I say I was resentful of the kid?

You didn't need to say it, it's dripping off your posts for all to see.

SavoyCabbage · 23/06/2015 11:35

Yabu. The teachers are probably too busy to calculate the percentage as photos of each child.

Mehitabel6 · 23/06/2015 11:35

Why be so resentful?
Don't log into it if it upsets you.

Samcro · 23/06/2015 11:36

yabu
you have no idea why he couldn't stay away from home up until now

AugustaGloop · 23/06/2015 11:38

Most schools do not provide photos in this way, either when they are there or on return. When my DDs have been on school trips the only contact we have had are emails/texts to confirm they have arrived safely and updates on their ETA when they are on the way back. So you are getting more than most!

Also, if A has had some difficulties when he has been away, I suspect the school are deliberately trying to reassure his parents (perhaps they suspect in the past that the issues have been more with the parents). I actually think it is nice that they are doing this for the parents who are most in need of reassurance.

Mehitabel6 · 23/06/2015 11:40

I don't think it a good idea to have any photos.

hoobygalooby · 23/06/2015 11:41

I suppose you are being a bit unreasonable but I know where you are coming from.
When my DSS went on his residential trip 90% of the photos were of the same group of kids whose parents were in the PTA clique, the same kids who always got the lead roles in school plays, pics on school website, newsletter etc.
It grates doesn't it but c'est la vie!

schoolclosed · 23/06/2015 11:41

Our school no longer provide photos during trips - this type of complaint (when directed to teachers who are working day and night with no extra pay to help kids learn and have a good time) is one of the reasons why not.

TwinkieTwinkle · 23/06/2015 11:44

What a nasty piece of work you are!

meercat23 · 23/06/2015 11:53

If Albert has difficulties that mean he has not been able to cope with being away from home and a full week at school merits a mention in assembly then he may well have real problems that are far more than him just being an irritating and sneery child. If so then full marks to the school for persevering with including him and making sure he gets recognition when he manages situations he finds difficult.

deepdarkwood · 23/06/2015 11:53

So, there is one child for whom this trip is a much bigger deal, because it's the first time he's managed it. He's almost certainly a child who needs higher supervision and feedback than other kids - so is probably near the teachers/support staff a lot.

And you're surprised there are more photos of this child.

Bit of imagination, and it'll make more sense!

CatsCantTwerk · 23/06/2015 11:57

But I am sick of his sneery face on nearly all the pix

What a vile thing to say about a child, especially about a child who has had obvious difficulties in the past and is now overcoming those difficulties.

Just nasty.

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WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant · 23/06/2015 12:01

Thanks twinkle. I will return that advice if any of your kids get bullied throughout their school years.

Hooby, thanks. I think my explanation is probably a bit Worded badly. English is not my first language, so sometimes I get things a bit differently.
But I am glad you knew what I meant.

I am not upset with Albert (apart from the sneering in every bleeding pic).
The kids are with new teachers. Whole point of the trip.

Junior teachers are in charge at night, not day. They are on site, if any of the groups need them. Not with any single group all day.

School usually send update texts saying they have arrived ok etc. but they haven't done on this trip, hence checking the website.

If they wanted to re-assure Alberts mum, they would phone or text her surely?
My point was there are 20 sets of parents who would appreciate knowing that all the kids are ok?
19 sets of parents are not over-bothered about Albert, as he isn't particularly nice to the rest of the class.
But generally, we would all like to know that all the kids are ok, not just one kid.

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RedToothBrush · 23/06/2015 12:03

I have been doing some photos for a local group.

The thing is its surprisingly difficult to stop yourself from taking a disproportionate number of photos of one or two people and you really have to discipline yourself and make a conscious effort to take photos of everyone in responsibly similar proportions. Even then you do usually end up with more of a couple of people.

I think few people just taking photos of a day out would even give it much of a thought. Its down to pure luck about where you are within a group at any given moment rather than favouritism.

Aside from that YABU for having a chip on your shoulder about a child who is IMPROVING his behaviour and not currently being a problem. What is the point in him doing that, if grown ups aren't prepared to look past that and give him a second chance? Why not just write him off now for the rest of his life and have done with it.

Nasty.

WorraLiberty · 23/06/2015 12:04

If you want to know whether your kids are ok, why don't you phone the school?

And seriously, if you're looking at Albert's photos and all you can see is him 'sneering', I think you might be slightly paranoid.

Either way, there's two more days for pics of your kid and his mates to appear.

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